What does borrow mean to you?

[AUFred]

When I was growing up if I "borrowed" something I returned it as quickly as I was finished with it and in at least as good of condition as when I borrowed it, sometimes better. If I borrowed a vehicle I returned it with more fuel in it than when I borrowed it or filled the tank. Borrowed seems to be a different concept with young people of "thanks I need that"....Unless you ask for it to be returned you may never see it again. I just explained that to my daughter again. If she borrows anything it disappears into that black hole she calls her room to never see the light of day again.

My wife's computer had to be repaired and the best repair was to wipe clean and start over. She lost several games she likes to play. I knew I had the discs and promised I would re-load them today. I could not find the discs anywhere I thought they might be. I text my daughter and asked about them. "I borrowed them" "I can get them for you when I come home."

:willy_nilly::willy_nilly::willy_nilly:

 

[HK]

I think this is a familiarity thing. My sisters and I behaved in a similar way when we were at home but with our friends and co-workers, we borrow things and return them promptly.

 

[Darrell]

I don't borrow stuff from people because I am admittedly terrible at returning things in a timely manner.

 

[Panacea]

Similar to the trust thread...I think the best of people, but hell if I will lend anything to anyone. I'd give my boyfriend my arm, but there are certain things I wouldn't even lend to him lol. Seems like every time I give in to a "can I borrow..." request, I lose whatever it was.

 

[hart]

I always lend things with the resolve in my mind I might not see it again. If I don't they never get loaned anything. I seem to be one who ends up loaning small amounts of money a lot. I too believe if you borrow something you leave it in at least as good condition if not better than you borrowed it in.

 

[jassilem]

If I borrow something I return as soon as I am done using it. If the item is lost, broken or the like I will replace item with the same thing or the closest I can find.

 

[Springsteen]

If I borrow money I always try and return it as soon as possible, quite often giving them an actual day. I only borrow if I absolutely have to, moneywise.

If I lend someone money I expect it back eventually.

It's the same with other things as well, though with more physical things I get them back sooner.

 

[Francis]

Well borrowed usually means that if I borrow something from someone they will usually claim I broke it and have to buy them a new one..

However if I lend them something it usually means it will come back looking like it's been through a grinding machine, even if it had not yet been used..

Oh and my daughter is a master at borrowing things I had no idea she had in hand.. So now the rule is if she borrows it she owns it and buys me a new one

 

[Pumpkin]

I always return something I have borrowed in at least the same condition I borrowed it in, however I sometimes leave longer than needed between when I finished with the item and when I return it (if I know the person does not need it immediately), simply out of laziness.

Something similar, more about attitude...a few weeks ago I went out for dinner with 2 girlfriends. At the end of the meal the waiter told us that their card machine was not working so we had to pay in cash. Not a problem for me, but one of my friends had no cash so I paid her 25euros. After thanking me, she giggled and said 'but you will have to remind me that I owe you because I always forget and you'll never get that money back otherwise.'

Grrrrr NO, that really annoyed me!

 

[hart]

Well it might be annoying but I think it's great your friend knows of this weakness of hers and instead of waiting until it crops up again she's giving you a heads up to help her remember. Come on Kate, we all have our weaknesses.....

 

[Pumpkin]

Well it might be annoying but I think it's great your friend knows of this weakness of hers and instead of waiting until it crops up again she's giving you a heads up to help her remember. Come on Kate, we all have our weaknesses.....

Not me, I am perfect :sarcasm

No I don't like it, I think she is allowing herself to forget because really she doesn't care.

 

[hart]

Well you know your friend I don't, at least give her the fact that she hadn't planned on needing to borrow the money and by the way, if you all hadn't had cash what would the restaurant have done? I mean if they didn't mention the card machine was out of order until AFTER you ate the food, if you guys had no cash wouldn't they be SOL?

 

[Pumpkin]

Well you know your friend I don't, at least give her the fact that she hadn't planned on needing to borrow the money and by the way, if you all hadn't had cash what would the restaurant have done? I mean if they didn't mention the card machine was out of order until AFTER you ate the food, if you guys had no cash wouldn't they be SOL?

Heh I dunno what they would have done, but many places in Brussels only take cash so people here usually have cash on them. But still quite slack of the restaurant not to tell us beforehand!

 

[Diggin Deep]

I think this is a familiarity thing. My sisters and I behaved in a similar way when we were at home but with our friends and co-workers, we borrow things and return them promptly.

:homo:'ette

I think that sometimes family members just feel that because it is family...it's ok. I am guilty of this myself with family members, but when I lend something out to them, I don't expect to get it back anytime soon either. With friends...well it depends on the friend. As far as co-workers or neighbors...I make sure to return whatever it was as promptly as I can. If it's money, I'll try to give them a little more back, etc.

It can be frustrating sometimes asking for something back from someone who owes you something. You almost feel guilty for having to do so as if you are putting them out or something. :willy_nilly: is right.

 

[Kyle B]

I once borrwed a book from a friend middle school and kept it for a year. I finally gave it back to him as a birthday present.

 

[AstriaPorta]

I don't even remember the last time i borroed something ... as i try not to borrow anything if i need it then mean time to go and buy it... if i can ..and if ever happen to borrow anything i worry so much i want to give back as soon and as i took it..
and if any accident ever happen i will replace it and take the new to the person i took from the start..
the only people i have borrowed something were close relatives like parents.. sister..
but like never know what will happen and if i need too i will take it back as soon i finish and with the contition i took it from..

I know i am very proud bad thing sometimes but good thing also

 

[dkwrtw]

I rarely borrow anything but when I do I make sure to discuss with the person I'm borrowing from EXACTLY when they want it back by and return it by that time.