When is enough enough?

[Kat]

Note to all before starting this thread: This is a purly rethorical question!

If you are truly in love with someone ( and there is no physical/mental abuse...no cheating or anything like that) when is enough enough? When do you give up on the relationship and say I can't take the arguments/ disagreements anymore. When do you give up and walk away? This can mean anything for anyone.... I understand that some people will read this in their own way and make their responses based on that....I guess what I'm saying is when the bad gets to be more than the good what would you do?


I'll post my answer after a bit....just want to see what ya'll think

 

[Darkstar]

In my opinion, if you are truly in love with someone, and there is no sort of abuse...there is no reason for to walk away. Every relationship has arguements and disagreements, thats not a reason to give up on someone you truly love.

 

[SilentEyz]

When The Bad starts to get Too Bad, I guesss if the Love is really there, and still there, Maybe Counseling, Find out where the trip mark is. Maybe more "lets Talk about what brought this on"

As the Love is strong, I think there is probably still a solution, But when the bad gets Bad where you say, I love them, But.. Is that enough anymore, I love them, But I don't want to be with them.. I love them..But, I find no happiness with them anymore.. Then it might be time to walk away,.. If even temporarily to see How strong your feelings still are.. Time Away can say alot.

 

[BreakfastSurreal]

the way i found out enough was enough was leaving for a few days...i kept expecting to be overwhelmed with distress and emotion, but it never happened...i thought i was just in shock...but i waited...and no emotion. we had been carrying out a relationship but the love had died out long before. It's sad to find out, but also very liberating.

 

[Super ReTard]

FUCK realtionships i just want pussy

 

[TheOriginalJames]

If you asked this question of 1 million people, it will inevitably be answered 1 million different ways.

Everybody has their own breaking points, everybody can only get fed up with arguements, lying, etc at their own rate.

 

[Super ReTard]

If you asked this question of 1 million people, it will inevitably be answered 1 million different ways.

Everybody has their own breaking points, everybody can only get fed up with arguements, lying, etc at their own rate.

Quit making crap up

 

[OUZBnd]

FUCK realtionships i just want pussy

With the amount of time you waste posting crap like that, i'd be surprised if you've ever got what you wanted.

 

[SaintKourus]

I don't have a breaking point, I do however make an effort to find the breaking point of every girl I've ever been in a relationship with. I actually get in relationships with girls just so I can find their breaking point. its fun how much abuse some people can take.

 

[TheOriginalJames]

Quit making crap up

You first. Then I just might follow suit.

 

[Kat]

ok...wish certain people would have refrained from getting involved in this discussion...

But in answer to my own question....If you truly love someone then for me at least it is never enough....There is never any problem that the two of you cant face together...(as long as he/ she feels the same)...I dont think I could ever give up on us...besides...I've fought too long already to ever feel like just rolling over and giving up...

I even posed a similar question to my bf once...when we were fighting...I asked him what will we do when the bad gets to be more than the good...his answer...we work thru it...keep fighting (for us) till we make things right...


Thanks for the answers everyone...(except a specific 2 ) Like I said I was curious to know

 

[peppermint]

FUCK realtionships i just want pussy

.. Said the eternal virgin.

If you are truly in love with someone ( and there is no physical/mental abuse...no cheating or anything like that) when is enough enough?

When is enough enough? If you make a promise in marriage, and there is still love, then you stick it out. You grow, they grow, you learn to communicate better, and hopefully things get better. A promise is something that should be kept, if it's in marriage.

If we're talking about something outside of marriage, then the rules are different. If you can't stand to be around the person, then you do your best to break up amicably. Why make them and yourself miserable any longer? If you're not married to them, then you shouldn't keep wasting time that could be spent finding the right person for you.

Ideally, there would be only one right person for everyone, but ideals are meant to be shattered sometimes. Love is more than a hot sensual feeling. It's more than passion or compassion. It's more than friendship. It's more than comfort. It's about a promise to be there, during good times and bad times, and it's about the deliverance of that promise even when the last thing you want to do is keep it.

Love is patient, Love is kind,
It does not envy, it does not boast,
It is not proud, It is not rude,
It is not self-seeking,
It is not easily angered,
It keeps no record of wrongs.

Love does not delight in evil,
but rejoices with the truth.

Love always protects, always trusts,
always hopes, always perseveres.

Love bears all things, believes all things,
hopes all things, endures all things.

Love never ends.

L o v e N e v e r F a i l s.



Relationships fail, because human's fail. Love doesn't fail. It's not human. It's not emotion. It's in you, a part of you, and when you give it to somebody, in truth, it lives on. Even if the relationship doesn't remain the same, real love never dies.

So in a marriage, if there is no abuse, and love still lives, you stick it out.

That's my opinion and I'm sticking with it.

 

[Kat]

peppermint I couldnt have said it better myself ...thanks

 

[SaintKourus]

I'm laffing pretty hard at what Peppermint said right now. I find ignorance amusing.
to show you what I'm talking about let me use this example. but first you must ask "what is love?"

Ok, lets say you get married to a guy, he's handsome, rich, smart, and funny. But why did you marry him? Was it for his looks? his personality? his money? Love is nothing more than the chemicals in your brain that attracts two people together for reproductive purposes. Don't believe me? then what are you attracted to? Lets say you don't know why you're in love with your man...lets say he goes broke now. He is poor, do you still love him? ok, lets say you do still love him. Now suddenly he is in a car crash and is deformed. Do you still love him? Ok, lets say you do still love him, so I guess his money and looks weren't what you were in love with...was it his personality? Whoops! He fell down some stairs and has brain damage and his personality is drastically different. He can't think properly and he is often violent without reason. Now that he is a completely different person, do you still love him? So all you really loved about him was his personality...that is, as long as he didn't change his personality. If you do happen to still love him that is only because you love what he was.
Love is always conditional.

 

[OUZBnd]

Everything can be broken down to chemistry, so whats your point? That you will live a long, unhappy, and meaningless life?

 

[Kat]

I'm laffing pretty hard at what Peppermint said right now. I find ignorance amusing.
to show you what I'm talking about let me use this example. but first you must ask "what is love?"

Ok, lets say you get married to a guy, he's handsome, rich, smart, and funny. But why did you marry him? Was it for his looks? his personality? his money? Love is nothing more than the chemicals in your brain that attracts two people together for reproductive purposes. Don't believe me? then what are you attracted to? Lets say you don't know why you're in love with your man...lets say he goes broke now. He is poor, do you still love him? ok, lets say you do still love him. Now suddenly he is in a car crash and is deformed. Do you still love him? Ok, lets say you do still love him, so I guess his money and looks weren't what you were in love with...was it his personality? Whoops! He fell down some stairs and has brain damage and his personality is drastically different. He can't think properly and he is often violent without reason. Now that he is a completely different person, do you still love him? So all you really loved about him was his personality...that is, as long as he didn't change his personality. If you do happen to still love him that is only because you love what he was.
Love is always conditional.

There is way more to it than that...you dont have the slightest idea. Ya know I kinda pity you in some ways