This is something that's been lingering on my mind for a while now.
To cut a long background story short, I was seeing this girl for the best part of about 6 months. Which, in the grand scheme of things, wasn't a hugely long time but it was still enough for me to fall pretty hard for her. I seen her a lot and we got on like a house on fire. However, whilst together, she never ever wanted to make our relationship anything "official" or "proper", and refused to acknowledge that even though we acted like a real couple, seen each other as often as a real couple and even did everything together that a real couple does (no, not just that! Other stuff like going out on dates, buying each other little presents and that), that we weren't a "real" couple. Which always confused me, but I usually brushed it aside and carried on, because I was so into her and I didn't want to change what we already had.
Anyway, as I had been warned, she broke my heart. She tore me completely apart. The entire time we'd been together she'd been lying to me, seeing other guys, and generally doing an awful lot of fucking around. And there wasn't a damn thing I could've done about it, because we weren't a "real couple", as she'd always put it. She decided that she "didn't want to see me anymore" and that she "needed a break" - a break which lasted only a week before I started seeing my best friend's cousin all over her the weekend after, followed by always seeing his car outside her house. I'd been lead astray, and then completely shot down in flames.
As a rebound to this, one of her good friends had been there to help me through getting over her, and I eventually fell for the best friend, who's feelings were mutual also - but of course, being the "ex's best friend", that didn't work on her part and again, I was let down.
Now, to sum things up and to get to the actual point of the thread, is it normal for me now to feel that "why should I bother" feeling? Why should I bother talking to someone, get close to them, and have a relationship with them if this happens? I am now scared to get close to someone and trust them because I was hurt so much in the past. I still talk to women now obviously, but I just no longer have the "drive" I had before to get out there and find someone. Fair enough I'm young and I should be having fun and getting through university and so on and so forth, but you still have relationships even at this stage?
Am I the only one who feels like this?
(For everyone who is tl;dr, girl fucks me over, now I find it hard to trust)
To cut a long background story short, I was seeing this girl for the best part of about 6 months. Which, in the grand scheme of things, wasn't a hugely long time but it was still enough for me to fall pretty hard for her. I seen her a lot and we got on like a house on fire. However, whilst together, she never ever wanted to make our relationship anything "official" or "proper", and refused to acknowledge that even though we acted like a real couple, seen each other as often as a real couple and even did everything together that a real couple does (no, not just that! Other stuff like going out on dates, buying each other little presents and that), that we weren't a "real" couple. Which always confused me, but I usually brushed it aside and carried on, because I was so into her and I didn't want to change what we already had.
Anyway, as I had been warned, she broke my heart. She tore me completely apart. The entire time we'd been together she'd been lying to me, seeing other guys, and generally doing an awful lot of fucking around. And there wasn't a damn thing I could've done about it, because we weren't a "real couple", as she'd always put it. She decided that she "didn't want to see me anymore" and that she "needed a break" - a break which lasted only a week before I started seeing my best friend's cousin all over her the weekend after, followed by always seeing his car outside her house. I'd been lead astray, and then completely shot down in flames.
As a rebound to this, one of her good friends had been there to help me through getting over her, and I eventually fell for the best friend, who's feelings were mutual also - but of course, being the "ex's best friend", that didn't work on her part and again, I was let down.
Now, to sum things up and to get to the actual point of the thread, is it normal for me now to feel that "why should I bother" feeling? Why should I bother talking to someone, get close to them, and have a relationship with them if this happens? I am now scared to get close to someone and trust them because I was hurt so much in the past. I still talk to women now obviously, but I just no longer have the "drive" I had before to get out there and find someone. Fair enough I'm young and I should be having fun and getting through university and so on and so forth, but you still have relationships even at this stage?
Am I the only one who feels like this?
(For everyone who is tl;dr, girl fucks me over, now I find it hard to trust)
