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Well, this will now be my official StripedCat-thread. ;P (And in between I figured out that I could have put the "busy but still alive"-thread into the open offtopic-section; nah, shit happens).
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StripedCat
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Truth sometimes hurts, doesn't it?
I had (I really HAD to) to tell the truth to a former friend, concerning her way of treating other people. It wasn't nice, what I've said, I know. But truth sometimes isn't nice. It was hard, what I've said. But truth turns out to be hard sometimes.
I couldn't help anymore. I know that she will have been crying the last night. But still I don't regret what I've said. I'm still committed to what I've said.
I don't regret anything.
Maybe that makes me being a stone-hearted asshole. But, someone had to tell her the truth.
No, I don't regret it. Even though, I can't get it out of my mind at the moment.
I had (I really HAD to) to tell the truth to a former friend, concerning her way of treating other people. It wasn't nice, what I've said, I know. But truth sometimes isn't nice. It was hard, what I've said. But truth turns out to be hard sometimes.
I couldn't help anymore. I know that she will have been crying the last night. But still I don't regret what I've said. I'm still committed to what I've said.
I don't regret anything.
Maybe that makes me being a stone-hearted asshole. But, someone had to tell her the truth.
No, I don't regret it. Even though, I can't get it out of my mind at the moment.
purpledove
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I've had my fair share of telling friends the hurting truth. I have that much patience when it comes to friends and can tell them in a better manner once, twice, many times. But there comes a point in time, when we reach our threshold that we can't take it anymore that we give them the painful truth. For me and maybe like how you're feeling now too- i dont like sugar coating stuffs esp when it comes to a dear and close friend. I wanna tell them the truth esp if i can see it's ruining them. Others though aren't able to appreciate that and take it against you 
My motto in life esp in friendship is that, if a friend is not able to tell me straight to my face what my problem is in same way i do to that person, then they dont care @ all. I expect my true friends to be honest with me, no sugar coating esp if they see what am doing is hurting me and soon to hurt me much more when i continue in that path. That's where i guess one can distinguish between a true friend and not- is when honesty and open communication plays a big role, that no matter how painful the truth is- it needs to be told bcoz we care for our dear friends.
Am hoping your friend is able to realize that and not take what you have said against you. This i shall say is a test of the kind of friendship you have with her. Proves you care for her is why you tell her the painful truth.
My motto in life esp in friendship is that, if a friend is not able to tell me straight to my face what my problem is in same way i do to that person, then they dont care @ all. I expect my true friends to be honest with me, no sugar coating esp if they see what am doing is hurting me and soon to hurt me much more when i continue in that path. That's where i guess one can distinguish between a true friend and not- is when honesty and open communication plays a big role, that no matter how painful the truth is- it needs to be told bcoz we care for our dear friends.
Am hoping your friend is able to realize that and not take what you have said against you. This i shall say is a test of the kind of friendship you have with her. Proves you care for her is why you tell her the painful truth.
purpledove
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on a side note: you can also ask from a mod- to merge your threads or change the title of the other thread. It's up to what you wish of course
StripedCat
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I've had my fair share of telling friends the hurting truth. I have that much patience when it comes to friends and can tell them in a better manner once, twice, many times. But there comes a point in time, when we reach our threshold that we can't take it anymore that we give them the painful truth. For me and maybe like how you're feeling now too- i dont like sugar coating stuffs esp when it comes to a dear and close friend. I wanna tell them the truth esp if i can see it's ruining them. Others though aren't able to appreciate that and take it against you
My motto in life esp in friendship is that, if a friend is not able to tell me straight to my face what my problem is in same way i do to that person, then they dont care @ all. I expect my true friends to be honest with me, no sugar coating esp if they see what am doing is hurting me and soon to hurt me much more when i continue in that path. That's where i guess one can distinguish between a true friend and not- is when honesty and open communication plays a big role, that no matter how painful the truth is- it needs to be told bcoz we care for our dear friends.
Very well said.
'Sugar coating', as you call it, is what she is awaiting from people. All others are claimed to be unfriendly, harsh, unfair, blah blah blah.
There won't be any friendship anymore. This friendship has died a long time ago, and our ways just crossed any longer because she is the leader of the forum where I had been regularly dropping by for all in all 9 years now. We had been very close friends for a very long time, but then our ways separated (that was at the time when I began to realize what kind of person she really is - using people for her own benefit, using the whole forum for her own benefit, and so on). I've carried this truth a long time with me and yesterday the time had come where I couldn't hold it back anymore (and what I've told her is only the tip of the iceberg).
I'm deleted now from that forum. Admittedly, I haven't expected any other reaction. I knew what was going to come when speaking out loud these words. So what, it's no problem for me. I rather feel kind of relief, that finally it is over.
A surprising amount of other users share my opinion, btw. Some of them and I will create our own forum. I'm looking forward to that. The last months in the old forum I didn't feel that good there; just had been staying there for reasons of nostalgia. 9 years is a very long time, especially on the Internet.
So what, onwards!
purpledove
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Ah! You know that's my struggle at forums. I have encountered many who use others for their own benefit, suck you dry till they can't get anymore from you or have stepped up to a higher status being accepted by many more members that they think now, they are above you. Where they no longer have any use for you that's when their true colors start to pop up. It happens unfortunately. It's sad too how people we consider friends and become close to us through the course of time .....soon end up like there was no next day for them to cherish the friendship. You've told her a piece of your mind- leave her @ that to realize what she is and how badly she had treated you....I hear yah dearie *sighs* :smiley31:
StripedCat
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Studies will start again tomorrow. Not regularly, but due do university's planning-fail I've got to do an intensive course during the holidays.
The course will start tomorrow 9:30 am and up to now none has given any information about WHERE (concerning the exact room) this fucking course will take place. oO And the building where it takes place, has 14 floors. oO And the office which I could ask, opens at 11:00 am (1,5 hours after my course starts) - I LOVE the university. It's always the same...
That will be pretty funny tomorrow. *tilt*
In general, I've got to do more additional training in English. >_> I've already downloaded some BBC-Podcasts in English which I will listen to tomorrow when sitting in the bus (in the bus? on the bus?). And I'll check the curriculum of the center of languages where everyone can do additional courses.
Yaddah yaddah yaddah. (?)
The course will start tomorrow 9:30 am and up to now none has given any information about WHERE (concerning the exact room) this fucking course will take place. oO And the building where it takes place, has 14 floors. oO And the office which I could ask, opens at 11:00 am (1,5 hours after my course starts) - I LOVE the university. It's always the same...
That will be pretty funny tomorrow. *tilt*
In general, I've got to do more additional training in English. >_> I've already downloaded some BBC-Podcasts in English which I will listen to tomorrow when sitting in the bus (in the bus? on the bus?). And I'll check the curriculum of the center of languages where everyone can do additional courses.
Yaddah yaddah yaddah. (?)
purpledove
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:eek. :eek. That's awful!! Is there no one Among faculty that can be contacted to give you info about that class tomorrow?? 14 floors is way too many for you to go and find out specifically where- yikes!! Well good luck
How awesome you have some audio stuffs for learning English. Good to hear :thumbup
How awesome you have some audio stuffs for learning English. Good to hear :thumbup
StripedCat
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No, there isn't. When realizing that there isn't any information about the room number (that was yesterday in the late evening), I wrote an email to the lecturer - but she didn't answer until now. *tilt* THIS is university at it's best. Different term, same shit...
purpledove
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How did it go? Were you able to find the room?
StripedCat
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Yes, I've been. I've found the information on the blackboard.
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OH _MY_ GOD!
Got an email from my professor, who taught me in "labyrinthical narration" last term (among others we dealt with Kafka), and during the whole term I didn't understand anything. *lol* The term paper I had to do for this course, turned out to be a production. And since I've send my term paper to the prof, I was totally scared that I might not pass. >_>
Anyways, today I got an email from him. With the mark for my termpaper. --> 1,0. That is the best one can get. oO OmG, I can't believe it. *lol*
(Hubby declares me as being crazy. The whole last weeks I've been getting on his nerves with my hysterical panic --> "Noooo, I dooon#t know, how to handle it; I'm not able to pass it; I'll fail, I'm sure" *lol* And then that... >_> Admittedly, he gets used to it. Different term, same shit. *coughs*)
purpledove
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I am so happy for yah Stripey. Now i think it's a sign telling you that you should have more confidence in yourself and think positively, eh
You've proven yourself.....:thumbup
You've proven yourself.....:thumbup
purpledove
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Have a good Friday m'dearest 
purpledove
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StripedCat
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Have a good Friday m'dearest
Thanks Sweetie; the same for you. ;-*
purpledove
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I am gonna tell you off....L0L
where's the regular visits? Busy eh. Aw!
*hugs*
where's the regular visits? Busy eh. Aw!
*hugs*
StripedCat
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@PurpleDove: Yes, you're so right. It didn't work with the regular visits. Hubby had a holiday, and instead of recovering we were hasting from announcement to announcement (because holiday is the only time where one has the time to keep all the appointments *tilt*)
(((( hugs )))
(((( hugs )))
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StripedCat
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Update:
- the university's chaos will kill me. Hate it! No one can imagine what chaos and problems the university created this term, and worst of all: they create a bunch of heavy problems and then leave you standing alone with it. *headdesk*
It took me some nervous breakdowns, a lot of cursing and a dozen extra actions to cope with these problems. (Unfortunately, they are too complicated to explain to people who do not know this system; it is even hard to understand for people who are in the middle between *tilt*)
- Those people who need to mention all the thousands of daily starving people in Africa every time a prominent person dies, should also mention this at the next funeral. (stolen from Haekelschwein on Twitter)
- the holiday is over, I need a holiday
- the coming week is still a free week but there is still a term paper to be done as well as a bunch of appointments. Grmpf.
- the term papers I've already done have been evaluated recently and turned out to be very very good. I'm happy. ^^
- the university's chaos will kill me. Hate it! No one can imagine what chaos and problems the university created this term, and worst of all: they create a bunch of heavy problems and then leave you standing alone with it. *headdesk*
It took me some nervous breakdowns, a lot of cursing and a dozen extra actions to cope with these problems. (Unfortunately, they are too complicated to explain to people who do not know this system; it is even hard to understand for people who are in the middle between *tilt*)
- Those people who need to mention all the thousands of daily starving people in Africa every time a prominent person dies, should also mention this at the next funeral. (stolen from Haekelschwein on Twitter)
- the holiday is over, I need a holiday
- the coming week is still a free week but there is still a term paper to be done as well as a bunch of appointments. Grmpf.
- the term papers I've already done have been evaluated recently and turned out to be very very good. I'm happy. ^^
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purpledove
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Uni issues remain eh. Aw! (((hugs))) Hope it gets settled soon.
Is having a protest against Uni Admin etc allowable in Germany? :unsure:
Nice T-shirt you have there. So what's your fave color?
Is having a protest against Uni Admin etc allowable in Germany? :unsure:
Nice T-shirt you have there. So what's your fave color?
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