Are Secret Admirers Creepy?

Goat Whisperer

Goat Whisperer

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I am young so don't react like I am so old women trying to get some young teen to love me... I am a girl asking a guy that I like. I don't know if I should or not. I really like him but, I dont have enough initiative to ask him out directly... I was thinking I would make an email adress and attatch it with the note, and have it say, if you want to get to know me, before you know who I am reply to this email _____ so that way if I decide I really a not interested in what he is I could just not tell him who I am. Is this a good approach? Would a guy respond to this or just forget about it? I am telling you if you say dump the crap and ask him out I won't do anythin I told you *not enough inititaitive* So do you think it would be creepy to send a secret admirers not or not? When you were young or if you are young,what you find this stupid or funny and make fun of me with you friends? He is a fairly serios kid so I don't think he would react that way, but with boys you never know... creepy or not? :confused
 
Peter Parka said:
Dunno, if I was single and got an e-mail like that, I'd probably thing it was some webcam spammer. Don't think I could be very interested if I had no clue about the person who sent it.
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I am not going to email it to him, I am going to give it to him at school. If he is interested I am going to give him an email adress to tealk to me through, to see if I really like him...

It is going to say

I luv you in secret

And I am afraid to say

I want you to be mine

This valentines day...

*secnd page*

If you would like to ignore me
Do just so,

If you would like to hear from me
I sha'll send more info...
 
Ok heres what i think... not always a good thing however... im gonna say it

If you have feelings for this guy tell him. your life anyones life is too short to sit around and wonder what if... make sense?

You never know this person could feel the same as you do, could feel even stronger than you do or not feel anything like you do. BUT any way you look at it you are taking a chance and finding out first hand and experiencing life at its best :D

(gawd i hope that made sense!!! :24:)
 
Keight said:
Ok heres what i think... not always a good thing however... im gonna say it

If you have feelings for this guy tell him. your life anyones life is too short to sit around and wonder what if... make sense?

You never know this person could feel the same as you do, could feel even stronger than you do or not feel anything like you do. BUT any way you look at it you are taking a chance and finding out first hand and experiencing life at its best :D

(gawd i hope that made sense!!! :24:)
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It makes sense and its a good tip and all.. just I have no initiative (will chiken out) and he is my team captain for the team I am on, so if I just tell him, it would make things VERY akward....
 
The thing about young love is it's usually puppy love. You don't know that much about him and you seem to have no goal to really talk to him in person. I think giving a note to the office to give to him is kind of insane. It is not the school offices job to play love connection for you. I'm not trying to be mean, I just want to put it into perspective for you. You say to not tell you to just go ask him out, and I respect that because I went through a time in my life when I was shy also. Here's the thing though, most guys are simple creatures and don't want the run around. If you want to get to know him then do that, get to know him. You don't have to ask him out right away or get anything further then " hey, how you doing?" if you don't want to, but I do think it would be smart to take a step in the right direction and atleast talk to the kid yourself.
 
Frozen Emotion said:
The thing about young love is it's usually puppy love. You don't know that much about him and you seem to have no goal to really talk to him in person. I think giving a note to the office to give to him is kind of insane. It is not the school offices job to play love connection for you. I'm not trying to be mean, I just want to put it into perspective for you. You say to not tell you to just go ask him out, and I respect that because I went through a time in my life when I was shy also. Here's the thing though, most guys are simple creatures and don't want the run around. If you want to get to know him then do that, get to know him. You don't have to ask him out right away or get anything further then " hey, how you doing?" if you don't want to, but I do think it would be smart to take a step in the right direction and atleast talk to the kid yourself.
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I have talked to him and so far we have had a lot in common. It's not like he is the cute kid that every girl is after, he is the captain of the Academic team :p. I just don't want to ask him out or pursue him to much if we end up not having enough in common, because then it would make academics team to akward, if he knew it was ME atleast. So that is why I want to talk to him more, I barely get a chance to talk to him at school,but, I don't always start conversations he has to... It's kind of hard to tell with him... anways the problem, Can't ask out, he may reject me ruining academic team (which has the first time chance of going to state this year), Can't talk to often, bus ride with him short rarely sits by me anyways, 1 class together (biology--no talking allowed), Academic Team (talk to him every chance I get :)) That's it, and if we don't win the next game academic team is over andthere goes my last real conversations with him... unless if I can start to talk to him online??? These are my dilemma's solve them before the end of the night, or i will be giving him the note tommorow...
 
Ask for a phone number. Just say hey academics team is ending soon and we might not be able to talk as much so I was wondering if you had an email address or phone number we could talk on. Not that hard. If he says yes then you know he has some interest in talking with you further, if not they you saved yourself from being set up for a fall.
 
I'm not a big fan of the whole note thing, then again I am 20 years old now. Maybe back in my school days it would have worked. If it is what you feel is the right thing to do then by all means do it. If it was me I would just go up to her ( in my case it would be a her) and tell them that I was interested in talking with them further. If you want to take the more shy approach then yeah, just write it on a friendly base and say that you want his email.
 
*I would have edited my top post to include this but it seems the edit button is currently out of service.*

It doesn't have to rhyme, just say what is on your mind. You don't have to be short and sweet. Do you mind me asking your age?
 
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