Should your sexual orientation define you?

[AUFred]

I am heterosexual but I do not introduce myself to people and bring that fact up. My daughter has a very good friend who is gay. His gayness seems to define him. I added him as a friend on facebook because he has been very good to my daughter for over 15 years. As I read his status on my newsfeeds every day I realize his gayness seems to be his one defining characteristic. I really want to respond some days about what an angry little queen he seems to be today.:24: I don't in the interest of civility but it certainly crosses my mind.:ninja:nod:

 

[hart]

Actually Fred my experience with my gay friends is if you responded what an angry little queen he seemed today he would respond with humor.

My friends who are gay seem to be very funny people who are caring. Of course, that's what I want in my friends

 

[AUFred]

Actually Fred my experience with my gay friends is if you responded what an angry little queen he seemed today he would respond with humor.

My friends who are gay seem to be very funny people who are caring. Of course, that's what I want in my friends

He probably would laugh it off too.

 

[Butterfly]

I don't think it should define you, but there is no denying that it is a big part of who you are.
I also think that it's possibly more so for gay folks simply because it is still considered strange/taboo by so many folks.

 

[AUFred]

I don't think it should define you, but there is no denying that it is a big part of who you are.
I also think that it's possibly more so for gay folks simply because it is still considered strange/taboo by so many folks.

I don't consider it a big part but it is a part. I just could not imagine meeting someone for the first time and within minutes telling them who I prefer in my bedroom. I guess if I was gay I would still feel the same way as I do now, in that if I want to carry the conversation in that direction it would not be a priority.

 

[Butterfly]

I don't consider it a big part but it is a part. I just could not imagine meeting someone for the first time and within minutes telling them who I prefer in my bedroom. I guess if I was gay I would still feel the same way as I do now, in that if I want to carry the conversation in that direction it would not be a priority.

I suspect if/when faced with the assumption of heterosexuality, you may feel it necessary to bring it up after all. I don't think the majority of heterosexual people out there know what it is truly like to be different from the 'norm'. What it feels like to have to constantly be faced with the assumption that since you are ♂ automatically, you must be attracted to ♀.

I'm speculating so I guess I could be wrong.

 

[Tuffdisc]

I don't think sexuality has anything to do with how you behave. You have homosexual murderers/rapists (Jeffrey Dahmers and Denis Nielsen to name two) etc...

I am not homophobic, but don't get why some people think they are all nice, admittedly most are nice.....but to say every gay is nice...nah

 

[hart]

I don't think all gays are nice......I just feel my own experience is I have met far fewer rude gay people (that I know are gay) than straight people.

I am not sorry to have not met Jeffrey and Denis

 

[Ryder]

I don't care if your gay, straight or bi. If your cool with me I don't give to shits.

 

[ATKU2]

Personally, I have no problem with people being homosexual or not... people are into what they are into.. You can't just judge someone cause they are different...

The same thing would go with people who dress up like goths...
Sure they may look like one, but are they really a goth... well, most of the time, they probably are, but with this, you still can't just up and judge them...

 

[retro]

Personally, I have no problem with people being homosexual or not... people are into what they are into.. You can't just judge someone cause they are different...

The same thing would go with people who dress up like goths...
Sure they may look like one, but are they really a goth... well, most of the time, they probably are, but with this, you still can't just up and judge them...

and you obviously completely missed the point of this thread

 

[ATKU2]

and you obviously completely missed the point of this thread

Dude don't even go there... I wrote specifically...
You can't define nor judge others by anything about them...
People are who they are...

 

[skyblue]

i take people as i find them.....if gay its ok by me as long as they dont get pushy about it

 

[ATKU2]

i take people as i find them.....if gay its ok by me as long as they dont get pushy about it

I agree with that, for me, it is absolutely ok that people are interested in other types of sexuality... but the only thing that would bug me is if the person tried to be that way with me.

I don't mind being around gay guys or anything, but when they try to grab at me or something, then there will be some issues.

Get what I'm saying?

 

[Springsteen]

I have known gay people and even been friends with them. I don't mind them really, at least the ones I have known, and still know in fact, have been friendly and pleasent, moreso than straight people in fact, where I think it might be a case of who's more manly etc, especially when it comes to the opposite sex.

Just my experience though, obviously might be different for others.

 

[retro]

Dude don't even go there... I wrote specifically...
You can't define nor judge others by anything about them...
People are who they are...

whoosh

The point of the thread is how some choose to let their sexuality define who they are, rather than it simply being a part of what makes them who they are. There's no judging going on, simply observation.

 

[ATKU2]

whoosh

The point of the thread is how some choose to let their sexuality define who they are, rather than it simply being a part of what makes them who they are. There's no judging going on, simply observation.

Ok, both you and I know we are going to continue to fight about this...

But what I am adding on is that people shouldn't be judged by their life...
If you prefer hot dog to taco, then so be it. (ya know?)

And if you paid attention to the thread, which states:
Should your sexual orientation define you?
Then obviously, AUFred is just wondering what we think about it.

So, in an all honest opinion, I'm just saying, you can't define someone by the way they are...

 

[anathelia]

Ok, both you and I know we are going to continue to fight about this...

But what I am adding on is that people shouldn't be judged by their life...
If you prefer hot dog to taco, then so be it. (ya know?)

And if you paid attention to the thread, which states:
Should your sexual orientation define you?
Then obviously, AUFred is just wondering what we think about it.

So, in an all honest opinion, I'm just saying, you can't define someone by the way they are...

The point was that it's not whether YOU should define them by their sexuality, but whether or not they should define THEMSELVES as such.

I think that's the point retro's trying to get across here, and what the point of the thread is.

To respond to the thread, I think some people let their sexuality define them, and others don't. I do not, however, believe that it's what you should do. I don't let my sexuality dictate my behavior, and I have some friends that do and some friends that don't. It's good to be open about who you are, but it doesn't have to be an in your face all the time kind of thing.

 

[Zorak]

I have two gay friends, and they do make me laugh. Despite being the rats that they are.

I suppose being Gay is a defining characteristic, in as much as it's no small thing to come out to the world.

 

[Butterfly]

I suppose being Gay is a defining characteristic, in as much as it's no small thing to come out to the world.

Ah! That's pretty much what I was trying to say... but words failed me