Thanks mom and dad...... *rant*

[BreakfastSurreal]

Yeah so i just wrote them this...my mom has been avoiding me because she knows she is in the wrong here for not being up front with me. Now I feel like I'm being screwed over, and my parents won't even shoot straight with me. wow.

Wedding place - $4155.93
Flowers - $523
Dress - $650
Photography $1500 (Clare and Gmom paid 100% of this…)
Invitations - $140

If you think of anything you helped pay for that is not on this list let me know but this is all of the big things…You had told me my budget was $7000. If you can’t afford to spend that much that is fine, but I was under the assumption from you that I would get to keep the leftovers for the honeymoon, and that’s why I had grandmommy and me pay for the photography. I don’t think I have gone out and squandered any of this money, I feel like I have used it as wisely as possible. The total I have spent is $5468.93. I’ll even round that up to $5600, because I’m sure there are some little things that we haven’t included on the list. I just don’t see why you can’t be consistant when you make a decision like this…it’s not very nice for me to find this out THREE WEEKS before my wedding. Now I don’t have the money to get my hair done, makeup done, jewelry, etc…and I was hoping to use the leftovers for my honeymoon excursions. If I had known you were not ok with paying what you said you were, then I would have used MY own money better. I would not have paid $500 on buying dresses for all of Matt’s family. I’m not trying to be greedy, and it’s not the amount of money that yall are spending that bothers me, it’s the fact that for the past few weeks any time I have mentioned anything to yall about paying for anything, you tell me I’m out of money…If you would have stuck with what you were saying from the beginning and just been upfront and honest with me about it then I could have planned better with my own money and still had the things I need for my wedding.

 

[BreakfastSurreal]

so do yall think its retarded to be mad at this??? am i being the "victim" here? or am i justified?? I'm grateful for what they are doing i just dont like that they say one thing and do another, and screw up my plans.

 

[Tegan]

If this was an isolated incident, or a misunderstanding, I might say "eh, let it go". The fact of the matter is, promising the moon and delivering a chunk of swiss cheese and telling you it's moon cheese, is a pattern with your parents. They always promise big, and never deliver.

What pisses me off the most is that your dad had the nerve to sit and lecture us about how we shouldn't be angry if your sisters have big weddings. Basically throwing his favoritism in your face. I hate to say this, but I like your father less every day.

 

[BreakfastSurreal]

such is the story of my life... *sigh* i should know better every time than to believe them...but i fall for it every freaking time...at least im marrying a man who knows how to keep his word.

 

[GraceAbounds]

I of course do not know both sides of the story. But from first impressions, it sounds like bad communication on your parents part. They should have been clear with you on exactly how much money they had to spend on your wedding.

 

[Tegan]

In either case, we will make it happen, regardless of your parents. If I have to sell some of my expensive toys to come up with the cash, oh well. I can do without my turn tables for a few months until I can replace them. I am not going to let your parents ineptitude ruin our wedding and subsequent honey moon.

 

[GraceAbounds]

Awwwwwwwwwww!

 

[BreakfastSurreal]

In either case, we will make it happen, regardless of your parents. If I have to sell some of my expensive toys to come up with the cash, oh well. I can do without my turn tables for a few months until I can replace them. I am not going to let your parents ineptitude ruin our wedding and subsequent honey moon.

awww bubby i love you also, rachel told me that at her and keiths VERY small wedding (like 20 people) they got like $1500 in cash...so im thinking we might have a nice surprise at the wedding and get some cash as well as gifts... btw, that $300 we owe my parents...they are gonna let me use that to pay for my hair, makeup and jewelry...that should be plenty for me to get by on that stuff. I booked my hair appt today, my stylist that i got last year when they did my hair really cute is still there, and shes still an "underling" so shes only $40 for the updo...im gonna make an appt at MAC for the makeup, they will do it for free but i have to spend $40 which means i get to buy mac makeup! yay. I'm gonna go down to harwin st. to look at jewelry.

 

[BreakfastSurreal]

and people wonder why im marrying this wonderful man he always bends over backwards to accomodate me

 

[AUDRAA]

Clare you will get alot of money for your honeymoon in wedding cards trust me on this, alot of people would rather give cash you will be fine hun. Yeah what your mom did was shitty but its going to be fine and remember your nerves are going to be heightened right now so be careful how much you go off on them. What seems big right now might not be ater the wedding is actually over. Hugs its getting close!!! Matt you are really good to her she so needs someone like you

 

[Veronica]

clare- it is unfair of your mother and father to be doing this to you. Im not really sure what to do in your situation though.

When I got married and all thru life I had to do everything for myself. I was never given to opportunity to borrow money because my family had non. So I really dont know what to say or how I would handle a situation about this.

But the letter does sound like a good idea. It will show her how you really feel about everything.