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JoeCool10 said:
I was fine with him when I first started posting here. It's kinda hard to keep a positive vibe about someone when the negative keeps lashing out. And about everything, too. I've noticed threads where he is hilarious and probably not bad company. However, I can see where the others are coming from, those who have been here longer than I and have seen the crap Dana posts about. It's ridiculous that thread after thread you see very little positivity in anything he writes. Last forum I posted on had a poster very similar, and it was one of the reasons I left.
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In reference to your second sentence. From my point of view? What I see is that it's hard to keep positive vibe when you see the majority of the members jumping his shit for what they don't like about him. It's a bully type mentality when you join in... be a leader, not a follower. :)
 
GoldDust Woman said:
In reference to your second sentence. From my point of view? What I see is that it's hard to keep positive vibe when you see the majority of the members jumping his shit for what they don't like about him. It's a bully type mentality when you join in... be a leader, not a follower. :)
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I'm not "joining in". I don't keep grudges. I don't NOT like Dana because he portrays an asshole online (and probably IRL). I don't like the negativity he posts. If he puts up a funny/positive thread, I'll comment accordingly. Just like I will with anyone else who posts. I'll comment on what the poster writes, because I have my own opinion. And like this thread, I understand why he did it, but what I don't understand is why he would keep it going, if not for the simple fact that he likes the attention? Either way, it makes no difference to me. At the end of the day, it won't be my problem, he won't bother me, and if he truly doesn't give a fuck, none of the comments on this thread will bother him.
 
GoldDust Woman said:
try responding to a post of his in a positive fashion, with a little laughter, and see if you don't get to know a different Dana.

It sure worked for me!
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i think many have, he seems to ignore these kinds of positive posts, maybe because he has a lot of negative ones to repsond to first, but he is quick to the defence , if it were me i would ignore the negative and respond to the postiive, he seems to choose the opposite
 
porterjack said:
i think many have, he seems to ignore these kinds of positive posts, maybe because he has a lot of negative ones to repsond to first, but he is quick to the defence , if it were me i would ignore the negative and respond to the postiive, he seems to choose the opposite
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Ya know, I'd probably be on the defensive if I had someone say this to me:

porterjack said:
imho you neither deserve respect nor sympathy nor even goodwill
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Zorak said:
That whole saga still rankles me today. Is it not ok to get on Dana's back, since he'll argue back? But the whole community could tell Jessica to get a life? When, let's be honest, some of the same offending members led a pretty similar existance, online and offline.
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you folks were impressed with my friend steve hayes' way of thinking on the mark twain thread, here's what steve just blogged this morning about 'virtual friends'

some food for thought. just saying. lol. doncha know?
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Friendship on the Internet.

Simone Back is an informative illustration. Ms Back had been posting messages on her FaceBook about how she was depressed. On Christmas day she posted, 'Took all my pills be dead soon bye bye everyone.' Her 'friends' responded with mockery and contempt. As she lay there dying, they accused her of lying and attention-seeking.


The next day she was found dead. Someone had finally taken her final message seriously and informed Simone's mother, who immediately contacted the police.

Something none of her 'friends' had thought to do, while they were competing to see who could be the most world-weary, cynic.

The story does not end there. For of all those 'friends', who left their messages of contempt and mockery, not one responded to Simone's mother's post, 'My daughter Simone passed away today so please leave her alone now.' Not a single word of regret.

Virtual friends: how apt.



 
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So, Tommy, you're saying we should take Dana's lashing out as a cry for help? Because I'm pretty sure people have. People have tried to offer constructive criticism, and were met with complete disinterest.

Relationships aren't all take take take. You have to give back sometimes, too. And that's the biggest problem I think people have.

Up until very very recently, I have tried really hard not to jump on the Dana bullying bandwagon. But sometimes, you ask for it. And I was in a shit mood last night, so I did what a lot of people here seem incapable of doing. I put him on ignore. It was better than arguing with him. It's not going to stay that way. I don't generally dislike Dana. I just dislike the attitude he portrays sometimes. And last night, I let it get to me.
 
TommyTooter said:
you folks were impressed with my friend steve hayes' way of thinking on the mark twain thread, here's what steve just blogged this morning about 'virtual friends'

some food for thought. just saying. lol. doncha know?
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Friendship on the Internet.

Simone Back is an informative illustration. Ms Back had been posting messages on her FaceBook about how she was depressed. On Christmas day she posted, 'Took all my pills be dead soon bye bye everyone.' Her 'friends' responded with mockery and contempt. As she lay there dying, they accused her of lying and attention-seeking.


The next day she was found dead. Someone had finally taken her final message seriously and informed Simone's mother, who immediately contacted the police.

Something none of her 'friends' had thought to do, while they were competing to see who could be the most world-weary, cynic.

The story does not end there. For of all those 'friends', who left their messages of contempt and mockery, not one responded to Simone's mother's post, 'My daughter Simone passed away today so please leave her alone now.' Not a single word of regret.

Virtual friends: how apt.
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I always take suicide threats seriously... on the forum that I own, I've contacted ISPs and law enforcement on a number of different occasions. One person turned out to be serious, and she was able to get the help that she needed as a result. That was on a forum, where we really don't know each other outside of the forum... on Facebook, most people have people that they actually know as friends... which makes that story all the more sad. :(
 
retro said:
I always take suicide threats seriously... on the forum that I own, I've contacted ISPs and law enforcement on a number of different occasions. One person turned out to be serious, and she was able to get the help that she needed as a result. That was on a forum, where we really don't know each other outside of the forum... on Facebook, most people have people that they actually know as friends... which makes that story all the more sad. :(
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that was the first thought that went through my mind too. my whole family is on facebook as well as all my RW friends.

while i'm not concerned about anybody here suiciding, i am concerned that some of the people don't have much going for them in the RW and don't talk about friends or family they can count on in a crisis of any kind.

if we are the only friends for some of the people around these forums, don't you think it would behoove us to reach for as much kindness and compassion as we can when they look to cry on our shoulders or help them work through a dilemma?
 
anathelia said:
So, Tommy, you're saying we should take Dana's lashing out as a cry for help? Because I'm pretty sure people have. People have tried to offer constructive criticism, and were met with complete disinterest.

Relationships aren't all take take take. You have to give back sometimes, too. And that's the biggest problem I think people have.

Up until very very recently, I have tried really hard not to jump on the Dana bullying bandwagon. But sometimes, you ask for it. And I was in a shit mood last night, so I did what a lot of people here seem incapable of doing. I put him on ignore. It was better than arguing with him. It's not going to stay that way. I don't generally dislike Dana. I just dislike the attitude he portrays sometimes. And last night, I let it get to me.
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please don't put words in my mouth that were not there.

steve said what he said about the nature of virtual friendship.

in response to your invention of my thoughts, i will say dana needs to stop snapping and snarling at the people who poke him with sticks.
 
TommyTooter said:
please don't put words in my mouth that were not there.

steve said what he said about the nature of virtual friendship.

in response to your invention of my thoughts, i will say dana needs to stop snapping and snarling at the people who poke him with sticks.
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I didn't put words in your mouth. I asked a clarification question. There's no need to jump on the defense with me.
 
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