Ugh... Help?

[elluko]

Ive never been on a date before, but Im planning to ask this girl out. Im soooo clueless though, I dont know where or when to take her.
Where and at what age did you have your first date, and a little advice if youve got any. Thanks.

 

[Ria]

Ive never been on a date before, but Im planning to ask this girl out. Im soooo clueless though, I dont know where or when to take her.
Where and at what age did you have your first date, and a little advice if youve got any. Thanks.

I hope you don't mind me replying?

Maybe ask the girl out when it's just you and her around.

Perhaps try and conjour up some form of conversation to find out what she likes, to help give you an idea where to take her. often, a relationship sparks up from getting to know eachother a bit first, by chatting casually.

Do you and she end up in the same social circle at all? If so, when you are out and once you have been there for a little while, you could try concentrating on chatting to just her a bit more than the others in the group. Offer to see her home afterwards. Keeping it casual until it is obvious there is a spark there.

These are just ideas, but you may be able to use this as a bit of a guide.

Hope you do manage to get there and hope it is what you wanted.

Freespeech

 

[elluko]

Thanks freespeach, that really helps.

 

[Ria]

Thanks freespeach, that really helps.

Oh, that's gd, glad it does.

All the best.

 

[EmperorKupcake]

Well, I had my first date last year, and it was alright, I suppose. Just be sure, after the first date, to talk with her enough and whatnot, so that she doesn't lose interest. Thats usually a bad thing.

But concerning the date itself and asking her out, you just have to be a friend, and talk with her. Its usually a good idea to ease it up on her. Like, invite her to the movies with a couple of other friends. After a little while of that, just go with the two of you. That might work

 

[Peter Parka]

I think the main thing is to keep it casual and not too full on. Take her to the cinema and then for a bite to eat at MacDonalds or something along those lines.

 

[EmperorKupcake]

^^ Maybe not McDonalds, though. Perhaps something a little nicer, but not too nice. Maybe like a little pizza place, or something.

 

[Homer]

McDonalds i'm still laughing.:jk:

 

[Ria]

I agree - all the above, keep it calm definately.

Yeah, pizza quite a good idea.

 

[bass_man1989]

Yeah, McDonalds is a bit TOO casual, but a pizza joint or something should be fine. McDonalds, that make me laugh long time.

 

[BreakfastSurreal]

why not ask her if she hs anything in mind? If it's her idea she is sure to have a good time. I always loved it when guys would ask me out and then ask me what I wanted to do or where i wanted to go.

 

[elluko]

Hmmmm... I might take her to the food court in the mall, she loves it there.

 

[sharpies]

What about a small group of people & Putt Putt, or some other fun thing. Trying to find out what she likes to do is a good idea.

Movies are great but you don't really get a chance to talk.

Take it slow & very important - be yourself.

Allan

 

[Darkstar]

My first date was a movie. Pretty much made out in the back the entire time. Needless to say I don't remember the movie.

 

[Peter Parka]

Well maybe not MacDonalds, I was just using it as an example, can't stand the place myself. I was meaning just a casual place to eat. You don't want to scare her off by taking her to posh expensive restaurants.

 

[Homer]

we know and thanks

 

[elluko]

Well maybe not MacDonalds, I was just using it as an example, can't stand the place myself. I was meaning just a casual place to eat. You don't want to scare her off by taking her to posh expensive restaurants.

Plus, Im broke.

 

[BreakfastSurreal]

oooo broke...not a good thing for being on a date. Just don't tell her you are short on cash, if she wants a #7 super sized, and you don't hav emuch cash, LET HER HAVE IT...and you get a 99 cent dbl cheeseburger. Don't mention that you are broke to her whatever you do! lol If you don't think you have the $ to take her out, before you ask her talk to her about going dutch..if she agrees to that then that means she probably digs you for sure. Some chicks will accept dates just for the free meal! its harsh but its true!

 

[bass_man1989]

What about a small group of people & Putt Putt, or some other fun thing. Trying to find out what she likes to do is a good idea.

Movies are great but you don't really get a chance to talk.

Take it slow & very important - be yourself.

Allan

Yeah, that's my problem with movies. First dates are for getting to know someone, how do you get to know someone watching a movie?

 

[BreakfastSurreal]

sometimes for younger people its easier to express feelings without words...which is why i liked going to the movies on dates at 15 and 16...i was too shy to come right out and tell someone i liked them, it was much easier to gradually slide my hand over to theirs when watching a movie..its a comfort zone thing i guess...you can read the physical responses pretty well...you will be able to tell if someone accepts your gestures or not just by their body language, and if they do accept them its a lot easier to be more open about your feelings and such afterwards. Just my .02 on it anwyays