Emotional Connection or Physical Attraction?

[I Like Needles]

Do you think that is love?

Yes, I do.
It's our 2 year anniversary on the 26th


@zirconaz: haha just 1 person, I didnt feel like typing he/she 12 times, to protect my secret identidy

 

[freakofnature]

Yes, I do.
It's our 2 year anniversary on the 26th


@zirconaz: haha just 1 person, I didnt feel like typing he/she 12 times, to protect my secret identidy

Right then. Two headed alien it is.

 

[Roxi]

Emotional for me, but there has to be a hint of attraction or it won't lead to anything.. Can be anything from just nice eyes to a nice shaped butt

 

[darkangel]

I have to have both. He doesn't have to be the hottest guy but cute at the least...

 

[cam elle toe]

Both...gotta be honest. There has to be some physical attraction to get me interested in making the emotional connection.

 

[Peter Parka]

Both to start off with but definately emotional connection in the long term. How many 80 year old men do you see who love their wives AND find them attractive? I've met girls who I found repulsive but over a year or so of getting to know them, quite fancied them, I'[ve also found that, as you get older, physical attraction dosent play a big as part, maybe for a quick shag but definately nothing long term.

 

[RedRyder]

Both...gotta be honest. There has to be some physical attraction to get me interested in making the emotional connection.

:homo:

 

[lovenslowmotion]

Both to start off with but definately emotional connection in the long term. How many 80 year old men do you see who love their wives AND find them attractive? I've met girls who I found repulsive but over a year or so of getting to know them, quite fancied them, I'[ve also found that, as you get older, physical attraction dosent play a big as part, maybe for a quick shag but definately nothing long term.

That made me giggle, haha.

 

[KimmyCharmeleon]

Both to start off with but definately emotional connection in the long term. How many 80 year old men do you see who love their wives AND find them attractive? I've met girls who I found repulsive but over a year or so of getting to know them, quite fancied them, I'[ve also found that, as you get older, physical attraction dosent play a big as part, maybe for a quick shag but definately nothing long term.

:homo:
Quite true, you have a point there.

 

[bigsmoke419]

The way i see it, there must be at least a little of both, i have been with women that i have been physically attracted to but not emotionally, thats probably why were not together right now lol ive also been with women that i have only been emotionally connected with, we were able to talk for hours about everything but it seemed more of a friend situation than anything.

 

[Finnishblond]

Yeah, Well, I can only create emotional bond to long hair

 

[Dana]

to have a relationship that last I believe you have to have both.

 

[All Else Failed]

There needs to be some sort of physical attraction or nothing will happen.

 

[Dame of Fail]

I was wondering you're opinions/thoughts/feelings about the importance of physical attraction versus an emotional connection. While I know that physical attraction is important on some level (sometimes on ALL levels), could you completely write off someone that you had an extraordinary emotional connection with, but wasn't physically attracted to? Would that prohibit you in wanting to pursue a relationship with them?

I know that beauty is in the eyes of the beholder & honestly, I would rather connect with someone on an emotional/mental level than focus on whether or not they're hott. Some of the most attractive guys have been the most cockiest, self-absorbed, & the most shallow (Not all, some). Personally, I prefer intellectual conversation & connection more than concentrating on their physical appearance, but that's just me.

Which is the most important to you?

(when I was single) I could not have sex with someone I was not physically attracted to, so, I always chose physical attraction, first; however, if I found that he did not behold the mental / emotional qualities I seeked in a potential partner / bf / lover, etc, it always ended before it began.

 

[Xeno]

I was wondering you're opinions/thoughts/feelings about the importance of physical attraction versus an emotional connection. While I know that physical attraction is important on some level (sometimes on ALL levels), could you completely write off someone that you had an extraordinary emotional connection with, but wasn't physically attracted to? Would that prohibit you in wanting to pursue a relationship with them?

I know that beauty is in the eyes of the beholder & honestly, I would rather connect with someone on an emotional/mental level than focus on whether or not they're hott. Some of the most attractive guys have been the most cockiest, self-absorbed, & the most shallow (Not all, some). Personally, I prefer intellectual conversation & connection more than concentrating on their physical appearance, but that's just me.

Which is the most important to you?

I have always believed in following my heart for some odd reason. I just feel that connecting with someone emotionally is a bit more real than physically. I suppose that is what true love is in a sense. To able to love someone no matter what they may look like, but just for who they are as a person. I just feel more comfortable with the emotional part more because it gives me more of a sense on where we stand in a relationship. Are we loving each other for our looks or for what is in our hearts? I would like to believe that true beautiful lies within our own hearts. That is just me though. I am sure it is different for others here.

 

[HK]

If you love someone, it shouldn't be 'in spite of how they look', it should be equally because you find them attractive, regardless of how attractive others find them, and you connect with them mentally/emotionally. A lack in either area will eventually bring up issues in any relationship.

It's not a case of what's more important - if you're not feeling the whole package then it's not enough, wherever the shortfall is.

 

[sexysadie]

I'd have to say both. I mean, I have friends, both male and female, who I am emotionally connected to at some level, and I've dated men where only the emotional attraction developed, and men where the attraction was purely physical....but there is nothing like being with somebody who attracts both your mind and your body....I think we should settle for nothing less.

 

[Niamh]

To me both are required to have a good romantic relationship with someone, it's all well and good being emotionally compatible but you have to want to kiss and make love to the person as well otherwise it's just a friendship and on the otherside I want my partner to be on the same level as me emotionally and to not just find them attractive but to be able to have a good conversation and a bit of a laugh with them too.

 

[Peter Parka]

To the people who picked either physical or both, do you plan on dumping your partner when they get old and ugly?

 

[HK]

To the people who picked either physical or both, do you plan on dumping your partner when they get old and ugly?

If someone picked just physical then I guess the question makes sense but I think both are important, and that doesn't mean that attraction doesn't change over time. If no one found older people sexy, widows would never get remarried

I mean, when I was 14 I thought 14 year old boys were the shit! They were sooo hawt.... now that I'm ten years older, I don't get it at all. So the chances are when me and my boyfriend are in our fifties, I'll be looking at guys in their twenties wondering why I ever thought such children were sexy

We think 'old' isn't attractive when we're young, but old people must have a different opinion on that or no one would ever find love after divorce or death.