Time to move on?

[Dana]

I get a text yesterday from Christina, the girl I was seeing. She told me that she got an email from a teacher about grades and she thought she did really well in the class to find out she failed out. Telling me shes not sure if she'll be able to go back to school next semester. Now this morning I got one text from her asking how the weather was here and I've seen her posting on Facebook with game updates but shes not visible in chat.... Think I should take it as a hint? *this is sort of a rhetorical question as I know the answer really*

 

[HottyToddyChick]

I block on chat if there's someone I really don't want to talk to on, but that also blocks people I wouldn't mind talking to. I don't if that should be taken personally.

 

[Darrell]

You should ask her what's up.

 

[HK]

Maybe I'm missing something. You got a text from her this morning, so you've spoken to her recently, but because she's playing games on facebook and turned her chat off, you think she's rejecting you?

I think you might be jumping the gun on this one. I keep facebook chat off permanently because you can't pick and choose who you're available to. Maybe she just didn't feel like talking to someone else and it had nothing to do with you. Or maybe she was playing at the same time as doing something else and didn't want chat on as well.

If this is really the only reason you're worried, I'd give yourself a good talking to, and I wouldn't mention it to her either. It sounds too clingy to start questioning her about all her facebook movements.

 

[Dana]

I guess there's a deeper rooted concern really... IF she isn't coming back in the fall should I really continue to pursue this or just not worry about it and find something new?

 

[StripedCat]

I guess there's a deeper rooted concern really... IF she isn't coming back in the fall should I really continue to pursue this or just not worry about it and find something new?

Depends on how important she's for you. If it's LOVE, then it should be worth it to hold on, even with a far distance between you two.
If it's not love, then...move on.

 

[Peter Parka]

Maybe I'm missing something. You got a text from her this morning, so you've spoken to her recently, but because she's playing games on facebook and turned her chat off, you think she's rejecting you?

I think you might be jumping the gun on this one. I keep facebook chat off permanently because you can't pick and choose who you're available to. Maybe she just didn't feel like talking to someone else and it had nothing to do with you. Or maybe she was playing at the same time as doing something else and didn't want chat on as well.

If this is really the only reason you're worried, I'd give yourself a good talking to, and I wouldn't mention it to her either. It sounds too clingy to start questioning her about all her facebook movements.

:homo: Not everything she does is about you, you know.

 

[Darrell]

It sounds too clingy to start questioning her about all her facebook movements.

It sounds more stalker-esque than clingy. YMMV.

 

[Dana]

stalker? too damn funny.

 

[Darrell]

stalker? too damn funny.

You have made more than one post about her Facebook activity. You seem to be really worried about it.

People put way too much into Facebook. It's not that serious.

 

[itsmeJonB]

She texted you about the weather. Not a good sign

 

[Francis]

Have you ever heard of the term "unfounded fear" ?

Facebook activity by far do not define someone..

 

[Dana]

I'd just like to clarify that since she lives in Vermont, that Facebook activities an text messaging is all I have to go by. I've heard from her since. Just an FYI. You all make me out to be some kinda freak. I downloaded Skype for her and even went out and bought a mic but we've yet to use it.

 

[Darrell]

You all make me out to be some kinda freak.

I don't think you have needed our help with that.

On a serious note, long distance relationships are tough. It may get easier to manage and communicate, or it may get much, much harder. You have to decide if it's worth it to you, or if you should look for something closer to home. IMHO.

 

[HK]

Facebook activities might be most of what you have to go on, but just because that's what your relationship is conducted through doesn't place anymore significance on her other actions there.

I'm sure it's harder not to read into it everytime she changes her status or profile picture, but you have to remember that for her, it's just facebook still, not the mirror into her soul. Try and keep it in perspective.

 

[Niamh]

I always have the chat thingy turned off on my FB. Why don't you just ask her straight out though Dana if you're concerned?, that whole game playing stuff is so annoying and unnecessary imo

 

[purpledove]

Good, open, honest communication is always the key to friendships or starting out relationships. Imo, I think it's better to talk to her than jump into conclusion of what maybe you're putting wrong meaning to

I always have my chat off at FB too. Doesn't mean I don't wanna chat with friends. They can inbox me if they want to. The communication is not closed just coz I opt to do that at FB :ninja

 

[Francis]

Have you ever heard of the term "unfounded fear" ?

Facebook activity by far do not define someone..

I'd just like to clarify that since she lives in Vermont, that Facebook activities an text messaging is all I have to go by. I've heard from her since. Just an FYI. You all make me out to be some kinda freak. I downloaded Skype for her and even went out and bought a mic but we've yet to use it.

Dana, did you bother looking up what I posted and the term I stated before you answered..

Basically an "unfounded fear" is one most of us have in many aspects of life. We all face it when uncertain of what is happening and our minds start to create imaginary fears that are many times just unrealistics to fill voids..

Here is an example of one from Yahoo's Answers..

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20080920194945AAhtbFj

Until you actually talk to her of she validates your fears by actually doing something much more concrete, I would not jump to conclusions..

 

[Dana]

LOL No I didn't Francis.

 

[Dana]

Facebook activities might be most of what you have to go on, but just because that's what your relationship is conducted through doesn't place anymore significance on her other actions there.

I'm sure it's harder not to read into it everytime she changes her status or profile picture, but you have to remember that for her, it's just facebook still, not the mirror into her soul. Try and keep it in perspective.

lmfao WTF? I think YOU'RE reading too much into this...