Venting

[Pumpkin]

I just need to vent a little and don't want this on the main forum!

I have the most amazing boyfriend BUT he is SO secretive about his past sexual exploits. I have no interest in knowing details but it is very important to me to know more or less if I am going to be in contact with someone my SO has slept with or had a relationship with ESPECIALLY if it is someone I knew/was friends with!!

Yesterday I found out that my boyfriend used to sleep with a girl I used to be friends with (well still am but she no longer lives in Brussels). It was purely sex, they didn't have a relationship and this doesn't bother me (well unless I think about it, it makes me feel disgusting).

Apparently when she found out we were together she asked him not to tell me about their past as it would then get awkward between me and her. THIS MAKES ME CRAZY! I feel betrayed that my boyfriend was loyal to her and kept it a secret from me when I am in the relationship with him and he knows how important it is for me to know things like that!

aaaarghlhgp idufglegzqdfliqgyelyfg cbepruldj fuck.

 

[Niamh]

hhmmm, it's a difficult one really kate. TBH I prefer not to know anything about my hubbys past sex life and I never discuss mine with him either as I think he feels similar. The past is the past and I can see where your friend is coming from, you knowing that could and probably has changed the way you think about her

 

[Pumpkin]

hhmmm, it's a difficult one really kate. TBH I prefer not to know anything about my hubbys past sex life and I never discuss mine with him either as I think he feels similar. The past is the past and I can see where your friend is coming from, you knowing that could and probably has changed the way you think about her

This post, has calmed me no end thank you.

I know this is something I need to get over by myself and that my boyfriend should not have to tell me who he has or has not slept with its not really my business. I just feel like a bit of an idiot.

AND I know what she is like in the sack (not from personal experience but from what she used to tell us) and I am very vanilla compared to her so I guess Im feeling a little insecure too

I just need to remind myself that the difference is, my boyfriend is in love with me and never was with her.

 

[Niamh]

For me, it's not even the fact of whether it's any of my business or not but more that I wouldn't like those thoughts in my head!

And you see it's all ready driving you crazy comparing yourself and her performances!..............I think in this case ignorance is bliss!!

And, her versions of how great she is in the sack might be exaggerated as well