How bad is it?

[Kat]

Ok this may belong in debate or something Im not sure what will come of this post

But I wanted your opinions on something.

i dont usually drink often or at all...especially since I first found out I was pregnant. But lately I have been having a few beers every night...or a few glasses of wine. I still get up and take care of my daughter no problem...the same as I did before.


So my question is...how bad is it that for about the past 2 weeks now I have had at least a little alcohol every night?

I dont know why I have started up drinking and as I said it doesnt impare my ability or desire to take care of my angel in the slightest but I was wondering..I dunno...just wanted to see thoughts.

i guess in a way I feel bad about it...specially since I havent drank in so long till I started this up

 

[Tim]

I guess it all depends on why you are drinking. Do you feel that you need to have a drink? Can you decide to go a night without a drink and be ok with that?

I'm not saying you are in any way... but an alcoholic doesn't have to get drunk to be one. Someone who has 3-4 beers every night can be an alcoholic, yet they never drink enough to get drunk.

 

[SilentEyz]

I agree with Tim here on the Questions asked..

but also, you worry and work all day.. many people relax and shut off thier minds by having a few drinks at night..

But I would say, If your already asking.. then ya already know...

It would seem to me though that you are drinking more as a way to bring yourself down a little at night.. you know relax, enjoy your you time.. and thats not a bad thing either.

 

[Kat]

I dont feel like I need to have a drink...I guess when I sit down and think about it the main reason I have been drinking more lately is because the more I drink the less my bf does.

I have tried talking to him before about him drinking and him needing to cut back on it...but unfortunatly he does not see a problem with drinking a few beers every night...he needs to to go to sleep he says.

So like I said the more I drink the less he does...I usually wind up throwing up now from 2 beers...

I dont know what to do or how to get him to understand...I even told him I do NOT want our daughter growing up around that thinking its ok but he has a way around everything.

 

[OUZBnd]

No offense, but it sounds like you are being a hypocrit.. You reasons for drinking are to get your bf to stop, so that you child is not around drinking.... seems like a endless circle to me.

 

[TheOriginalJames]

I honestly don't see a problem with a few drinks every night. Drinking to simply get yourself drunk is the definition of an alcoholic. Although your reasoning, as Kevin said, is slightly hypocritical, I don't see a problem with it really.

I mean I grew up around my dad who drank... alllllll the time. He is more of a social drinker and rarely gets piss drunk off of it (as far as I can tell).

 

[Kat]

No offense, but it sounds like you are being a hypocrit.. You reasons for drinking are to get your bf to stop, so that you child is not around drinking.... seems like a endless circle to me.

yeah already realized that ouz...right after I said that I dumped the rest of the beer I had...Im not going to drink anymore.... so I guess this topic is unnecessary now.

actually I was hoping by me doing that he would get tired of buying so much beer and quit while she was still to young...I guess in a way I was trying to manipulate him...bad I know but talking didnt work

*shrugs* I didnt see ti that way before that i was a hypocrit...thank you for pointing that out...I needed that eye opener

 

[BreakfastSurreal]

kat, he will stop when he feels the need to. There is nothing you can say or do to make him stop. My boyfriend smokes every night, and I have just come to terms with it. I don't LIKE it, but every now and again I'll light up with him, so I guess that makes me a hypocrit too?

 

[Tim]

I honestly don't see a problem with a few drinks every night. Drinking to simply get yourself drunk is the definition of an alcoholic. Although your reasoning, as Kevin said, is slightly hypocritical, I don't see a problem with it really.

I mean I grew up around my dad who drank... alllllll the time. He is more of a social drinker and rarely gets piss drunk off of it (as far as I can tell).

That's not even close to the definition, like I said you don't ever need to get drunk to be an alcoholic. That's a common misconception. Alcoholism is characterized by a preoccupation with alcohol and impaired control over alcohol intake.

 

[TheOriginalJames]

Ok, so it's a socialistic definition, but it's close enough. A preoccupation with, and impaired control over alcohol intake means you're most likely drinking until you're piss drunk and pass out.


:tongue:

 

[Tim]

About 10 years ago I had this neighbor that when he came home from work he would have 5-6 beers. Now this was a big guy (about 300lbs +) so he never got drunk from that amount, but he had to have those beers. He was an alcoholic.

I know this because I had an arguement from a professional that KNOWS the definition. I thought you had to be a drunk to be an alcoholic. But I was told that just 3 beers a night, every night is enough to classify you as an alcoholic. At first I still didn't believe this person and his definition, but after reading about it, I was shocked to see what alcoholism is all about.

 

[Criminal Mastermind]

beer is nothing, try the purple drank, heres how u make it.

Vodka
Codeine
sprite
grape soda
grape juice
and a few purple jolly rancher's


you will thank me later

 

[Kat]

no thanks ill pass

 

[Criminal Mastermind]

down in ATL, when i visited they make this shit raw.

 

[ouachiski]

raw...u mean they dont cook it? what savages