Women: See If Men CAN give good advice

[COOL_BREEZE2]

Actually, thinking about it, if you men are so clued up to answer probs here, hyperthetical or otherwise, then how comes you don't carry out what you solve, hummm? If you know these things, watcha all doing, mucking things up for us women in the first place then?

Dear Freespeech,

As in most things, it is easier said than done.
It's a tangled web we weave.

Old saying--------->"Talk is cheap, action speaks louder than words".

Seriously...we live and we learn.

Advice: Do unto others as you would have others do unto you.<------(Another great saying)

 

[Ria]

Hypothetically, that will do just fine.

You are a good laugh OK, erm............. *thinking* Oooh, actually, while I am just thinking, hasn't it been very quiet here today (well, Sunday). Then I remembered, our ol' Boomerang Booms is moving today and said he won't be here today didn't he? Wonder how he's doing.

Aha, got one for ya now Donnie. It's hyperthetical remember.

There's a couple (surprise surprise) they are together just about a month, not long. He decides to bring up about the possibility of meeting up with his female friend - she doesn't really want to, but feels obliged and doesn't want to make a fuss as they have only just got together - deep down, she feels it's a case of getting 'approved' by his female friend and resents it, but still feels she ought to go along with this.

The woman makes no effort to talk to her, just him all evening, even though she has her b/f with her. None of them have met before, except obviously him and his female friend - what's that about then?

 

[dt3]

Actually, thinking about it, if you men are so clued up to answer probs here, hyperthetical or otherwise, then how comes you don't carry out what you solve, hummm? If you know these things, watcha all doing, mucking things up for us women in the first place then?

I have an insane desire to NOT be happy. As soon as everything is perfect, the only way it can go is downhill.

I'd rather settle for having everything pretty good all the time, instead of all the effort it would take for everything to be perfect for a little while.

 

[Ria]

Dear Freespeech,

As in most things, it is easier said than done.
It's a tangled web we weave.

Old saying--------->"Talk is cheap, action speaks louder than words".

Seriously...we live and we learn.

Advice: Do unto others as you would have others do unto you.<------(Another great saying)

I know those sayings and more at my ripe old age, but just asking half jokingly, cos it's hard to not be joking with these men here.

 

[Ria]

I have an insane desire to NOT be happy. As soon as everything is perfect, the only way it can go is downhill.

I'd rather settle for having everything pretty good all the time, instead of all the effort it would take for everything to be perfect for a little while.

Ah, but you are happy a lot - nothing's perfect though, so need another theory

 

[dt3]

Aha, got one for ya now Donnie. It's hyperthetical remember.

There's a couple (surprise surprise) they are together just about a month, not long. He decides to bring up about the possibility of meeting up with his female friend - she doesn't really want to, but feels obliged and doesn't want to make a fuss as they have only just got together - deep down, she feels it's a case of getting 'approved' by his female friend and resents it, but still feels she ought to go along with this.

The woman makes no effort to talk to her, just him all evening, even though she has her b/f with her. None of them have met before, except obviously him and his female friend - what's that about then?

So it's a double date?

In that case I'd say it's a simple thing. Those two are the only one's who know each other, so the other's are sitting in awkward silence as the 3rd and 4th wheels respectively.

The two doing the talking are probably old friends doing some catching up.

And of course, since it's a guy, he's either trying to fulfill his long time fantasy of getting in her pants (if he hasn't), or remembering how good the sex was with her (if he has).

If the night progresses and rounds of drinks are being bought, I'd wager that the boyfriend who set all this up will try to work out a girl-swapping plan with the other couple. :ninja

 

[Ria]

So it's a double date?

In that case I'd say it's a simple thing. Those two are the only one's who know each other, so the other's are sitting in awkward silence as the 3rd and 4th wheels respectively.

The two doing the talking are probably old friends doing some catching up.

And of course, since it's a guy, he's either trying to fulfill his long time fantasy of getting in her pants (if he hasn't), or remembering how good the sex was with her (if he has).

If the night progresses and rounds of drinks are being bought, I'd wager that the boyfriend who set all this up will try to work out a girl-swapping plan with the other couple. :ninja

Ha ha ha, not bad methinks, except the last bit where you just threw one of yr fantasies in!!!

 

[Breath]

I'd like to know how much aggression men really want to see in a women. And this can cover a range of topics. Feel free to expand upon some of these suggested requests.
Do you want to be asked out?
Do you want me to show I'm interested or you'd prefer to make the first move?
Do you want someone independent who doesn't really need you?
Do you want the woman to pay for the dates?
If you're the type who holds doors and such, do you dislike it if she refuses to have you do that for her?
If she asks for specific needs, do you want to know that or do you expect her to be happy with whatever you do?
If you're married, who "wears the pants in the family?", who should make the final decision about some issues if there is dissension.
How much aggression do you REALLY want in the bedroom, or do you prefer to initiate most of the time?

 

[Ria]

Well, back on track and as is meant - Peter!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (where the flippin eck are ya lovie btw lol)

Ok, try this out on yr Angony uncle powers - this is hyperthetical, but see ......

Right, supposing a couple see eachother on a certain day (or days) of the week, then when a friend of yr partner's wants to change their usual day of going out to a day that they would be spending as arranged, with their partner, what's that all about then?

This is not a real one, but just thought of it as it does crop up for ppl, as has done for friends of mine before now.

hah, now you are here after yr sleep agony uncle, you can do this now then, hummm?

 

[dt3]

I'd like to know how much aggression men really want to see in a women. And this can cover a range of topics. Feel free to expand upon some of these suggested requests.
Do you want to be asked out? I'd prefer a woman to show enough interest that I know she'll say yes when I ask. But, if the man is oblivious to the come-ons, then go ahead and ask him out.
Do you want me to show I'm interested or you'd prefer to make the first move? See above answer.
Do you want someone independent who doesn't really need you? To an extent. Everybody likes to be needed too, though.
Do you want the woman to pay for the dates? A woman should never pay for a date.
If you're the type who holds doors and such, do you dislike it if she refuses to have you do that for her? Yep. She should be glad there's still a guy that respects her enough to do that.
If she asks for specific needs, do you want to know that or do you expect her to be happy with whatever you do? Clear-cut expectations are always best.
If you're married, who "wears the pants in the family?", who should make the final decision about some issues if there is dissension. I can only speak for myself here, but I am totally Amber's bitch. I accepted that when I said "I do".
How much aggression do you REALLY want in the bedroom, or do you prefer to initiate most of the time? Nobody wants to initiate all the time

Hope that clears some of it up :cool

 

[Peter Parka]

Hello. Um, I would say what that is about is that the boyfriend is crap boyfriend material as he's being oblivious to his girlfriends obvious feelings of discomfort and is only concerned with talking to him friend. I think the girlfriend should be very wary of how things are going because how will he be when something is really wrong?

 

[Ria]

Hello. Um, I would say what that is about is that the boyfriend is crap boyfriend material as he's being oblivious to his girlfriends obvious feelings of discomfort and is only concerned with talking to him friend. I think the girlfriend should be very wary of how things are going because how will he be when something is really wrong?

Yep, that's about what us women would think more or less too, same as that one that Donnie replied to as well.

You guys can't beat us at the knowledge of men V women ya know! :jk

Still got one for Steve to do yet. I will have to do it tomorrow Steve, OK?

 

[Peter Parka]

I'd like to know how much aggression men really want to see in a women. And this can cover a range of topics. Feel free to expand upon some of these suggested requests.
Do you want to be asked out?
Do you want me to show I'm interested or you'd prefer to make the first move?
Do you want someone independent who doesn't really need you?
Do you want the woman to pay for the dates?
If you're the type who holds doors and such, do you dislike it if she refuses to have you do that for her?
If she asks for specific needs, do you want to know that or do you expect her to be happy with whatever you do?
If you're married, who "wears the pants in the family?", who should make the final decision about some issues if there is dissension.
How much aggression do you REALLY want in the bedroom, or do you prefer to initiate most of the time?

Well speaking personally

Do you want to be asked out?

If you're interested and I haven't seemed to notice yet, then yes

Do you want me to show I'm interested or you'd prefer to make the first move?

I like girls who show and say how they feel so it you're interested say so or show it

Do you want someone independent who doesn't really need you?

Yes. Relationships shouldn't be built on need

Do you want the woman to pay for the dates?

Well if a woman expects me to pay for everything she is selfish and rude and this relationship isn't going to last as selfishness is an ugly quality

If you're the type who holds doors and such, do you dislike it if she refuses to have you do that for her?

Yes, thats just rude, appreciate that I'm making a nice gesture even if you don't particularly like it

If she asks for specific needs, do you want to know that or do you expect her to be happy with whatever you do?

I can only be myself and I dont like it when people try and change others. If she's not happy with the full package and she cant put up with certain things then this relationship and probably any other she has is going no where, no one's perfect

If you're married, who "wears the pants in the family?", who should make the final decision about some issues if there is dissension.

If two people put their partner ahead of their own in a relationship this problem won't come up. Once again, selfishness is a relationship will only cause problems

How much aggression do you REALLY want in the bedroom, or do you prefer to initiate most of the time?

If my partner never initiated sex I would probably start feeling she's lost interest in me or something was seriously wrong which needs to be talked about

 

[COOL_BREEZE2]

I'd like to know how much aggression men really want to see in a women. And this can cover a range of topics. Feel free to expand upon some of these suggested requests.
Do you want to be asked out?
Do you want me to show I'm interested or you'd prefer to make the first move?
Do you want someone independent who doesn't really need you?
Do you want the woman to pay for the dates?
If you're the type who holds doors and such, do you dislike it if she refuses to have you do that for her?
If she asks for specific needs, do you want to know that or do you expect her to be happy with whatever you do?
If you're married, who "wears the pants in the family?", who should make the final decision about some issues if there is dissension.
How much aggression do you REALLY want in the bedroom, or do you prefer to initiate most of the time?

WOW, a loaded gun. Some of the juiciest questions yet. I'll have a go at it. I'll answer in the first person but is meant in general.

Do you want to be asked out?
Yes. It's a two way street. Ain't no shame in that.

Do you want me to show I'm interested or you'd prefer to make the first move?
By all means. That's kinda sexy. Damn sexy actually. Shows me you're interested and ignites the fire. Give a guy a hint. Otherwise I may not bother. Not one for the too much of playing hard to get.

Do you want someone independent who doesn't really need you?
Definitely not. If you don't need me then why am I with you. 1+1 does not equal 1. I like a woman who is somewhat independent in that I don't feel overwhelmed that she wants me for material things mainly or overly needy...materially and emotionally. Overly is the magic word here. Balance is the key.

Do you want the woman to pay for the dates?
Generally no. But is nice to be treated sometimes (see above).

If you're the type who holds doors and such, do you dislike it if she refuses to have you do that for her?
Yes. I would be offended and wonder if she has any broughtupsy. That would be strange but if she feels strongly about it, I would oblige.

If she asks for specific needs, do you want to know that or do you expect her to be happy with whatever you do?
Not too sure what you mean by "specific needs". If it is sexual...hey it's all good. Long as is within reason and doesn't involve choking. No, don't expect her to be happy with whatever I do. Nor do I expect to be happy with everything she does. That's unrealistic.

If you're married, who "wears the pants in the family?", who should make the final decision about some issues if there is dissension.
I wear the pants and the boxers. The wife wears the skirt and panties. LOL.
Seriously now, in a marriage there got to be some give and take. If there is dissension on important issues maybe some compromise could be reached. There are times however one needs to make the final decision. Depends on the circumstance.

How much aggression do you REALLY want in the bedroom, or do you prefer to initiate most of the time?
Oh, the nitty gritty eh? Light my fire. Bring it on.:woohoo:
Give me your best shot. But don't try to be overly controlling. That might turn me off.


Woooo hoooo, now I'm all hot and bothered. Gotta take a cold shower now. Naughty girl for asking those questions. Good questions tho. :clap

 

[UncleBacon]

why is it that certain guys can never say i love you...until its kinda too late

some cases its because some guys aren't the type to just throw that word around and want to know 100% that they really feel that way before they say it

 

[dt3]

some cases its because some guys aren't the type to just throw that word around and want to know 100% that they really feel that way before they say it

Dude, you told me you loved me on the first date

 

[UncleBacon]

Dude, you told me you loved me on the first date

I was talking about the road head you gave me on the ride home

 

[Ria]

some cases its because some guys aren't the type to just throw that word around and want to know 100% that they really feel that way before they say it

bloody typical and picky of the bloke then ha ha - don't want much eh?:jk

 

[dt3]

I was talking about the road head you gave me on the ride home

Oh, it all makes sense now.
You said you loved me AND got head from a man??? Homo. :turninggay2:

 

[Ria]

You two *get a room* loves!!!

Also Donnie - due another change on yr sig you reckon?