Should I have handled this differently?

[AUFred]

My wife is going out of town Saturday with her parents & sister. I decided it would be a good day for me to go fishing since that will mean I don't feel a need to get home early and I really enjoy fishing.

We have recently joined a new Sunday School class and are trying to make new friends. This group the guys seem to do things, the girls seem to do things and occasionally they will have couple get togethers. Anyway yesterday it was announced a group of the guys are going to go play golf this Saturday. I was invited by the guy organizing it so he could get a headcount. (I am a lousy golfer, I never played but one round before age 40 and probably have not played 3 dozen rounds in my life.)

He asked if I was a Golfer?

I laughed and said I am usually good for comic relief. He asked if I would like to join them. I told him I would like to go another time but really planned on going fishing this coming Saturday. I am a better fisherman than a golfer.

Should I have handled it differently? Where they are plaing is almost a 2 hour drive each way from my house.

 

[satinbutterfly]

No. I think it should be ok for you to say you have other plans. And a 2 hour drive each way to go golfing is a little much if you're not that into it.

 

[HK]

Unless you've changed your mind about wanting to go, I think you handled it fine

 

[rback33]

No. I think it should be ok for you to say you have other plans. And a 2 hour drive each way to go golfing is a little much if you're not that into it.

:homo:

 

[Darrell]

Fishing > Golf.

You handled it fine, Fred.

 

[dancingpotato]

I wouldn't go do something when I had plans or when I was not particularly fussed for the activity. At least you had a plausible reason not to go other than you just did not want to.

 

[Jezzebelle]

No, I think you answered them perfectly even saying that you would like to go next time. It's ok to tell people no

 

[Joe the meek]

The only thing I would of done differently is if you had room for a passenger, to ask the guy if anyone wanted to go fishing with you.

Personally, I don't care for golf myself.

Hey, just an idea, get a church shooting club together

 

[skyblue]

fishing v a game where you hit a small ball as far as you can then go look for it,fishing wins hands down

nothing to handle fred,you'd make plans and set your mind to fishing...so thats what you did

 

[AUFred]

The reason I asked is when you are trying to make an entrance into a new social setting declining opportunities to spend time together does not seem constructive in that concept. I was honest as to why I was choosing to go fishing over losing golf balls with a group. We will see if I get invited again.

 

[Joe the meek]

The reason I asked is when you are trying to make an entrance into a new social setting declining opportunities to spend time together does not seem constructive in that concept. I was honest as to why I was choosing to go fishing over losing golf balls with a group. We will see if I get invited again.

I'm in the same boat you are (no pun intended LOL).

That said, do what you LOVE to do, because if you're anything like me, it's that what you love to do that may make you feel closer to the God you know.

It's HARD to find people that share the same kind of belief system you have that love to do the same things you do. That said, I've found that the people who love to do the same things I do not real bad people anyways LOL

Consider yourself lucky that you have passions in life that you like to spend your time on.

 

[Aeval]

I can see what you mean - I would have wondered too if declining the invite would maybe make a 2nd invitation slow in coming, but really, if you want to go fishing, go fishing and the next time you meet up with them, maybe see if there's anyone that would like to go with you next time, there very well could be men that were only going along on the golf outing for lack of anything else to do....maybe some of the guys would rather be doing what you're doing.

I say good for you and enjoy your free day.

 

[Francis]

My wife is going out of town Saturday with her parents & sister. I decided it would be a good day for me to go fishing since that will mean I don't feel a need to get home early and I really enjoy fishing.

We have recently joined a new Sunday School class and are trying to make new friends. This group the guys seem to do things, the girls seem to do things and occasionally they will have couple get togethers. Anyway yesterday it was announced a group of the guys are going to go play golf this Saturday. I was invited by the guy organizing it so he could get a headcount. (I am a lousy golfer, I never played but one round before age 40 and probably have not played 3 dozen rounds in my life.)

He asked if I was a Golfer?

I laughed and said I am usually good for comic relief. He asked if I would like to join them. I told him I would like to go another time but really planned on going fishing this coming Saturday. I am a better fisherman than a golfer.

Should I have handled it differently? Where they are plaing is almost a 2 hour drive each way from my house.

Here's my take on it..

If you are trying to socialize and you told them you were a lousy golfer and they didn't care, they wanted you along to make you feel part of the group.. Golf was more or less the second reason or the glue to have something to do..

I am a lousy golfer to and often go out just for the hell of it as to ensure I socialize.. Yup my allergies kick up and I hack and whack the ball but at the end of the day I spent it talking guy crap all the time and had a blast..

Doing the things you do not do often with people you regularly do not is a great way to break the ruts we get into.. Yes it's a change and it's usually what holds us all back.. As frustrating as golf can be, I like to get out there and play it..

I would have jumped at the opportunity.. Just my two cents worth..

 

[AUFred]

I guess I will just have to see if I get invited again. Next time I will make the effort to join the guys.

 

[Natasha]

I think you handled it fine. If they don't invite you again, maybe you should invite them to go fishing w/ you instead???

I'd much rather fish than golf. Fishing is relaxing for me (as long as someone will bait my hook for me if we're using live bait, LMFAO). Golf bores me to tears.

 

[redliner]

Do what you want to do. If your not good at golf I am sure they would understand. If they don't understand this then there not worth hanging around with anyway.

 

[rback33]

I have no clue why all of you would rather fish than golf...lmao

 

[Zorak]

I have no clue why all of you would rather fish than golf...lmao

I've never done either. But if I had to choose, it would be fishing. Golf seems great, but I just know I'd be rubbish at it. I'm useless at any games involving a club, cue racket or bat.

 

[HK]

I've never done either. But if I had to choose, it would be fishing. Golf seems great, but I just know I'd be rubbish at it. I'm useless at any games involving a club, cue racket or bat.

Ditto on that. My accuracy is.... less than impressive whereas fishing! Throw a bit of a string in a pond and wait. I can fucking do that.

 

[Natasha]

Throw a bit of a string in a pond and wait.

You'd think Jeremy would get THAT as much as he hangs his worm out waiting for a nibble around here. :24: :24: :24: