What is UP with my kid???????

[pinkporridge]

im sorry to hear that.. i hope you find out and get that son of a bitch sent down.. this makes my blood boil!

 

[AUFred]

I'm glad to hear things have improved. I think I would go to her old school and have a conference with her teacher and the prinipal to find out if any other children have shown like behavior. I would not automatically assume her vaginal damage was done by an adult male. It could have been done by another child male or female. Children are exposed to a lot of things at an early age we would prefer they would never be exposed to and act out what they see. Good Luck with her improvement. I hope it continues.

 

[sophie]

AUFred, you're totally right. I haven't assumed it was an adult male, or any kind of male for that matter. For a while, I held out hope that maybe Soleil had accidentally injured herself on her bicycle or in the bathtub or something. We still don't know precisely what happened, but the doctor/nurses seemed pretty convinced that it was not something she did to herself, either accidentally or otherwise.

The school was alerted to the situation when I pulled her out of school nearly a month before the end of the school year (mid November). At the end of summer (end of January) I had a conference with the school to let them know that Soleil would not be returning to their school and that they should possibly investigate further internally. The police investigation involved talking to people there as well. I'm not really involved in any of that side of things.

 

[RedRyder]

Sophie ~ So glad that things are moving forward for you and your daughter. Not knowing who did this to her must be awful.

Children can be so resilient.

 

[AUFred]

AUFred, you're totally right. I haven't assumed it was an adult male, or any kind of male for that matter. For a while, I held out hope that maybe Soleil had accidentally injured herself on her bicycle or in the bathtub or something. We still don't know precisely what happened, but the doctor/nurses seemed pretty convinced that it was not something she did to herself, either accidentally or otherwise.

The school was alerted to the situation when I pulled her out of school nearly a month before the end of the school year (mid November). At the end of summer (end of January) I had a conference with the school to let them know that Soleil would not be returning to their school and that they should possibly investigate further internally. The police investigation involved talking to people there as well. I'm not really involved in any of that side of things.

I'm glad you did follow-up with the school for the protection of other children if for no other reason. I am glad to read your daughter is coming out of her shell. May be some day she will be comfortable enough to share what happened.

 

[AnitaBeer]

Good to hear she is coming back around. So sorry that lil girl has to deal with this at all.

 

[Veronica]

I am so sorry to hear this!! That is horrible. I really hope she starts to progress with friends at school. That is a horrible thing for a child to go through.

 

[Natasha]

I hate to hear that your daughter had to go through that, but I'm glad that the problem has been identified b/c it now means that you can work towards recovering from it. It sounds like you are doing everything right for your daughter. She needs love and support and, perhaps most importantly, some therapy to deal w/ what happened to her. All the best to you and your daughter...it will take a long time to recover from this, but I believe you will be able to one day.

 

[rilusite]

That sounds awful, I'm sorry to hear. Try to look on the bright side, when you two overcome this you will have a special bonding between you and your daughter than you overcame something so difficult as this. It's something that not many parents can say they have with their child.

 

[dkwrtw]

Perhaps she's been abused by another family member or something? that kind of thing can really mess a kid up.

 

[sophie]

The only family we have in Australia is my sister, and I know for a fact that she would never do anything to hurt Soleil. No matter who hurt her, it has really damaged her and the best I can do for her right now is to let her move on and not pressure her for information that won't really help her in any way. Totally hard not knowing, but I gotta do what's best for my little girl.

 

[dkwrtw]

It was just a thought, that's really the only kind of thing I can think of that would mess a kid up that way is some kind of abuse, that sure as shit isn't natural behavior.

 

[sophie]

Yeah, we've established there has been abuse, it just wasn't a family member. We don't know who.

 

[dkwrtw]

oh, I didn't read through the whole thread, that's just what popped into my mind, she won't say who it was?

 

[sophie]

Nope, and I don't want to push her into telling me. I figure she will in her own time. Meanwhile, we've moved and basically changed our day to day lives and don't really see anyone that we used to see anymore. She seems a bit calmer now. More relaxed. So even though I don't know WHO particularly it was that hurt her, it seems likely that it was someone we saw regularly. Therapy is helping both of us a lot.

 

[dkwrtw]

yeah, it's usually someone they know and trust, I'd fucking kill that person if I ever found out who they were.

 

[sophie]

And welcome to my mindset.

 

[dkwrtw]

well it's good things are calming down, the best thing is to try and put this as far behind you as possible, is that her in your Av?

 

[sophie]

That's the plan. Yes, that's her

 

[dkwrtw]

That's about the most adorable kid I've ever seen, I can't believe anyone would hurt her