Do All Men Watch Porn?

[Skorpy]

Sure yeah love still sticks around even when people age and their bodies change, but I think a lot of women getting fat just because they're in a relationship is terrible. You should want to look good for your partner. This goes for men as well.

You ladies can't tell me for a split second that you would enjoy seeing your man get flabby and lazy.


and skorpy you're not fat from the pics I've seen.




But lets be honest, if your wife lets herself go for stupid reasons, this shows a sign of disrespect in my book.

Oh hun. Don't get me wrong. I think you're lovely. But this last post is not good. The older you get, the harder it is to maintain the weight, as your bodies matabolism slows down. This is why it is harder to judge weight gain, and before you know it, you gained more then you wanted. Once this happens, it is really hard to lose that weight again.

But as I said, once someone loves somebody, surely weight gain shouldn't affect that love?! This should have nothing to do with giving respect!!

 

[fuel1316]

You ladies can't tell me for a split second that you would enjoy seeing your man get flabby and lazy.

i love me some chubby hubby!

kevin james is a hotty

 

[All Else Failed]

Oh hun. Don't get me wrong. I think you're lovely. But this last post is not good. The older you get, the harder it is to maintain the weight, as your bodies matabolism slows down. This is why it is harder to judge weight gain, and before you know it, you gained more then you wanted. Once this happens, it is really hard to lose that weight again.

But as I said, once someone loves somebody, surely weight gain shouldn't affect that love?! This should have nothing to do with giving respect!!

Yeah yeah I know I just agreed that true love will look past some weight gained but I do not think it is some sort of terrible thing to suggest that you would want your wife/husband healthy. If you could choose, would you prefer your husband to look fit and lean, or have a beer gut and man boobs? Answer honestly.


So many women want to lose weight, and I do not think it is about health. Looks are probably first and foremost the reason, but for some reason the whole "You're beautiful no matter what" message is still being conveyed when they're working on getting thinner.

of course you naturally gain *some* weight when you age, but that doesn't explain why the obesity figures for adults have been steadily rising over the past 50 years. Older people were thinner not too long ago for several reasons.

I was staying out of this but now I have to ask - your last line here, please define "stupid reasons". I won't jump all over you until I receive some clarity.

"Being comfortable in a relationship" is a dumb reason to let yourself go. That is a nice way of saying "Well, I give up since I don't have to look anymore!". Laziness.

 

[HK]

Weight gain should be reasonable. I'm slim, so if I got married and ballooned up to a size 28 or something, I'd be a bit thick to wonder why my husband wasn't so thrilled about it.

But obviously time does bring some changes - everyone is likely to look less fit in their 50's than they did in their 20's, that's just life. And women often go through childbirth too, another stress on the body. It's unrealistic to expect your partner never to change, but I think it's also reasonable to expect them not to drop all standards entirely and become an obese, unshaven mess.

Unless they were like that when you married them.

 

[dancingpotato]

Yeah yeah I know I just agreed that true love will look past some weight gained but I do not think it is some sort of terrible thing to suggest that you would want your wife/husband healthy. If you could choose, would you prefer your husband to look fit and lean, or have a beer gut and man boobs? Answer honestly.


So many women want to lose weight, and I do not think it is about health. Looks are probably first and foremost the reason, but for some reason the whole "You're beautiful no matter what" message is still being conveyed when they're working on getting thinner.

of course you naturally gain *some* weight when you age, but that doesn't explain why the obesity figures for adults have been steadily rising over the past 50 years. Older people were thinner not too long ago for several reasons.







"Being comfortable in a relationship" is a dumb reason to let yourself go. That is a nice way of saying "Well, I give up since I don't have to look anymore!". Laziness.

And you're perfect yeah?

 

[NoDak]

Tell ya what, Girls, I'm not about to make any comments about weight gain until I have born a few kids, worked outside and in the home, been the family taxi driver, etc. Then, gone through all the hormonal changes of middle and later age.
My wife was a tad thick when I married her. She's put on some pounds since then, but, I don't care. She is a pretty lady! When she's at home, she's a bit frumpy because she likes to dress comfortably, etc. But, she can clean up pretty damned good for an occasion.
She's gone through hell and back several times in her life and hasn't killed herself over it. She looks damned good to me!

 

[All Else Failed]

And you're perfect yeah?

Who is arguing for "perfection"? I am not. Perfection does not exist. I'm not sure why you're suggesting this.





Anyways, disregarding looks alone, you should not want to be fat because of health reasons. You're literally killing yourself.

 

[dancingpotato]

Who is arguing for "perfection"? I am not. Perfection does not exist. I'm not sure why you're suggesting this.





Anyways, disregarding looks alone, you should not want to be fat because of health reasons. You're literally killing yourself.

I'm overweight. I'm still healthy. I'm just saying so you are so perfect because you seem to be targeting women and weight gain in such a negative manner, it would appear that the sun would shine out your ass for you to argue such a thing. Like you've never gained a pound in your life.

People don't choose to put on weight. Medical reasons can mean that they put weight on. Life happens and weight is put on.

In regards to your comment on being lazy within a relationship and putting on weight, I know plenty of people who got into relationships and put on weight. It happens cos they started going out for dinner more regularly or having take aways with their partner in the start of a relationship, as part of enjoying each others company and getting to know one another. Once you gain the weight it's hard to lose.

 

[fuel1316]

lets have AEF put on 35lbs over the course of 9 months then try and lose them all a couple months after having a baby all while trying to get his stretched out stomach back to the way it was. not to mention eating more calories a day than hes used to so that he can properly breast feed

all while handling a new born and a husband and a household and little to no sleep or free time to exercise

 

[acctnt shan]

Someone who has never struggled with weight, should not be commenting on those who do. There are many, many things that could contribute to weight gain and/or difficulty losing it once it's there. Physical disabilities, illnesses, hormone imbalances, psychological struggles, addictions, low self esteem, stress, etc... It's not always just about "laziness".

 

[Aeval]

Someone who has never struggled with weight, should not be commenting on those who do. There are many, many things that could contribute to weight gain and/or difficulty losing it once it's there. Physical disabilities, illnesses, hormone imbalances, psychological struggles, addictions, low self esteem, stress, etc... It's not always just about "laziness".

Standing ovation!

 

[Panacea]

Who gives a fuck what anyone thinks?
It seems if you take care of yourself, your family, and keep honest communication going with your partner you'll be just fine.

Someone on an internet forum might not approve, but I think there's worse in life.

 

[Skorpy]

At the end of the day, weight is gained and can gain in small amounts where you don't notice it. Time goes by and it is a case of ..... OH SHIT, I HAVE PUT ON WEIGHT!!!
I used to be a size 8 Jeans. I don't think I will ever see that size again

Losing that weight can be a nightmare like Fuel said, because women tend to juggle, houselife, children etc etc. And by the time it comes to some you time, you're too knackered

 

[Skorpy]

But yeah, it is true though...as long as your partner loves the way you are...who cares.

Kudos to NoDak.

 

[The Man]

Someone who has never struggled with weight, should not be commenting on those who do. There are many, many things that could contribute to weight gain and/or difficulty losing it once it's there. Physical disabilities, illnesses, hormone imbalances, psychological struggles, addictions, low self esteem, stress, etc... It's not always just about "laziness".

More calories going in than calories being burned equals weight gain
One has to eat less
Weight gain is many times /a slow process over time
Losing weight often times requires hunger
Hunger is no fun
Thus the failures
Thus why I recommend the crash diet method
Commit and get it over with .
Eat hard candy through the day to curb appetite
Sugar has only 16 calories per spoon...so the hard candy is low in calories
We require about 70 to 80 calories an hour just to sit and watch tv
Eat a small well balanced meal before bed {800 calories}
Pace around the house alot
Enjoy your new look in very short time
You will lose very fast
Around 3500 extra calories equals one pound of weight gain
You will lose about 20 pounds in one month with this method...more by walking even more
Stick with it until you have reached your goal.
Its not that bad..the first few days suck granted then the body quickly adjusts

Worked for me I lost about 45 pounds and havent looked back

 

[acctnt shan]

I still think your "method" doesn't work for everyone, because everybody has different situations. For me, I found that emotional & self esteem issues had taken too deep of a root - couple that with my addiction-prone body, and it made it pretty impossible for full-stop dieting to work. There's a whole buncha personal stuff I could keep adding on, but hey, that information is boring and no one cares about hearing me whine Long story short, I chose to still eat what I like, but I took up running instead. Endorphins help with a lot of the psych stuff, and I found that when I was exercising more, I ate less too. 30 lbs down and counting!

But seriously, everybody has different "vices" and different situations. What works for one does not work for all. I just have a pretty strong distaste for people who think they are in a position to criticize others for their weight struggles.

 

[anathelia]

Who gives a fuck what anyone thinks?
It seems if you take care of yourself, your family, and keep honest communication going with your partner you'll be just fine.

Someone on an internet forum might not approve, but I think there's worse in life.

Exactly. I'm not planning on attempting to bag AEF or anyone like him any time soon. While my SO will support my weight loss efforts because they will make me happier/healthier, he's always found me attractive. Didn't matter if I was 130 or 200.

 

[The Man]

I still think your "method" doesn't work for everyone, because everybody has different situations. For me, I found that emotional & self esteem issues had taken too deep of a root - couple that with my addiction-prone body, and it made it pretty impossible for full-stop dieting to work. There's a whole buncha personal stuff I could keep adding on, but hey, that information is boring and no one cares about hearing me whine Long story short, I chose to still eat what I like, but I took up running instead. Endorphins help with a lot of the psych stuff, and I found that when I was exercising more, I ate less too. 30 lbs down and counting!

But seriously, everybody has different "vices" and different situations. What works for one does not work for all. I just have a pretty strong distaste for people who think they are in a position to criticize others for their weight struggles.

It will work its science at work....eat less than burning and one will lose weight.
You lost 30...it sucked..but you are winning the battle...and you are getting in better shape by running...Where is that high five smiley when I need it.

The running weight loss method for myself was too much as the blood sugar level would drop to risky levels
The hard candy and pacing {also lots of sugared coffee}..kept a mild supply of fuel going in me.
I feel better..its better for my heath in the long run...look better
All worthwhile rewards for the efforts

 

[All Else Failed]

lets have AEF put on 35lbs over the course of 9 months then try and lose them all a couple months after having a baby all while trying to get his stretched out stomach back to the way it was. not to mention eating more calories a day than hes used to so that he can properly breast feed

all while handling a new born and a husband and a household and little to no sleep or free time to exercise

I lost 18 lbs in two months by not eating shit and walking for 40 minutes every other day while working and going to class


wouldn't be that difficult

People don't choose to put on weight.

You can't possibly believe this.


There is a REASON why obesity rates have increased dramatically over the past 50 years and that is because people willingly eat shit and choose not to be active


only a small minority of cases are actually due to medical reasons

Someone who has never struggled with weight, should not be commenting on those who do. There are many, many things that could contribute to weight gain and/or difficulty losing it once it's there. Physical disabilities, illnesses, hormone imbalances, psychological struggles, addictions, low self esteem, stress, etc... It's not always just about "laziness".

I was overweight last year by 12 lbs and it was because I was eating shit and not exercising enough. It was my fault and nothing else.


Seriously guys. All it takes to lose weight is NOT EATING SHIT and putting in like 30-40 minute cardio workouts a day. Getting fat does not happen magically or by accident.




haha and thanks for the negative rep, potato. I see simply sharing some facts gets you so riled up. Not that it matters, because I've gotten several positive reps from members over this thread and what I am saying.

 

[acctnt shan]

I'm glad you found it so easy to lose weight. Others don't. And I still think your comments suggest that you don't really understand what it's like.