Affairs.....To tell or not to tell

[zen]

It is a quandry to be sure. Like Darrell, I've seen the messenger killed. We all have our opinions, the OP needs to follow her gut and do what she thinks is best.

 

[banned]

I would venture to guess the number of friendships lost due to these sort of situations, far outweighs the amount of friendships that sustain because of it.

People don't like being told their lover is fucking other people, because nobody wants to actually believe that. So, what do most of these people do? Jump the shit of their friends who tipped them off. I've seen it happen, and it's not worth the headache or the risk of losing a good friend, I like to think nobody is "that good" at cheating, eventually, they will slip up.

Well I totally disagree with you.Were do you got it from that it is true what you saying ...California???:24:

Any statistics about that ?????

 

[Darrell]

Well I totally disagree with you.Were do you got it from that it is true what you saying ...California???:24:

Any statistics about that ?????

I said "venture to guess" that isn't an absolute. It's an assumption based off situations that I have seen similar to this one.

 

[banned]

If Darrel can proof this with figures ..than no wonder the world is F........ed.!!!!!!!...I am not going to be part of it.
I am also one of those fools who help people in trouble on the street ...instead of watchin or not looking and walking by without helping.

 

[banned]

I said "venture to guess" that isn't an absolute. It's an assumption based off situations that I have seen similar to this one.

Well I quess than it is an personal observation....fair enough but I have seen and done the oposite with great results and still got my friends ....even a quilty party....I am a optimist ya know

 

[Darrell]

Well I quess than it is an personal observation....fair enough but I have seen and done the oposite with great results and still got my friends ....even a quilty party....I am a optimist ya know

I'm a realist.

 

[banned]

Reality and optimism are going hand in hand....in both ways...
negative or positive...

 

[hart]

I would keep my mouth shut and be there to help her if and when she needs you. As others have said, a lot of time the person knows but chooses to ignore it-sometimes the affair ends, the couple stays together and the person who was "confided in" or did the confided, suddenly the person is embarassed to be around and is cut off from friendship.

Until you know for sure what the situation is, I'd wait and see.

 

[Peter Parka]

To all the few last comments ....glad you are not my friend...:24::eek..what kinda friend are ya ...watchin your friend being betrayed....

What kind of friend, pointlessly tells their friend something which will very likely ruin their life and your friendship? Thats another opinion. You don't know the ins and outs of peoples private life because it is just that, private and by telling them, to one extent or another you are jumping to conclusions.

 

[banned]

I would keep my mouth shut and be there to help her if and when she needs you. As others have said, a lot of time the person knows but chooses to ignore it-sometimes the affair ends, the couple stays together and the person who was "confided in" or did the confided, suddenly the person is embarassed to be around and is cut off from friendship.

Until you know for sure what the situation is, I'd wait and see.

You sound like some GOP hope fulls....:24:

 

[hart]

Well I'm not.....

 

[banned]

What kind of friend, pointlessly tells their friend something which will very likely ruin their life and your friendship? Thats another opinion. You don't know the ins and outs of peoples private life because it is just that, private and by telling them, to one extent or another you are jumping to conclusions.

Read the first post over again I would say from the question asked and info given...

 

[Darrell]

Reality and optimism are going hand in hand....in both ways...
negative or positive...

That's debatable. Because often people are optimistic about the future or pretty much anything, but their expectations are unrealistic.

Anyway, sorry to take your thread sideways, Flo!

 

[satinbutterfly]

Unless you know for sure (i.e. actually witnessing him cheating) then I wouldn't say anything. Your friend is not going to appreciate you telling them hearsay. If you've personally witnessed this I would say something to your friend.

 

[banned]

Unless you know for sure (i.e. actually witnessing him cheating) then I wouldn't say anything. Your friend is not going to appreciate you telling them hearsay. If you've personally witnessed this I would say something to your friend.

Of course you need to know for sure and of course it needs to be a real good friend but we need to think it all is ...you think the questions is/was ....well maybe....and its somebody I know ????

 

[porterjack]

That's actually what I'm leaning towards, thanks.

i trust you will do the right thing Flo

you have a good head on yer shoulders

 

[banned]

i trust you will do the right thing Flo

you have a good head on yer shoulders

but she was asking for your opinion Jack....

 

[porterjack]

but she was asking for your opinion Jack....

true but there is more than enough here already, i just dont want to add more to the burden

 

[Dana]

I'd say go to him first and have a word, then go from there (whatever happens)

What he said...

 

[GuesSAngel]

Personally I'd keep my mouth shut. Leave people's personal life to them, it's none of your business and you wont get any thanks, just greif for getting involved.

agreed.