Terrified of death

[Cotton]

So over the last few years I've become almost obsessed and yet terrified of death. Every ache, pain, or ill feeling scares the shit out of me. I spend more time at the doctors then a normal person should. They tried to put me on anti-depressants, but I was to afraid that would have fatal side effects to take them.

It's not really the death so much that scares me, but the unknown. I'm a Roman Catholic, yet over the last few years I've struggled with religon. It seems like everyone and their brother is out to disprove religon now, and it's really starting to affect me.

It sucks. I commute by bus and hour to and from work, and all I think about is the multiple ways to die on the bus ride, same thing with riding in a car. I can't go anywhere near a plane.

Bah I suck.

 

[gLing]

We are all scared of death even if one does not admit it. When you die it is the next step in life.

 

[c_squared]

iam a roman catholicas people trying to disprove religion should not stop you from beleiving in it yourself. i think that it is good to beleive in something especially religion i dont se what is wrong with that. we all are going to die someday hopefully we can live a good long life. try not to be afraid of doing things.

 

[debbie t]

So over the last few years I've become almost obsessed and yet terrified of death. Every ache, pain, or ill feeling scares the shit out of me. I spend more time at the doctors then a normal person should. They tried to put me on anti-depressants, but I was to afraid that would have fatal side effects to take them.

It's not really the death so much that scares me, but the unknown. I'm a Roman Catholic, yet over the last few years I've struggled with religon. It seems like everyone and their brother is out to disprove religon now, and it's really starting to affect me.

It sucks. I commute by bus and hour to and from work, and all I think about is the multiple ways to die on the bus ride, same thing with riding in a car. I can't go anywhere near a plane.

Bah I suck.

if you spend all your time dwelling on death you forget to live..and life passes you by without you doing anything amazing..so thats a wasted life any way.
im shit scared of flying and it takes a bottle of brandy to get me on there but its got to be done or id never get to travel all over the world,
i spend a lot of time with bikers ,they live life like theres no tomorrow because we all know that more than one will be dead this year,

do something dangerous ,extreme and exciting and live a little

 

[DaveM]

I'm not terrified of death, immo, why be scared of the inevitable, this may not sound comforting, but it is going to happen, so live for today and enjoy life as much as possible, it's all about the here and now

 

[Cotton]

Well I guess I'm mostly scared of dying young. Before I've had a chance to live my life.

 

[dt3]

Death is one thing I can't understand being scared of. Other fears, like public speaking, are one thing. You can go your whole life avoiding speaking in public. But you can't avoid death. It's guaranteed to happen someday, so you might as well live while you've got the chance.

 

[Elle]

What Deb said is actually spot on...
And sounds like you've developed not only a phobia, but an obsession. Neither of which are healthy.

 

[Tim]

We are all scared of death even if one does not admit it. When you die it is the next step in life.

I agree with Donnie on this... no fear of death here.

I won't be afraid of something that I have no control over, Hell, I don't even think about it.

And it's not the next step in life... by definition it's the END of life.

 

[Cotton]

Yes it is definitely an obsession. I know I have no control over it, but I try to control it by taking my self out of potential fatal situations.

It's driving me insane...

 

[Tim]

Yes it is definitely an obsession. I know I have no control over it, but I try to control it by taking my self out of potential fatal situations.

It's driving me insane...

Do you have any idea how many people die while having sex????

Does that mean you won't have sex anymore?



poor boy :unsure:

 

[bong_express]

im definately not afraid of death. like someone said, its going to happen so whats there to be afraid of? have you thought about talking to a counselor?

 

[Cotton]

Do you have any idea how many people die while having sex????

Does that mean you won't have sex anymore?



poor boy :unsure:

I'm well aware of that, and yes it weighs on my mind every time I do have sex.

 

[COOL_BREEZE2]

It sucks. I commute by bus and hour to and from work, and all I think about is the multiple ways to die on the bus ride, same thing with riding in a car. I can't go anywhere near a plane.

Bah I suck.

Well I guess I'm mostly scared of dying young. Before I've had a chance to live my life.

Yes it is definitely an obsession. I know I have no control over it, but I try to control it by taking my self out of potential fatal situations.

It's driving me insane...

I wanna guess that something has happened in your life or someone/s close to you that is causing this preoccupation with death. There's got to be more to this. Some underlying factor/s.

How long has this been happening and what event/s may have sparked it?

 

[Ria]

I used to fear it exactly as bad as you do, but then, once I got to around 30'ish, I don't know why, but I stopped fearing it and I wasn't stressing out over the thought of it anymore.

I just take each day at a time and try and make the most of my spare time to go out at least.

It's too bad if you are fearing every waking minute, thus not being able to enjoy the life you have - this is something to be sorted out and can be without meds. Even if meds are suggested, you only have to say 'no' to them, but counselling/CBT isn't meds and could help you overcome this, b/c it's not impossible to do. You have to get past this for your own good.

 

[dt3]

Do you have any idea how many people die while having sex????

Does that mean you won't have sex anymore?



poor boy :unsure:

Eh, that only happens to you old guys :cool

 

[Peter Parka]

I think most people at some point go through some kind of fear or death, some more extreme than others. I think if you have it as bad as you say, seeing a councellor would be a very good idea. Unfortunately from what I see, religion preys on people with this fear by blackmailing them with promises of things after death to get them to do what they want.
My opinion is, I'm going to die at some point anyway so I'll enjoy life when I can. I take reasonable precautions to make sure my life dosen't end immediately, respecting the laws of gravity ect, other than that I don't want to live a long life if it's miserable because I'm so worried about dying.
A wise man once said "It's not true that if you don't drink, smoke, do drugs or have sex and eat unhealthily you will live longer, if will just feel like that!"

 

[DaveM]

lol good one pete






and my point of view, been there, done that, got resuscitated (after 2 mins, lol) so for me personally, that tool the fear out of it, though I know for some people it has the opposite effect

 

[ssl]

who said death was the end of living?

law of the conservation of mass and energy; your body will transition.

death is the overrated act of losing control over voluntary and involuntary organs by the brain (ie: heart stops, you got a bullet to the head, et cetera).

fact is, you do not "die." "you" do, but your body does not. it transitions.

 

[Ria]

lol good one pete






and my point of view, been there, done that, got resuscitated (after 2 mins, lol) so for me personally, that tool the fear out of it, though I know for some people it has the opposite effect

Yeah, I too have been through that a number of times when younger. Was before I got to my 30's though, but looking back, I suppose it just makes me feel more pleased to enjoy what I have now.