Which Hurts More: To Be Cheated With Another Guy/Gal or Be Cheated With The Same Sex?

[Lizbeth19ph]

This is quite an odd question but then it happens in reality wherein at times partners are cheated on with the same sex (the partner coming out of the closet and you just found out he/she is of the third sex). So which case do you think hurts more? To be cheated with another guy/gal? Or be cheated with the same sex?

 

[Qamra]

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That's a tough one.
Well, I think cheating hurts, no matter who with.
I can't imagine my boyfriend sleeping with anybody else, man or woman, doesn't matter.
If someone cheats on you with same sex, it makes them not only a dirty cheater, but also a liar, if they stated to be hetero.
We are monogamists or we not together. Simple.
It's ok to be gay, bi, hetero and everything but rules in relationships still apply.

 

[The Man]

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If a woman is going to cheat with another woman ...I want to watch.

 

[diprod]

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I say both. It doesn't matter which gender, it's still cheating. I would be hurt just the same.

 

[NuckingFuts]

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Cheating is cheating. It does not matter what sex your partner cheated with. It is still unacceptable.

 

[illusion]

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It's probably more shocking to find out that your spouse/partner is having sex with a same sex partner. But, I don't think that it's that much different than cheating with someone of the opposite sex. I guess it depends on what your background is with same sex relationships. If you think that a relationship with a same sex partner is unusual in the first place, then finding out your partner is into that would really be a shock. But, if you don't think it's that surprising that someone you know is gay, then finding out that your spouse is open to same sex relationship shouldn't be the end of the world. The cheating on the other had, shows serious disrespect for the partners feelings regardless of any other aspects of the cheating.

 

[kat74]

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I think cheating is cheating, it does not matter whether same sex or opposite. Both relationship require trust and fidelity and since one loves the other, then one will feel hurt just the same.

 

[Minormc]

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I would have to say it hurt in general for someone to betray your trust, but I would go with the same sex because the opposite sex can't compete with that. If it's the opposite then yes there is a possibility that can change.

 

[BaltimoreJay]

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I've been cheated on both ways. The girl who cheated with a man did so with a very close friend of mine. In that case the sense of betrayal aspect of it felt a lot worse because two people who I trusted had betrayed that trust.

Having the other girl cheat on me with a woman felt pretty awful too. In her case I didn't know the other person or anything. I still felt betrayed. She was easier to forgive though. She was in the closet (now identifies as a lesbian) and having a horrible time coming to terms with her sexual identity. While I wish she had just been honest about all of that with me, or at last had the decency to end things with me before sleeping with somebody else I still can't be all mad about it.

The other two I don't think I've ever really forgiven. Thinking back on it still makes me angry even though it happened such a long time ago.

 

[MyDigitalpoint]

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I believe that being cheated is just the same regardless the sex of the person your loved one is cheated on you, but depend on each one how it feels when the third in a relationship is either of the same sex or not.

I suppose there are ethical, moral, and social concerns involved but to me is no way-back road that someone takes, because I don't forgive if someone cheats on me.

 

[deansaliba]

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If a woman is going to cheat with another woman ...I want to watch.

This, in fact I've told me girlfriend I don't mind as long as I can watch, I've even offered to draw up a list of her friends I think she should get with. Apparently that is just weird though.

 

[Denis Hard]

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Why should we have double standards? That if a woman cheats with another woman, the 'evil' deed can be excused because it's mostly oral sex they get? Well, for me, I wouldn't abide by that.

 

[Josie]

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Gay is a third sex?

Anyway.. if I found out my husband was cheating on me with another man, I would be overwhelmed by my life being turned upside down... what that means about our lives together and the future ahead of us. By what my children would be about to go through by watching us separate, amicably or not (and of course, the cool parents we are, would make it as easy on them as possible, but still... so many changes). Above all though, I would remember what this means. That my husband has been living a lie and that he is now free. I would feel horribly about the years he spent as someone he's not and I would feel horribly for myself, losing the husband I thought I had; but I would stand by him and help him through it any way that I could. He may have cheated on me, but the years weren't wasted.. I had a wonderful husband and now the tough part of moving on. We also have two beautiful children. Awesome! It wouldn't be an all around horrible thing at all. It would be so hard and so painful, but we'd get past it. I wouldn't be angry; more sad.

If it were a girl? Game over.. he'd regret it lol

 

[The Man]

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Which Hurts More: To Be Cheated With Another Guy/Gal or Be Cheated With The Same Sex?

I would say the elastic properties of the vagina could be a determining factor.

 

[darkcgi]

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society has made it difficult to come out with your sexual preference
so people bottle up that to fit in society and when they meet new partners they get relaxed and try to be who they really are

 

[Niyi Briggs]

Whether it is with a co lady or another man that my girl is cheating with, it would hurt the same. The key thing there is the betrayal to share what we have in common with another. But I would never sleep with a girl that sleeps with another girl.

 

[cherry123]

Well, cheating isn't my deal breaker. I don't even know what it is. But cheating is cheating no matter the gender. You need to just let go o3f you can't continue with the relationship