Top 10 Myths about Introverts

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Top 10 Myths about Introverts

Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.

This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk.
Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.

Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.

Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people.
What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting.
If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite.

Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.

Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries.
They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings,
so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.

Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.

On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand.
If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life.
Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.

Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.

Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities.
They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all.
In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.

Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.

Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve.
But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with.
They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.

Myth #7 – Introverts are weird.

Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living.
They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm.
They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.

Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.

Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions.
It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them,
it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.

Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.

Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies.
If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine.
Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.

Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.

Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race.
In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ.
 
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My daughter is a beautiful (of course I am biased) 17 year old captain of her high school cheer squad and yet is a bit of an introvert. I can see her in all of those myth explanations.
 

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I'm an introvert. I have trouble with social situations just because I'd rather not be there. Hardest thing for me is actually going out in the first place - once I'm there I can start to enjoy it but I find it very hard to get motivated to go out unless it's with people I know I'll have a good time with.

The only one I don't agree with is the myth that introverts don't like people. It's probably true for other people but I just don't find that many people that I actually like and want to spend time with. I like being alone. I don't like having to adjust what my plans are to accommodate other people. I also don't get lonely - the only people I miss are my family, because I'm used to living with them for 20+ years before I moved out.
 

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But you don't dis-like people do you? Unless you have good reason.

I don't hate people, it's not like a really strong emotion. I just don't seem to make connections with people very often. I feel completely indifferent to people, especially if I'm meeting them for the first time.

It's easier online actually. Probably because I'm choosing who I respond to and it's a lot easier to pick out people that have similar thoughts and feelings :) it's a lot more difficult in real life.
 

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I am bit of an introvert although i don't find it hard going out with friends and meet more friends of friends. I see it as the more the merrier! Once they get me going, I am Ok! At multiple family parties is where I feel awkward at times but i still try to enjoy myself and mingle with people who are friendly and accepting/open to new friendships or acquaintances :D

Those myths make sense though :thumbup
 

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It's easier online actually. Probably because I'm choosing who I respond to and it's a lot easier to pick out people that have similar thoughts and feelings :) it's a lot more difficult in real life.

It's harder for me online as I am used to seeing/intermingling with people face to face! Thru their gestures, body language, tone of voice, expression on their faces and look on their eyes etc is how I am able to assess them further. Online, all I see are words. I don't see nor know the person behind those words. Words can have many meanings and one's tone be it endearing, joking etc gets lost!

Given that English is not my primary language, type written words seem to be my enemy when i try to express myself. Given I try to be careful with my words, I am still often misinterpreted which makes it harder for me, of course :willy_nilly:
 

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I don't hate people, it's not like a really strong emotion. I just don't seem to make connections with people very often. I feel completely indifferent to people, especially if I'm meeting them for the first time.

It's easier online actually. Probably because I'm choosing who I respond to and it's a lot easier to pick out people that have similar thoughts and feelings :) it's a lot more difficult in real life.

Are you familiar with the INTJ personality type?

http://intjcentral.com/manual2
 

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Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.

This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk.
Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.

True

Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.

Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people.
What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting.
If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite.

This is true but I actually AM shy on top of being an introvert

Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.

Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries.
They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings,
so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.

True

Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.

On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand.
If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life.
Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.

True...but I don't like the general public :ninja

Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.

Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities.
They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all.
In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.

Depends on what "public" is. I don't like going to group things like bars and parties and such. But I like going out with friends to movies, or out to eat or to a hockey game.

Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.

Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve.
But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with.
They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.

True, though as I'm getting older I'm finding myself becoming more and more reclusive.

Myth #7 – Introverts are weird.

Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living.
They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm.
They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.

False. I AM weird. :p

Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.

Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions.
It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them,
it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.

This myth is confimed (for me). I am an oblivious person. :surrender

Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.

Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies.
If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine.
Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.

True

Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.

Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race.
In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ.

True...there is absolutely no way I will ever become an extrovert. I don't know why people think that introverts need to be "fixed" in the first place. What's wrong with being an introvert??
I am an introvert. The bold is how this pertains to me personally.
 

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Given that English is not my primary language, type written words seem to be my enemy when i try to express myself. Given I try to be careful with my words, I am still often misinterpreted which makes it harder for me, of course :willy_nilly:

Well, I'm quite impressed with your English! What's your native language?
 
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