Personal memo: never say "Hey Beautiful"
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Very true.
AstriaPorta
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i think i do not don't respond well to compliments that i think are not real ..
but i dont think i will log out because of that word :eek
but i dont think i will log out because of that word :eek
To be honest I don't really consider 'hey beautiful' to be a compliment/come on. It just a way of greeting someone, I say it to men sometimes as well as women.
I would say it was just a coincidence that she logged out just as you hit enter
I would say it was just a coincidence that she logged out just as you hit enter
Women SHOULD be treated like royalty...lol...and any man who doesn't think so doesn't deserve the best of what we have to offer......so there?
How I'd react would depend on who said it and the situation.
I'm perfectly able to thank someone for a compliment (and if I'm in a good enough mood, I'll compliment them as well) but I don't like it when men I do not know shout something like "Hey Beautiful" at me in a lecherous tone (usually followed by some lewd boob comment or if I'd be willing to have sex with them in the van or go home with them). Eurgh it creeps me out.
I'm perfectly able to thank someone for a compliment (and if I'm in a good enough mood, I'll compliment them as well) but I don't like it when men I do not know shout something like "Hey Beautiful" at me in a lecherous tone (usually followed by some lewd boob comment or if I'd be willing to have sex with them in the van or go home with them). Eurgh it creeps me out.
This is exactly what I was going to say.
Also, I have never thought "wow I must really be beautiful" if someone says so, I would just think a) he's trying to engage me for attention or b) he must actually think I'm pretty, nice! I'd been thankful but I definitely don't get a big head from it.
StripedCat
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That is what I wanted to say (but somehow I failed *g*).
Women SHOULD be treated like royalty...lol...and any man who doesn't think so doesn't deserve the best of what we have to offer......so there?
And this is the real reason why chivalry is dead
What is...???
....oh, and chivalry is NOT dead...it's alive and kicking ass. It takes a little more time and effort to find it but it's there....trust me.
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How many more generations of women is it going to take to break this cycle?
I'm not talking about being a stuck-up snob, but just LIKING yourself? I have YET to meet a woman in 40+ years that actually likes herself. You tell a friend "Wow, you're looking very nice today." and their FIRST reaction is to start rattling off this long list of faults that apparently only they can see.
Hell, its even true online. There's a former poster on here that Fred and I both agree is a TOTAL knockout and I have never met a more insecure personality. She fixated over 3 pounds and wanting to be 2 inches taller and one bigger cup size and smaller feet.... the list was ENDLESS. Listening to her you'd think she was Quasimodo when in actuality she was the girl that would get you killed in traffic.
It's to the point where when a woman hears a compliment her first thought is "Yeah, right. I'm a hideous troll. He must be lying because he wants to get in my pants. Creepy asshole."
You know... it is possible that if a guy tells you that you look beautiful... he is just telling you that you look beautiful.
How many more generations of women is it going to take to break this cycle?
I'm not talking about being a stuck-up snob, but just LIKING yourself? I have YET to meet a woman in 40+ years that actually likes herself. You tell a friend "Wow, you're looking very nice today." and their FIRST reaction is to start rattling off this long list of faults that apparently only they can see.
Hell, its even true online. There's a former poster on here that Fred and I both agree is a TOTAL knockout and I have never met a more insecure personality. She fixated over 3 pounds and wanting to be 2 inches taller and one bigger cup size and smaller feet.... the list was ENDLESS. Listening to her you'd think she was Quasimodo when in actuality she was the girl that would get you killed in traffic.
It's to the point where when a woman hears a compliment her first thought is "Yeah, right. I'm a hideous troll. He must be lying because he wants to get in my pants. Creepy asshole."
You know... it is possible that if a guy tells you that you look beautiful... he is just telling you that you look beautiful.
Yes
Yeah, tell us we look rugged. It's sexy.
I laughed, Tasha!
That's usually it for me. Or I get creepy old Cuban men (and I mean pushing 80) shouting at me in Spanish that I have a nice ass after they've said something about me being beautiful. I don't wanna hear what you think about my ass, old man.
How many more generations of women is it going to take to break this cycle?
I'm not talking about being a stuck-up snob, but just LIKING yourself? I have YET to meet a woman in 40+ years that actually likes herself. You tell a friend "Wow, you're looking very nice today." and their FIRST reaction is to start rattling off this long list of faults that apparently only they can see.
Hell, its even true online. There's a former poster on here that Fred and I both agree is a TOTAL knockout and I have never met a more insecure personality. She fixated over 3 pounds and wanting to be 2 inches taller and one bigger cup size and smaller feet.... the list was ENDLESS. Listening to her you'd think she was Quasimodo when in actuality she was the girl that would get you killed in traffic.
It's to the point where when a woman hears a compliment her first thought is "Yeah, right. I'm a hideous troll. He must be lying because he wants to get in my pants. Creepy asshole."
You know... it is possible that if a guy tells you that you look beautiful... he is just telling you that you look beautiful.
I think a lot of it, too, is that we wanna hear you tell us our flaws are beautiful. Like that girl that was fixated over the 3 pounds and convinced her feet were too big, she was probably just looking for you to tell her that she was really beautiful the way she was and that she didn't need to change anything. So many women are obsessed with looking perfect (including myself) to make their man, or any man, happy that sometimes it's nice to hear that we don't have to work so hard to be beautiful to them.
And in my experience, hearing a strange man tell me I look beautiful has almost always been followed by lewd comments. Like, I was putting my make-up on in the car the other day, stopped at a light, and a homeless man walks up to my car and said "baby, you don't need all that, you're beautiful". But then he stood there and watched me till the light turned green and kept going "ooh, yeah, yeah that's good". My boyfriend joked and said a homeless man would be getting off to me on a park bench later, which made it 1000x worse. :ninja
How many more generations of women is it going to take to break this cycle?
I'm not talking about being a stuck-up snob, but just LIKING yourself? I have YET to meet a woman in 40+ years that actually likes herself. You tell a friend "Wow, you're looking very nice today." and their FIRST reaction is to start rattling off this long list of faults that apparently only they can see.
Hell, its even true online. There's a former poster on here that Fred and I both agree is a TOTAL knockout and I have never met a more insecure personality. She fixated over 3 pounds and wanting to be 2 inches taller and one bigger cup size and smaller feet.... the list was ENDLESS. Listening to her you'd think she was Quasimodo when in actuality she was the girl that would get you killed in traffic.
It's to the point where when a woman hears a compliment her first thought is "Yeah, right. I'm a hideous troll. He must be lying because he wants to get in my pants. Creepy asshole."
You know... it is possible that if a guy tells you that you look beautiful... he is just telling you that you look beautiful.
Sam I don't know how many more generations it will take.
I am horrible at taking compliments. Purely for two reason, I don't know if they are being serious or if there is an ulterior motive. So instead of taking it at face value I over think it.
Women are not the only ones who find it hard to take a compliment. I dont take them well either. But then I dont get them enough to make a difference. When I do I make a joke out of them usually.
I know it took me a long time to accept myself and when my wife passes on a comment about me I used to be very bashful about it, but she is the only one I have to answer to and now I smile and say something sweet to her....
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