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[Veronica]

Autism Has My Child Has Just Posted the Following:

The last week has been the hardest for me.* I didn’t*think that I would ever have to deal with something like this.* Honestly*when I was little, there was little bullying.* I mean, my sister bullied me, but*it wasnt a BIG problem in school.* But today,*it’s every*where.* It seriously makes me wonder how people are raising [...]

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[Veronica]

Well.. as you see. the problem is still happening-- Now austin was punched in the face. this is getting out of hand.

 

[Francis]

I already gave you my thoughts on this Veronica. As far as our ADD / ODD daughter was concerned we had a similar situation but our system has a zero tolerance policy. We only needed to go to one level and had people who understood her issues. Moving ( when we had to ) only made the problems come back. You really can't run from this and neither can he until you have done all you can to resolve it WITH him.

There are a few things that have come to mind since. I encountered a similar problem with my son ( no autism ) on his school bus. The school bus driver had done nothing when my son had been punch / pushed off the bus with his back pack right in front of her by a much older student. Fortunately my daycare attendant was there as a witness to the incident and willing to back up the situation. In that situation the School gave the student in question a 5 day automatic suspension plus they changed his bus with risk of bus privileges for his next infraction.

Reading the second situation that happened..

Does the other child have medical history as well or has anyone thought of getting him tested ? I ask because you said he has done this other times and I wonder if there is more to his situation.

This by far does not excuse his hitting of other student but what it should do is make sure the school and the levels above ( what ever yours are ) aware of the problems. You also need to keep climbing levels so that you keep going for your son's own good until you find someone who understands autism..

Just my thoughts and what I would do..

 

[Veronica]

The child that hit my son is not autistic. He is normal- just a mean asshole child. LOL

 

[Francis]

The child that hit my son is not autistic. He is normal- just a mean asshole child. LOL

Fair enough but kids learn being mean from somewhere and often is come from home or neglect..

Like I said, it does not make it right..

 

[Kyle B]

This is pretty awful. Hope you get it all sorted out.

 

[Alien Allen]

I had to put up with bullying from the time I started junior high til I graduated. It usually was worst the first of the school year. But there were a handful of kids that were friends with each other that periodically would taunt all year. I did my best to ignore them. But no matter what I would do to diffuse things there were these certain kids that would always agitate. In your situation it is more difficult but the best I can offer is to try to teach your son how to steer clear of these bullys. That and try to make friends with some kid(s) that can be supportive to him. Maybe it is out of line to also suggest looking into taking some self defense classes? Not for learning to fight. That is a small part of it. For self discipline and self respect and the rest that goes with it. You are a black belt as I recall so you would know better if that would be a fit.

 

[tommu56]

I totally agree with building the self discipline the self defense classes would work also being a Boy Scout's will do this and teach him some life skills.

I am a little biased being a scout or leader for 1/2 my life.
Scouting has special programs for challenged scouts to gain their rank and build their self esteem in the process.

On the other hand my grand son is 4 and has some issues we see compared to our 4 childern and my grand daughter he is to young for cubs so we started him in karate he is doing ok 1/2 hr class pushes the attention span but he gets through it.

If you do consider Scouts check a couple of packs/troops don't just pick one "interview" them and explain your citation to the leaders to get the best fit for your son.

If you have any questions about Scouts don't hesitate to ask.

tom

 

[Alien Allen]

great idea about checking out the scouts. It may not be a fit but is worth looking into

or any other activity that he can concentrate on. be it sports, stamp collecting or whatever

 

[Veronica]

I actually tried boy scouts... and it went BAD!!! It was toooo chaotic here. Austin freaked. Not good. So we took him out. Karate would be a good idea and i am considering that. Ive already spoken to my old instructor, but I dont know if I can afford it.

 

[Francis]

I actually tried boy scouts... and it went BAD!!! It was toooo chaotic here. Austin freaked. Not good. So we took him out. Karate would be a good idea and i am considering that. Ive already spoken to my old instructor, but I dont know if I can afford it.

I had my son in Karate.. I did the community class to start at $45.00 for 3 months.. It was a great introduction to martial arts..

Since we don't have a full Karate Dojo's near us, when he finished community class, we moved him to a Taekwondo class.

My son would have preferred to stay in Karate.

What would be your monthly rate, if you don't mind me asking ?

 

[Alien Allen]

my son did not go to the local scout troop. He knew he would not like it with the kids he knew that were in it. We had moved so he had friends from the past residence and went into that troop. In your case it would help if he had one of the older kids who would take him under his wing so to speak. You could always check with another troop and explain in advance what you are facing. If the leader is receptive I would try to have a meet up with the leader and the troop member that would be looking after him in advance.

 

[tommu56]

As I said you have to interview the troops more than one go to a couple meetings with out your son.
The Scouts are suppose to be boy managed supervised by the leaders

Check with your local counsel and ask for the district rep to contact.
He/she will have all the troop info look at a small troop it should less chaotic.
They might even have Disability program with in your council.
I don't remember his age but an Explorer post is another option he would have to be 14 for that.
Also there is the Lone Scout program.

tom

 

[Veronica]

Thanks for the information. He is 12.

Our local place here is 125 a month. Its not cheap I cant afford that.

 

[Kyle B]

my son did not go to the local scout troop. He knew he would not like it with the kids he knew that were in it. We had moved so he had friends from the past residence and went into that troop.

I made the mistake of not doing that and stayed with the troop in my town which was complete shit. Never thought of changing troops and it really turned me off to boy scouts. I sometimes wish I had stuck with it because it comes with some great experiences. Unfortunately, it isn't immune to the politics/drama of any organization.

 

[darkcgi]

I put up with billing till 4th grade
I started karate in 3rd grade
I had a 4th degree black belt by 9th grade
I help defend people who were getting bullied in high school
Just gave the bullies a way out first if they didn't want it I would let attack me then i would put them in holds till they surrender
I made two bullies my best friends

 

[Francis]

Thanks for the information. He is 12.

Our local place here is 125 a month. Its not cheap I cant afford that.

Yah, our rate is $110.00 for the 3 days a week Taekwondo..

My brother pays $180.00 for his son plus he is always dishing out extra $200.00 every so often for all sorts of extra stuff..

There are different types of martial arts you can be involved in..

My son is in open sparing Taekwondo.. They learn Self defence with NO Weapons they would never be allowed to use anywhere anyway..

My brother's son is part of the ATA Canadian Equivalent which like all big organizations is all about money, money, money. He paid for his son to get an extra belt level up.. :eek

The type of Taekwondo my son is in is what you would see at the Olympics.. I find it is much more productive.

But it maybe far to much for your son to handle as far as concentration and dealing with the other kids in class.

You need a high energy sport to put him into.. Wrestling, Boxing or something where he can burn off energy and frustration while doing it in a productive way..