The issue on arranged marriage

[brezzy]

Some of the countries in the world are practicing this. This is usually from the beliefs and cultures of people. Some people find this system actually practical, not only that, since a usual arranged marriage are being done with the permission of both parties’ parents, this tradition represent as well an act of obedience to the elders.

I know that we should respect what others do for their own traditions and beliefs, but as part of society everybody has as well to be respected of his or her opinion on things such this.

What is your stand on this issue? Are you affirmative or not?

 

[NuckingFuts]

I personally think it should be left up to a couple to find each other and fall in love. Then decide on marriage or not. I don't think it should be decided on by someone's parents. Just because of culture or tradition.

 

[drkn335]

Well it depends, if the couple are happy themselves to be marrying one another then I don't see an issue with it. Only when the person is forced to, or is 'sold' to another person should it become an issue. But sometimes arranged marriages may work out better than those out of love. My friend's brother had an arranged marriage, and he and his wife fell in love so it all worked out. Situations like those are the best.

 

[The Man]

I look at it as a form of slavery to be honest..true love is found in the wild so to say..a mate shouldnt be selected as they do in the ZOO.
Kind of a pet peve of mine is womens rights and I will glady smack any father upside the head for not allowing his daughter freedom of choice,,or a husband that also looks at a wife as property.
These people are sick as they sell their daughters...I wouldnt even do that to my dog.

 

[TABL]

I don't agree with arranged marriages. I think it would be a very unhappy lifestyle. I would want to choose my mate-- Not only their looks but their personality and their lifestyle. I can't imagine having no say over my life.

 

[Lizbeth19ph]

Fixed marriages I think are thing of the past but then in some cultures and nationalities it is still followed. In my opinion fixed marriages just satisfies the agreements of both families/parties be it for money, inheritance or merging of family wealth. It is not consummated out of love which is the ultimate foundation why people get married.

 

[bmfc]

I personally think it should be left up to a couple to find each other and fall in love. Then decide on marriage or not. I don't think it should be decided on by someone's parents. Just because of culture or tradition.

I know, this goes on, all over the world. I have to agree, with NuckingFuts. People should be able to choice for themselves, who they are going to spend their lives with.

 

[lovemwaf]

Let me be a bit controversial here and say that the idea of an arranged marriage is somewhat appealing. Imagine going through life without having to worry about looking for a lady in your life or trying to get a girl to like you because it is already taken care of. I think that it would take a lot of pressure of my back. If the girl is good looking and has some general good character traits, then maybe it could work out. Im not pro arranged marriages. But toying with the idea seems rather interesting.

 

[Josie]

I don't agree with them. Even if a child grows up believing and agreeing with them. Elders deserve respect if they have earned it, but not by marrying who they see fit.. holding power over your family is not respectful. It's unfair and it's part of a great number of things that narrows minds and holds back progression. It makes me sad.

 

[Manny030]

There is a difference between arranged marriage and forced marriage...

Forced marriage is a marriage in which one or both of the parties is married without his or her consent or against his or her will. A forced marriage differs from an arranged marriage, in which both parties consent to the assistance of their parents or a third party (such as a matchmaker) in identifying a spouse, although the difference between the two may be indistinct.

I'm against forced marriage, but I also think that arranged marriages can workout just fine.

 

[Niyi Briggs]

I would never be part of an arranged marriage. People even court themselves for a long time and still have marital issues. Not to talk of someone that you don't even have affection for. But want to do it because it was arranged. Arranged marriage would not work in these times.

 

[Nomad]

Arranged marriages are very common in our country. But arranged marriages do not happen just because the parents agree, they also get consent from their children. The prospective couple spend some time to get to know each other. Arranged marriages are not like blind dates