Problem

[Veronica]

Hopefully I can make this as short as possible.

Since me and Joe split, I have decided to move back to my home town where my family and friends are at. They offered my old job back and I would be making a dollar more an hour that I make here... Anyways, I talked to my mom and she agreed to move in with me.. BUT, Now she is involoved with a guy and is telling me that I have to take both of them in PLUS his child or nothing... SO, I am stuck. I need to live with someone for alittle while until I get on my feet. My dad wants me to live with him, but his house isnt big enough for all my things. I want to live on my own, but dont think I can afford everything. Should I take this guy in too? The only thing is I feel like he could be a child molestor or something. He acts really really into kids all the time.. Its just strange.. Plus Im not comfortable with him because he hits on me (but sleeps with my mom.) She says he is just kidding, but I dont think he is. He is a very very strange man. So, what should i do?

(i know what heather will say.. she wants me to stay in valdosta- but Im not comfortable being around joe anymore. I dont want to run into him and I cant be civil to him right now after all he has done to me)

 

[Jersey]

yikes V... if it were just you.. i'd say maybe you can swing it... but i dunno bout you and your kids... i would be really uncomfortable

 

[SilentEyz]

Hmm.. Maybe you could stay with your dad and put most of your stuff in storage for a couple months till you save up a little extra and can get a place of your own.

I agree though, if you are uncomfortable around your mom's Bf, and dont feel safe with him around your kids.. Trust you gut, dont put yourself in a bad situation.

Even if you are wrong about him.. Kids are involved.. always better safe then sorry

 

[DanTastic]

if he hits on ya, kick him in the balls and ask if he enjoyed it, more than likely he'll say know. then you tell him thats the way i like it and he'll leave ya alone hehehe

 

[Mrs Behavin]

I wonder if you could get a storage building and then live with your dad? Just a thought.

*Edit - Silent beat me to saying the same thing!

 

[Tim]

Always go with your gut.... If you think there might be something up with this guy, then don't chance it. There is a reason you are questioning it. Trust your gut and don't do it.

What about moving in with your dad, renting some extra storage and saving your money for a bigger place?

 

[Jersey]

definitely well said... you dont ever want to have to play the " if only....." game...

 

[AUDRAA]

Im with everyone else go with your gut on this one dont risk it especially when your kids are involved

 

[Veronica]

The guy is still married- his wife is in a mental hospital... He is wacko...

He has always been good to me and my kids, i just have a feeling about him.

As for my dad. He tells me that I would have to go by his rules.. I wouldnt be able to do ANYTHING! LOL Even though I am an adult (divorces and have 2 kids) He will treat me like a child. I dont mind staying with him. But i dunno.

Me, heather and dianne (and the boys) are gonna get a cheaper place for 2 months so i can save money to get into a place. The only problem is that when I get up there, im wont have an extra money to do anything.. thats why i wanted my mom to live with me so she can help me pay bills and I will have enough extra money to get grocerys and clothing for the boys, ect. Without her, it will be tough.

 

[Homer]

V move in with your dad untill you find a roomy you trust and put your things in storage , i just don't like the idea of mom bringing this guy you don't even know and his kid , please think about yourself and your own kids.

 

[Veronica]

I know him, I just dont like him. He is strange. His child is great. very respectful.. but him.. he isnt so much.

 

[Homer]

i'm sorry but i just get a bad feeling about mom and boyfriend.ps theirs a reason you don't like him.

 

[Veronica]

I know. thanks homer.

 

[Tim]

Homer is 100% correct on this... ALWAYS trust your gut and don't do anything you feel uncomfortable with.

 

[lemon]

there is probably a reason why your gut is telling you something (besides the hungry message )

i would go with the gut feeling (both) on this one.

 

[Peter Parka]

Yeah, I would have to pretty much go with everyone else on this and go with your gut instinct. It's a tough situation and I hope it will all work out for you eventually.

 

[Mrs Behavin]

Id say you can come live with me But thats probably too far away from your job

 

[White2000GT]

I'll say this Veronica. What happens when the time comes that you are ready for them to go and they don't want to go? There is that risk. Plus, like others have said, if your gut instinct is telling you that you can't trust the guy then there is probably a reason for that. Always go with your instinct. Maybe you can look into moving in with your dad for a while and just put your things into storage. You should be able to get out on your own again in no time. Good luck with whatever you decide!

 

[Mrs Behavin]

Im not trying to stick my nose where it doesnt belong. And you dont have to answer, I understand. You say that yall are selling the house that your in now, right? Are yall spliting the sale? Im wondering if selling the house would help out in your situation at all?

 

[Veronica]

it just sucks that i made my mind up and then she goes and tells me, its a package deal or nothing... It just sucks. Why would she do this to me.
I have let her live with me sooo many times w/o paying. I have given her furniture sets, LOTS OF MONEY- paid bills for her and expected nothing in return and the 1 time I need someones help, she does this... I just dont understand.