Abuser/leech at work

[rback33]

I think he just wants to talk to you.

Can you blame him?

Seriously... you have many good suggestions... some more tactful than others...

 

[Panacea]

I do, thanks guys!

 

[NoDak]

Thanks, I'm sure I could dream something up but it's the sending part that I struggle with lol.

Take a deep breath, line your cursor over the "send" button, close your eyes and "CLICK!" It won't hurt a bit!

I thought all you counselor types answered questions with questions. When he asks a questions. What do you think you should do? If silence wait. If no answer, tell him, think about it and get back to you. Put the burden on him where it should be.

And watch the buckets of sweat roll down the hallway!

I totally thought of this. "I'm willing to be your assistant if you put me on a payroll." :24:



Haha he's a counselor himself! Unfortunately it's not advice answering or I'd totally do that. He's asking me "Um, do you know where my client goes for treatment? I forgot" or "Um, do you have a note if I visited such and such in the jail? I can't remember"...

All the while acting like it just slipped his mind, but we ALL know he doesn't pay attention, skips work, and has zero interest in his duties.

Take a pad of paper and a new pen to his desk and tell him to start writing his shit down for future reference.

You could always go with the classic approach. I've tried it a few times, it works okay.

"You need to do your job, and I'll do mine. I'm not your bitch."

Love it! :thumbup

 

[Mystic]

Tell him that you are sorry but his calls are interfering with your ability to do your job, and should he require further assistance he should refer to any guidance or continuity binders that cover his specific duties and program.

:homo:excellent advice!

 

[teh_fuzz]

I had to "carry" this one dude i worked with in my last position.. it took once for me to see him clearly and bluntly throw me out into the wolves once to be enlightened to the bullshit he was pulling.

Some people will ignore hints and simply need nothing more than a good dose of asshole-someness to see your points.

The suggestions given here are more than good! but you must think of the after effects from it and think of the delivery.

Dont try and be sensitive to his idiocy by pulling him aside and telling him this in private, but at the same time dont go out of your way to publicize this.. perfect delivery of a message like the one you are trying to give him will ensure that he doesnt think "hmm, well she caught on to me" but more along the lines of "Oh shit, everyone knows I am a dipshit... FML"

 

[darkcgi]

I know this is old but I searched from an existing thread on the subject


I have always had problems with cooworkers everywhere I go
once they realize how smart I am they start relying on me to help them and get angry if I dont
just cause I was nice and helped them out its like it turned into my job
anyways

I have a co worker that is arrogant has snappy sarcastic little things he says to me
I dont like to put people on a levels but this office deffinitly does

He knows the stuff that knows it well but its just a little tiny chunk
to the extent I could learn in one class
(IT stuff)

I hate his rudeness and his attitude towards me.
He has food crumbs all over the floor and is a huge slob (did I mention arrogant)
He is late every single day and never ever takes his lunch on time.
He is pushing 400 lbs obesity

and my boss says he is like a cockroach with his mess

I feel sorry for him but yet I dont

 

[Galvatron]

No matter how you try and word this it all comes down to a simple fact they need to get on with their job and allow you to do yours....in a polite way explain you do not have the time to assist them in their work and direct them to their higher boss if they are having trouble in finding the answers for themselves...if they persist then just be bold and speak to their boss,people like this need to be pointed out to their boss as you seem to work in a area that needs crucial detail to attention skills and they will one day trip up and some vulnerable person could be at risk.

Be direct yet polite....if that fails tell them to go forth and multiply:thumbup

 

[Alien Allen]

piss on all the advice

be direct

tell him to fuck off and leave you alone

 

[Staci]

i would like an update pan

 

[MjaneGibson]

We had a similar problem at work with this woman who is in charge of registration of the students. She would call often to ask me or my coworker questions about what HER job entails. I work in the SPED office, mind you, and while I have knowledge on registrations simply from understanding how the program works, I am NOT the registration lady. It got to the point where she was calling sometimes 3 times a day to ask us about particulars of the whole thing. One day, when my coworker was having a less than wonderful day, she snapped and told this woman that she didn't know the answer to the questions she was asking and that she should stop! After about a couple of weeks, things were put into place which, unfortunately, absolved her from even more of her duties, by placing them into another person's responsibility.

However, she stopped calling us Try playing dumb...act like you don't know the answer or you're having a bad day and can't be bothered. Maybe after time, he'll get the hint that you are NOT the one that should be doing his job. If you feel like it continues, you can always pass along an anonnymous message to your superior

 

[darkcgi]

I avoid confrontation because I'm extrememly blunt
and aggressive
as of for now I'll just avoid him
not like he gets up much lol
and make it known to my boss that I'm not fonde of the wit

 

[Weebs]

Hmmm... at work if a problem should arise, I simply sound my air horn. It doesn't always work, but it IS very satisfying.

This doesn't help you.









I gots nothing......