would you call someone out or let it go to save peace?

[AUDRAA]

today I caught my sil in a lie, it wasnt a big deal but Im shocked and confused why she would have done something like this to me especially when she knows how much I hate that stuff. Should I confront her or let it go to save piece since we are all going on a trip together in a week? Im really torn and shocked she would do this, I never expected this from her.

 

[Natasha]

I think it depends on the severity of the lie. If it's something completely out of line, then it needs to be addressed. Otherwise, I'd let it be.

Either way, I'd wait until after the trip. No sense in ruining a vacation for everybody.

 

[NuckingFuts]

It depends on what it is. Where are you all going?

 

[AUDRAA]

Like I said it isnt something thats major, its kinda more on the principal kinda thing yanno? I think youre right Ill wait. I think she knows I know what she did anyway that would be enough for me to feel bad but who knows with some people.
Tom- Turks and Caicos leaving next sunday for a week

 

[36gamer]

Well it depends on the severity of the lie. I mean sometimes people just casually and absent mindly lie about stupid stuff just for the ease of explaining things. These lies are pretty harmless, and would really cause more harm to make a big deal about than to ignore. But then there are lies that are big deals like "Where have you been? " "Was hanging out at the mall." when really the person was doing something they don't want to admit to. Ultimately you are going to have to think about if bringing the lie out into the opening and discussing why the other person felt to lie will end up going well and be productive, or if it will cause more stress and annoyance than any potential fix it may make. It really depends on the situation, the other person, and how you handle it. Good luck =)

 

[AUDRAA]

this wasnt something she lied about in a response to me, this was a purposeful she went out of her way to tell me something that I hadnt even brought up in conversation and it was bullshit

 

[Jezzebelle]

I think it's clearly upsetting you a lot, so you should talk to her about it and clear the air... or else the whole vacation you might feel ill towards her.

 

[AnitaBeer]

Wait til on your vaca and you have a super big cake by you, then grab the cake and toss it in her face then let her know what's up! hahaha ok ok j/k
I would bring it up. Depending on what the issue is, it would determine the ton in which I bring it up.

 

[AUFred]

I would watch her carefully. If you find her in more dishonesty then it is time to have a conversation.

 

[AUDRAA]

It is really making me wonder what else she has told me thats bullshit and if I can trust her on things I have told her. She knows I hate lying more than anything and that Id rather someone say nothing to me if they are going to lie. Also the fact that she could just do it to my face like it was nothing to her, how can people act like that and have no concience. Well I clearly need to re-evaluate our friendship thats for sure.

 

[Kyle B]

Wait til on your vaca and you have a super big cake by you, then grab the cake and toss it in her face then let her know what's up! hahaha ok ok j/k
I would bring it up. Depending on what the issue is, it would determine the ton in which I bring it up.

This sounds like something I'd see on Real Housewives of New Jersey. ha ha

In all seriousness though, don't let this spoil your trip but don't blow up on her either.

 

[TGLucario475]

I'd talk to her now about it, before you go away, as you could end up making the holiday even worse if you have to talk about it there.

 

[dancingpotato]

I have a friend who used to tell little lies all the time, nothing major. I let it slide cos I felt it wasn't worth it to ruin her little fantasies that she was telling lies on. I have now known her for near on 8 years and barely see her anymore, due to life getting in the way. I have heard from other friends that her lies are now out of hand and they are now bigger lies which have got her in trouble at work before. IMO I'd say something now before it spirals. Especially since you know she has lied, it would not be false accusation.

 

[Keight]

I would say to leave it, however I do believe not confronting them about it may end becoming more detrimental than originally realized. Niger can sit and fester and it may turn into something way worse.

 

[teh_fuzz]

Odds are if she lied and you know, she is probably aware of that. People react in certain ways when they know they have been lied to, you may have already let her know you are aware of the lie simply by unconscious actions.