My daughter nearly 2 now :O

[Under-Ground]

http://www.offtopicz.net/10814-my-daughter.html
A posed to that.


I broke up with my ex though
Times been flying the last year or so, something made me come back to this place :smiley31:
Hope everyone is doing well.

 

[COOL_BREEZE2]

Cute daughter. You must be very proud.
Sorry to hear the break up with your ex and hope ya'll would be fine.

 

[Ria]

Aww, she's cute.

Welcome back - have you split up long from your ex? It is hard when that happens, but time definately does change things and moving on gets easier too.

 

[Veronica]

awe! she is very cute!!

 

[Natasha]

Definitely a cutie...and she's grown so much!!!

 

[Under-Ground]

We have not been together for 8 or so months now, But who's counting
Na I'm fine with it now, Been through the emo thing - Out the other end, Very over it
She is very hyper when shes up but sleeps for 12 hours of a night and 2 hours in the day so you get plenty of sleep...
On going custody battle atm - I am going for 50/50

 

[Dana]

It's Spidey Baby! LMFAO

 

[Ria]

We have not been together for 8 or so months now, But who's counting
Na I'm fine with it now, Been through the emo thing - Out the other end, Very over it
She is very hyper when shes up but sleeps for 12 hours of a night and 2 hours in the day so you get plenty of sleep...
On going custody battle atm - I am going for 50/50

That's good - yeah, it takes time to re-adjust and some manage to do that sooner than others.

Hope things aren't too much of a hassle going through the custody thing.

Are you in America? I heard that some states there only do 50/50 custody. Over here, it's rare that that happens. I think it's easier to have the child in one place mainly to be honest though, because there's the upheaval of going backwards and forwards so much.

With schooling when the children are older, may be harder on them - I don't know as not been through the 50/50 custody, my son is with me all the time and has one weekend fortnightly contact, so it may be easy for me to say that.

Just my perception of it. I know with how my son is though, he would never have coped with 50/50.

Hope the court thing isn't too bad though.

 

[Under-Ground]

I am in australia, we had new laws come in awhile ago to allow 50/50, many people have used it now, My idea is not to have it happen for ever but until she can make up her own mind, I refuse to let any other male father any child of mine & i refuse to just give up and let the ex get everything, It is my views that it is in the best interest of her to have the 50/50 contact, Of course it will need to be stable routeen like and not all over the place,
Kids can adapt very quickly to a routeen of any sort. (Well atleast my daughter can)


I personally can not wait till my daughter is old enough to communicate with us and make up her own choice
We will need to live fairly close together and make sure she is in the same school and all that, so it limits me very much where I can live and where my ex can live.
But as for only weekends, no way ever would I rest for that

 

[Under-Ground]

As I cant find the edit button I will post whore a bit

What country are you in? I know every county is VERY different on the views of child custody...
I did in no way mean to push anything down your throat - I'm just very strong in my views there! lol
How old is your son now?

 

[Ria]

As I cant find the edit button I will post whore a bit

What country are you in? I know every county is VERY different on the views of child custody...
I did in no way mean to push anything down your throat - I'm just very strong in my views there! lol
How old is your son now?

Oh, I'm in England, so it's very different here hun.

Ohhhhh, please don't worry about what you posted - nothing wrong in that at all and I certainly didn't feel you were pushing your ideas on to anyone either, just striking up convo really.

LOL, I too have strong views about certain things in life, varied things, so you are fine. You have a right to say how you want things as much as anyone does, so no problem.

My son is a teenager now, but he still doesn't want to live anywhere but with me - he has a lot of say in how he has things though.

With decisions about his contact for instance - he decided to add an extra day to contact weekends. I didn't want him to, but he wanted it that way, so I went with it, so that he wasn't stressed or upset. So, that's what I mean by he has a lot of say. It's when it really affects him, that I believe in him having the main say, whether I want it or not - to a point though. My common sense will have to intervene for certain things, but we normally get things sorted out without too much hassle at times.

It's hard to get the balance right and each of us is different (as opposed to being right or wrong) with bringing up our children.

I hope things work out for you either way though.

 

[Ria]

I am in australia, we had new laws come in awhile ago to allow 50/50, many people have used it now, My idea is not to have it happen for ever but until she can make up her own mind, I refuse to let any other male father any child of mine & i refuse to just give up and let the ex get everything, It is my views that it is in the best interest of her to have the 50/50 contact, Of course it will need to be stable routeen like and not all over the place,
Kids can adapt very quickly to a routeen of any sort. (Well atleast my daughter can)


I personally can not wait till my daughter is old enough to communicate with us and make up her own choice
We will need to live fairly close together and make sure she is in the same school and all that, so it limits me very much where I can live and where my ex can live.
But as for only weekends, no way ever would I rest for that

I didn't see this til after I posted again.

I think England will eventually possibly, catch up with that system too, but when exactly I don't know and will probably be some time yet, if our government decides to do it that way.

Some couples already do it that way anyway - fine if they have split on friendly terms and split up through things just broken down naturally rather than through other reasons.

Over here, they tend to take on board more of what children want when they are about 10 years of age.

 

[SouthOfHeaven]

awe how cute!!

 

[Elle]

Awww, she's cute. Love that floor, too!

 

[GuesSAngel]

very cute!

 

[Under-Ground]

Thanks people

Yeah they do that here too, Thats why I can not wait till she is old enough for that to happen..
But the laws are more based her on whats best for the child till that time, and its become more 50/50 lately ..

 

[tinacolada]

preciosa!