Pissed Off!

[Veronica]

Ok, Maybe Im just being a bitch... Heres the situation

Yall know that Zach is working nights.. I work days - so I NEVER see him.. Well does it count that I sleep in the bed with him for 3-4 hours with me not even knowing he is in bed?.. He is suppose to have the weekends off- but his work has this thing called a draft, where they will draft workers to work weekends too and its manditory.. Last weekend he was drafted. I had no kids (i did work.. but I had the nights free for us time...He didnt even get home till 1 or so..

Well, Since I havent spend any quality time with him for over 2 weeks now, I was looking forwards to this weekend. I made plans to go out with a friend of mine and her boyfriend. Zach really likes her boyfriend, so it would be good. I was really looking forward to it. Now he tells me that he has to work again.. I know i shouldnt be pissed at him.. its not his fault.. But WTF! This is worse than when I was married!! I am beyond pissed.. I even told zach to NOT text me for a while because I am pissed off.. I dont want to say anything to him that I would regret.... I was really looking forward to spending some alone time with him.. to have my BOYFRIEND BACK!! This sucks.

I am sitting here at work with tears running down my face because I am so aggravated! Why even have a man when you dont see him??!!!

 

[BadBoy@TheWheel]

Ummmm V.....He has to work right? I mean be glad he has a job right now.....Jeepers

 

[wednesday]

sweety....im sorry, no your not being a bitch, your angry and upset because you made plans .
What sort of job does Zach do?...Is it necessary for him to do weekends?.cant he sayno sorry..i have made plans?
*hugs* feel for you hun

 

[BadBoy@TheWheel]

If I didn't know you so well...I would say that you have a tendency to focus on the most minute issues to build walls up between you and those you love:ninja

 

[RedRyder]

Wow V... That does suck.

Is this pattern gonna end soon or will it become the norm?

 

[nursey1972]

Hugs V... I am so sorry and wish there was something that I could say to make it better... but I know how tough it is to work separate shifts... all I can say is if he didn't volunteer for this weekend, it's not really his fault but I understand being pissed..

Have you guys sat and talked about all this yet??

 

[MommyOfAnAngel]

*hugs* i basically have the same the same problem. my boyfriend works from 630 until 4.. and i usually work from 3 until midnight.. that changes sometimes, but not very often . we are lucky to see each other four or five hours a week. i hope things get better for you and that you get some time together soon. just try to be mad at him. he cant help it if it is mandatory. all you can hope for is that they stop picking him for work for a while. good luck and a million hugs are sent your way!

 

[Veronica]

Evan, Im not pushing him away.. and yes, I am glad he is working.. However, he already works over time EVERDAY! He works 10 hour shifts 5 days a week PLUS the weekends so, your looking at 70 hour WEEKS! Its just aggravating. I know its manditory- but some of the weekends is by HIS request.. We planned on doing alot of stuff in the house- but that wont happen.. I STILL dont have a WORKING stove, or dishwasher.. and Im about to go freaking mad!

 

[BadBoy@TheWheel]

Evan, Im not pushing him away.. and yes, I am glad he is working.. However, he already works over time EVERDAY! He works 10 hour shifts 5 days a week PLUS the weekends so, your looking at 70 hour WEEKS! Its just aggravating. I know its manditory- but some of the weekends is by HIS request.. We planned on doing alot of stuff in the house- but that wont happen.. I STILL dont have a WORKING stove, or dishwasher.. and Im about to go freaking mad!

P/M sent.

 

[motorbyclist]

Wow, must be real difficult.

You probably need to talk about it, but when do you get a chance?

I feel sorry for both of you.

 

[Veronica]

I know I am overreacting about this.. I dont want him to quit his job or anything like that.

Yall can tell me I am being stupid. I just want to stop crying about it.

 

[wednesday]

Well ya not being stupid......but please dont cry.

 

[Ryder]

Ask him to talk to his boss about it V.

 

[MommyOfAnAngel]

you are not being stupid. you have feelings and they are hurt. that is not stupid at all. just let him know how you feel that you'd like him to not request any weekends for a while... and please dont cry.

 

[Alien Allen]

sheesh I would give anything to have that limited time with my wife

I offered to build a shed she could sleep in but she nixed that idea. I told her I would throw in a space heater and a fan too. Ungrateful bitch. :ninja

 

[wednesday]

sheesh I would give anything to have that limited time with my wife

I offered to build a shed she could sleep in but she nixed that idea. I told her I would throw in a space heater and a fan too. Ungrateful bitch. :ninja

:24::24::24:

 

[Veronica]

I guess he always spoiled me before... Now I am having to do everything alone again, and that sucks..

I dont mind making sacrifices..i just being selfish i know.

 

[Veronica]

oh and I cant ask him to talk to his bosss.. the job is new for him.. pays him really well. (he works on the air force base on airplanes)

 

[MommyOfAnAngel]

everyone is allowed to be a little selfish sometimes

 

[wednesday]

I dont think your being selfish.....you just want things to be normal, and your probably feeling like this will be forever...I completely understand.