I have a question... Can you give me an answer?..

[Thornless]

I read more threads than I post in them. I don't always feel like I have anything to add to someones thread or I don't feel like it.

I thonk many people do the same, doesn't mean we don't like someone or haven't accepted them.

 

[Willow]

I am most likely the last person to comment on your post but I feel that way and I have only been here less then a month.
This site seems to be oldest and possibility one of the biggest.
Older doesn't seem to matter much but bigger is not always a good thing.
I started a thread a day or two ago asking basically how long does one have to be here to be accepted.
The answers I received were very good and all made sense.
One member even went a little further and " befriended " me, I was impressed.
I wouldn't do anything different because to do so , it wouldn't be the real you would it.
I don't know the bad guys from the good guys in here but I'm sure I'll will in time.
So Willow I suggest you keep on " keeping on ".
It would seem that you have done all the right things, it now falls on others to be more outgoing with you

One thing I think is very important is if someone takes the time to reply to your thread/post, you should make sure that you reply to theirs unless its something stupid.
And to be honest with you, that is one of the reasons I posted my thread.
Seems like at times I'm invisible.

I rest my case......

Hello

Thank you for your replies..
I couldn't reply to the posts in this thread yesterday, so today I posted something for everyone.. it's in post #41, in case you didn't see it..

I'm on a very slow dial up connection and it takes a long time for me to get to different pages..
I've been going down the thread all day, from the first post, and have been replying to everyone that posted here..

I've copy-pasted your posts here, and I'm bypassing a few of the others that were written before yours..

I will reply to you now, because I don't want you to think I'm ignoring you..

I've been around forums long enough to know that I should never ignore other members or replies to my threads... I would never do that intentionally.. unfortunately, I do have a very real life to live too..

I started this thread because I was seeing members registering here, posting a few times and then leaving, and thought I could get some answers to my question, not only for my sake, but to see if I could open some eyes to the fact that many people feel invisible in forums as big as this...

The answers have opened a few eyes, and I hope that by starting this thread, I can be of help to new members.. so again, I thank you..

Now, I need to get back into my real life for a while... I have many animals that need to be fed and put to bed, and a husband that is waiting very patiently for his dinner...

 

[freakofnature]

:lol In all my years on this earth, this is the first time anyone has said that to me!!.. If you only knew me!...
Have you seen my posts full of smileys?.. :tongue:

I had my own title in a forum I used to mod.. given to me by the owner.. Most of the time it was "The Smiley Queen Moderator"... but there were times when she would change it to "The Crazy Smiley Queen"..

Life is serious enough... If I can't have fun in a forum, I consider my time wasted..

You might have some competition for that title here.

 

[Willow]

Heck, I've been here for quite a while now and I feel ignored sometimes too, doesn't bother me though, a lot of threads and a lot of posts are made every day, people don't respond to everything they see, it's rare for even long time members to have a really successful thread. Oh and I much prefer you over the obnoxious shit stirrers any day

:smiley31: DK.. I would never ignore you!.. :smiley31:
You were my first friend here.. I still have your PMs and the lolcatz you posted for me, in my computer..
It seems to me that you have moved a point higher than cats by now.. :tongue:
I don't have the time to post a lot everyday anymore..
... And I also prefer you over some obnoxious shit stirrers!!..

EDIT: DK.. Never mind the stuff about cats.. I had you confused with someone else with a name full of letters!!..

...But I still prefer you over the shit stirrers.. and if you like, I can be your friend too!!.. :tongue:

 

[GoldDust Woman]

Willow... you are an asset here... stick around!

 

[Loyalist]

Sometimes one posts a thread, goes away for a day or two then comes back to lots of replies.
I can see that happening.
For myself I try not to post a thread if I know I'll be away and unable to answer.

 

[Willow]

I get ignored here (which is why I have a thread of me talking to myself that's over 100 pages long :ninja), I get ignored at my hockey forums, I get ignored at my model horse forum. It just happens. Whoopee. I guess I'm used to blending in so it doesn't bother me. :dunno I will also admit to ignoring a lot of the less established posters here. It has less to do with how much I like someone and more to do with me just being awkward and not knowing what to say to someone I don't know well. :ninja

Where is that thread?... Hope it's not on VIP, because at the rate I'm going, I'll be 100 years old before I can get there..
I should start something like that, so we can blend in, and ignore each other... together.. :tongue:

 

[freakofnature]

Where is that thread?... Hope it's not on VIP, because at the rate I'm going, I'll be 100 years old before I can get there..
I should start something like that, so we can blend in, and ignore each other... together.. :tongue:

LOL! It's in the Complex. You need a password for access. PM a mod if you want it.

 

[Willow]

I've never had any problem with you Willow :dunno

I've never had problems with you either..
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You wana have one now???..

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[Willow]

First off.... I like you Willow.

:smiley31: The feeling is mutual! :smiley31:

Secondly.... I've been at OTz a little while.... and at times I feel like I am truly invisible...

Invisible???...

You???....

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[Staci]

i dont post whore as much as i used to. lately i just try to pop in and try to catch up. i have read some of your posts and i have no issue with you.

 

[Willow]

I like you.

I don't always have a lot of time to post so I just tend to look at any threads where the title sounds interesting, I never look at who started it or anything like that. I also tend to skim read many threads which I then think "I'll reply to that later/tomorrow when I have more time" but then I just forget lol.

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[Willow]

...Just like you Willow, I am hoping its gonna be a lot friendlier here and less drama, fighting, sarcasm and antagonism as we have seen so much of it ..

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I like her a lot too :nod: and I am learning a lot from her. She had become of my my bestest buddies here @ OTz and is one reason why I am sticking here too despite I have the same feeling as her.

We had been both thinking to give up and leave Otz. But we're giving it our 2nd look with fresh set of eyes and maybe should include more heart eh? Maybe it will work :ninja

Thank you! ♥

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[Willow]

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No Way!!!..

 

[Willow]

I find it interesting that some of the more popular members have come in this thread saying they understand and feel the same way.

I must admit that at times I have felt invisible too. But then I realize that I don't respond to a lot of posts, what makes me think people are going to respond to mine? Just because people don't respond, doesn't mean they don't read and enjoy what you say.

Thank you!.. :flowers:

Don't feel invisible! ♥

I read a lot of the threads and posts, and try to reply as much as I can, but there are times that I have no more hours or minutes left...

:humm:... maybe I should give up sleeping... :tongue:

 

[Willow]

I think it is a feeling almost everyone get sometimes ..

There are times i feel best is not to write anything, maybe others don't like what i write, or don't like me..mostly i feel ignored...
but then again i think stupid lol maybe it is me and others around me act this way because am not very well communicating with others i mostly put short answers and do not quote a lot to make conversations on the forum ..
i keep a distance myself even i talk a lot here ..

also if you not active a lot there is not much chance other members to get to know you ..

Like you, English is my second language, and I had problems trying to communicate at one time..
Please don't put yourself down because your English is not perfect.. I understand everything you write.. and I like you just the way you are!..

 

[Willow]

I don't like anybody on this site so don't feel too bad

:lol I don't like you either!!.. :lol

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[Willow]

I just wanted to thank you for bringing this topic up. It's something that we've had complaints on from several new members and, although it's been discussed before by the mods, I think a lot of people brushed it off as it coming from the staff and not actual new members. This was one of the main reasons we started the "Get to know your mods" section.

The only way to solve these problems is to get them out in the open and talk about them. While I understand members being cautious about new members due to some of the problems w/ have w/ trolls, there IS a difference in being cautious and just being an outright ass to new members. THAT is what needs to be worked on.

Thank you Natasha.. ♥
Sorry for the delay with my reply, I've been going down the thread trying to reply to everyone.. got sidetracked by someone yesterday, and I just got a minute to get to your post and reply..

Although I'm not part of the staff here, I guess I wrote this thread with my mod hat on..
You know what they say.... "Once a Mod... Always a Mod"... :tongue:

I highlighted that part of your post, because I feel the same way.

I don't think many people realize that when someone registers in a new forum, especially a large one, they feel very intimidated and it is very hard for them to take that first step to start posting their introduction..
If they don't feel welcome after that first post, most won't even bother posting a second time..
I have always, as a mod, looked in the introduction threads first, and posted something, even if it was a welcome smiley, and encouraged everyone to do the same.. I think it really makes a big difference..

Trolls and flamers have a way to infiltrate forums no matter what, and some of them are very persistent.. they will register again and again with different aliases..but Mods will eventually catch them..

On the other hand, some people have trouble expressing themselves, and their posts come off as if they were written by a troll, when in fact they are harmless..

In my opinion, it is not up to any member, no matter how long they've been a member of a forum, to decide who is, or who isn't a troll or a flamer!..

If their first greeting to a new member is sarcastic or even remotely close to an attack... and the newbie is not a troll, but just a scared soul that was posting his or hers first ever post , in their first ever forum... that person will never come back to post again, even if their life depended on it!!..

Here it is, in a nutshell, my take on one of the problems I see here..

Hope I can help a little with my overly long posts... but I can't help it... there are times when I don't know when to shut up!!..

 

[Staci]

if it makes you feel any better...my hubby was part of this forum way before i was. when i first joined it still took awhile for people to even respond to me much less "like" me

 

[retro]

I get ignored here (which is why I have a thread of me talking to myself that's over 100 pages long :ninja), I get ignored at my hockey forums, I get ignored at my model horse forum. It just happens. Whoopee. I guess I'm used to blending in so it doesn't bother me. :dunno I will also admit to ignoring a lot of the less established posters here. It has less to do with how much I like someone and more to do with me just being awkward and not knowing what to say to someone I don't know well. :ninja

I really don't think that you get ignored at all. You won the most popular member contest, or I guess the Poster of the Year or whatever it was at the end of the year. That tells me that you're far from ignored. :24: