Balancing Romance and Masculinity

[BadBoy@TheWheel]

How important is it that a man be a man first, strong, protective and firm, when balanced against the need that women have for romance.

Women, and men can both weigh in on what they think the emphasis is, and how important the components are.

 

[Springsteen]

I don't think we should be too eager to please, it's a dangerous line really.

 

[SammyStephens]

Depends on the woman, and women change from day to day

 

[333halfabeast]

I think it is key to having a great relationship. I just also believe that the scale of balance tips in different directions depending on the woman too.

 

[satinbutterfly]

I think the problem with men and romance, is they let their egos get too involved.

And, a woman's idea of masculinity and a man's usually don't match up.

 

[333halfabeast]

I think the problem with men and romance, is they let their egos get too involved.

And, a woman's idea of masculinity and a man's usually don't match up.

:homo:

I have noticed quite a few men that think that we like caveman masculinity versus just a rugged man.

 

[All Else Failed]

you say it as if romance is not masculine?

 

[itsmeJonB]

i beet up guyz hoo look at mah woman rong.

 

[All Else Failed]

:homo:

I have noticed quite a few men that think that we like caveman masculinity versus just a rugged man.

What defines a "rugged" man?

 

[333halfabeast]

What defines a "rugged" man?

Much like beauty, the definition of that is strictly in the eye of the beholder.

 

[thatguyjeff]

Depends on the woman, and women change from moment to moment

Fixed your post.

 

[BadBoy@TheWheel]

I think you can be strong and soft, and you need to know where the line is.

My wife appreciates the rugged side of me, the need to be outdoors, guns, fishing, baseball and hunting. But she also needs to know I have heart.

But not the whiney, sappy overly sensitive type, she likes the rugged heart, the masculine compassion.

Anything else is hollywood and cliche

 

[All Else Failed]

I think you can be strong and soft, and you need to know where the line is.

My wife appreciates the rugged side of me, the need to be outdoors, guns, fishing, baseball and hunting. But she also needs to know I have heart.

But not the whiney, sappy overly sensitive type, she likes the rugged heart, the masculine compassion.

Anything else is hollywood and cliche

So what romantic things have you done that your wife considers to be "rugged" yet soft?

 

[BadBoy@TheWheel]

So what romantic things have you done that your wife considers to be "rugged" yet soft?

To her it's seeing me teaching my oldest boy to fish, or swing a baseball bat.

Or something as simple as taking a task from her and doing it, grabbing a mirror she's trying to hang and helping her.....Holding her and not saying anything simply because I know she needs the strength and protection from something painful she's going through.

It's not Hallmark romance, it's human

 

[AUDRAA]

Balance is totally the key here when it comes to sweeping a woman off her feet. A woman needs to be able to feel secure when shes with her man and that he can bring it if he needs to. But I also like the side of my husband thats not afraid to hold my hand or kiss me in public. The man that will whoot and holler with the guys, go out and get all hot and sweaty doing whatever guy stuff you do, but not be afraid to come home and cuddle with us on the couch and watch a movie.

 

[Peter Parka]

I couldn't care less, I just be myself, if a woman dosen't like that balance, who cares? I've got a woman, anyway. If you pander to what a woman wants when it's not what you want, you're only going to end up miserable.

 

[BadBoy@TheWheel]

I couldn't care less, I just be myself, if a woman dosen't like that balance, who cares? I've got a woman, anyway. If you pander to what a woman wants when it's not what you want, you're only going to end up miserable.

Not if your wish is to make her happy...Two people in a relationship should compliment the gaps in the other person, if not you're just sharing space

 

[All Else Failed]

To her it's seeing me teaching my oldest boy to fish, or swing a baseball bat.

Or something as simple as taking a task from her and doing it, grabbing a mirror she's trying to hang and helping her.....Holding her and not saying anything simply because I know she needs the strength and protection from something painful she's going through.

It's not Hallmark romance, it's human

do you surprise her with anything? idk

 

[BadBoy@TheWheel]

do you surprise her with anything? idk

All the time. But to me who I am and how I act says more than what I buy her.....Typically when I am hung up on buying something for her, it's out of guilt of some kind.

What she wants is me, that's what I should work on giving her

 

[Peter Parka]

Making someone happy by changing your personality to what they want is an unreasonable expectation and will make you miserable because it's not in your heart of hearts what you agree with.