Age

[Skorpy]

20s are for having fun, 30s are for families.

I had my son at 21.... so thru my 20's, I still had fun. Having a family, doesn't mean you can't have fun

 

[dancingpotato]

I had my son at 21.... so thru my 20's, I still had fun. Having a family, doesn't mean you can't have fun

I know, I just mean no responsibility, no sprogs to take on hol etc.

 

[Niamh]

I had my son at 21.... so thru my 20's, I still had fun. Having a family, doesn't mean you can't have fun

Yeah, I had my daughter at 21 and my son at 25. It had it's pros and cons, I did miss travelling and stuff that I wanted to do but most of my friends are only started now having kids and my kids are at a nice easy age.

My daughter is almost 12, thankfully she likes to wear jeans and hoodies so I haven't had any problems with clothes so far!

 

[Shylala]

I don't ever feel my age, until I go out and see little 21 year olds running around being retarded. As far as what my daughter wears?

:willy_nilly:

 

[MoonOwl]

Yep, I too am old enough to be Dana's mom. I'd have had to have had him at 16, but hell, there is now a show glorifying being 16 & Pregnant........:willy_nilly:

There are days I still feel 16 and there are days - particularly if I've truly busted my ass in the garden department at work that I feel 60.

It's all relative.

I also agree that your 20's should be for you and your 30's for a family. But that's because that's how my life played out. Plenty of people start families in their 20's. But I do tell PBBB to try to make her 20's about her. Finishing her education, getting a job she likes, enjoying the lack of responsibilities that being a good parent entails. That's what her 30's are for.... Whether her life plays out like that remains to be seen.

 

[Dana]

Yep, I too am old enough to be Dana's mom. I'd have had to have had him at 16, but hell, there is now a show glorifying being 16 & Pregnant........:willy_nilly:

See that doesn't count... :24:

 

[Panacea]

I've felt old for a looong time lol. Never felt my age, not since I was a kid. I'd hang out with adults, I've never partied in my 20s, I'm responsible and mature. Let's see how my 30's go lol.

The first time I felt a generation gap though was when I saw a kid walking to the bus stop in 5 inches of snow in jeans, tennis shoes and a hoodie.

I was like...da fuck??? Wear some winter clothes! And I wapped him with my cane. :24:

 

[Dana]

I've felt old for a looong time lol. Never felt my age, not since I was a kid. I'd hang out with adults, I've never partied in my 20s, I'm responsible and mature. Let's see how my 30's go lol.

The first time I felt a generation gap though was when I saw a kid walking to the bus stop in 5 inches of snow in jeans, tennis shoes and a hoodie.

I was like...da fuck??? Wear some winter clothes! And I wapped him with my cane. :24:

:24::24:

 

[acctnt shan]

I've always made the mistake of dating older guys, I think it aged me early too

I wish I took more time to be stupid and just have fun during college. My parents' divorce prob played a part in it all too. I felt for years that I had to take care of my mom when my dad left. When my friends would be partying on the weekend, I'd be going home to make sure she wasn't sitting around the house depressed.

 

[Skorpy]

I also agree that your 20's should be for you and your 30's for a family. But that's because that's how my life played out. Plenty of people start families in their 20's. But I do tell PBBB to try to make her 20's about her. Finishing her education, getting a job she likes, enjoying the lack of responsibilities that being a good parent entails. That's what her 30's are for.... Whether her life plays out like that remains to be seen.

I suppose it is all to do with personal preference. Having children in your 20's mean they are old enough for you to then enjoy your 30's and the rest of your life to do as you please.

But, because I met my husband in my late 20's, I started again when my son was 9. lol. But I still enjoy doing what I want even now. Work, hobbies, going out when I please etc. So it isn't all that bad.

I can see both sides!

 

[MoonOwl]

I suppose it is all to do with personal preference. Having children in your 20's mean they are old enough for you to then enjoy your 30's and the rest of your life to do as you please.

But, because I met my husband in my late 20's, I started again when my son was 9. lol. But I still enjoy doing what I want even now. Work, hobbies, going out when I please etc. So it isn't all that bad.

I can see both sides!

There have been plenty of times I've wished I had been in my 20's when I had PBBB instead of 35. Body-wise. There are definite advantages to having your children when you're younger.

But the way my life played out I am an 'older' mom. Which works for me because I know myself. Most of my teens and all of my 20's were spent pretty much indulging my every whim. Responsibilities were few. When I was 25 I bought myself a Corvette as a present for not needing a carseat. I didn't plan on having kids at all. Had I gotten pregnant, I can't say I would not have grown to resent this little bundle cramping my style.

By the time I met PS and two years later we found we were pregnant, I was ready to be a 'grown up'. I'd always thought I'd have an abortion if/when the time came. But when I looked at that stick and realized I was indeed pregnant I wanted to keep it. PS was on board for it too so the rest is HerStory

Never once have I regretted our decision nor have I ever resented PBBB. I do believe (for me) that is because I spent my earlier years on me.

More power to those women who willingly choose to put children first earlier in their lives. I was way too selfish for that.

 

[satinbutterfly]

I've been old for a long time... since I was about 10 actually. 30 was difficult, just because I wanted to be so much further along with my life by then. But now my priorities have changes so now I'm hearing the clock tick tick ticking and it's starting to get to me. :willy_nilly:

 

[AstriaPorta]

I had my son when i was 19 .. i must say i miss out a lot didnt had the fun that a lot of 19 year old had .. but even if i didnt had my son still that will not change much been married at not even 18 do change a lot of how you act around people and what you do
anyways having a child young you have the good too ..i am 36 now and and my son will be 17 in April i am still young and have great time now too.

 

[Natasha]

More power to those women who willingly choose to put children first earlier in their lives. I was way too selfish for that.

Change the "was" to "am" and you've got me to a T. I have known since I was 12 y/o that I didn't want kids. I love children, I really do...and I think that if I ever had them I would be a good mom...but I like my life the way it is as far as being able to do whatever I want then I want w/o having to worry about who's going to get the kids to school or who's going to watch the kids while I go out to dinner w/ a friend. Yeah...that's just not for me. I don't believe in raising kids half-assed...so I choose not to have them. There are plenty of people out there that are willing to give 100% to raise kids, so I'll leave it to them.

 

[Dana]

Change the "was" to "am" and you've got me to a T. I have known since I was 12 y/o that I didn't want kids. I love children, I really do...and I think that if I ever had them I would be a good mom...but I like my life the way it is as far as being able to do whatever I want then I want w/o having to worry about who's going to get the kids to school or who's going to watch the kids while I go out to dinner w/ a friend. Yeah...that's just not for me. I don't believe in raising kids half-assed...so I choose not to have them. There are plenty of people out there that are willing to give 100% to raise kids, so I'll leave it to them.

I'm with you atm but like I said I'm open to others children.

 

[Natasha]

I'm with you atm but like I said I'm open to others children.

Same here. Realistically, it's going to be hard to find a partner at my age that doesn't have children. I'm okay w/ that.

 

[Jezzebelle]

I'm very glad I had my children early. I also think it matters a lot if you have a supportive partner and family to lean on.

 

[acctnt shan]

I'm going to want kids some day. I used to think no, but I've changed my mind in the last year or two. Maybe it's just the biological clock starting to tick or something, but I started getting real emotional tugs when I see small children, and I've already started thinking about different methods of parenting and whatnot.

It won't be any time soon, as I only just started my career 6 months ago - but I know that I'm going to want them in the next 5-10 years for sure.

 

[Natasha]

It won't be any time soon, as I only just started my career 6 months ago - but I know that I'm going to want them in the next 5-10 years for sure.

Now, see, I've been in my career for 11 years now (actually, it'll be 12 years this November). I decided long ago that I wanted my career to be my priority. I'm guessing you're younger than I am, though, LOL

 

[acctnt shan]

Haha yes. My career is always going to be a priority, I have no intentions of being a stay at home mom. However, I do want to start a family one day.