Lost everything....

Users who are viewing this thread

purpledove

Seizing Life ♥
Messages
4,946
Reaction score
0
Tokenz
0.00z
Opening up. *sighs*

As some of you are aware- my son and I were nearly killed by my ex due to fatal domestic violence! We underwent a gruesome court trial for a year! My son and I testified against him per request by the State to persecute my ex! He was placed in prison for felony charges! My ex had indebted us for big amount of money including getting a big 2nd mortgage loan from our home back in IL! I had no clue this was going on as I trusted him to take care of the finances!

When we moved to Cali- we bought a 3600 sq ft home with mountain scenic views! I lost this home too given the bank illegally foreclosed on me even if the loan modification had been approved and payments done on the loan! I hired an atty but the bank won and for me to appeal- i needed about $10K- hence i gave up on our home! The bank gave us very little time to get out of the house hence all our belongings including appliances, furnitures, TVs, Fridge etc etc were all placed on pods storage hurriedly!

Little did I know too that after he went to prison all debts were gonna be placed on me and his misfiling of 2007 taxes brought about $4K in IRS charges. IRS placed a lien on my bank account last year and took out every single cent off my savings and checking! I struggled hard to cope with it financially! With the holding of my bank account- the monthly storage fees were placed on hold and accumulated interests and surcharges! I was able to cope paying every month to refrain from the storage containers to be auctioned out! Despite the payments tho' -big balance keeps on accruing interests and finally the company placed a lien on the account!

Last week I received the notice for the lien! Given they wanted full payment, I needed to come up with money to claim our stuffs! Being distraught in making means to produce the money, the due date totally slipped my mind! Yesterday when I was ready to pay- I was too late for 2 hours as they've already auctioned out our stuffs! Hence we've lost everything except what we have left in the apartment- sofa and bed! What we have worked hard for about 16 years in the States all gone in a matter of seconds :(
 
  • 49
    Replies
  • 2K
    Views
  • 0
    Participant count
    Participants list

Panacea

Well-Known Member
Messages
7,445
Reaction score
3
Tokenz
0.01z
My heart just breaks for you, I echo Darrell, I don't even know what to say. :( You're a sweet person, you don't deserve this.
 

Racks

Active Member
Messages
554
Reaction score
0
Tokenz
0.01z
:( Sorry to hear of you and your sons tragic situation... Really hope things turn around for you.
 

porterjack

Valued Contributor
Valued Contributor
Messages
10,935
Reaction score
305
Tokenz
0.10z
so sorry to hear and i dont mean to sound trite or cold to your plight but you have not lost everything

the one thing that you hold dear above all is still with you and could probably use a hug from his Mom
 

purpledove

Seizing Life ♥
Messages
4,946
Reaction score
0
Tokenz
0.00z
Wow. I don't even know what to say. That is so tragic, Marah.

*hugs*

:(
Thanks mucho! Yesterday, given that situation, I was still able to come to OTz to joke around and interact with you guys! I was still in shock! Today, it finally sunk in and oh boy! It hurts :(

*hugs back*

My heart just breaks for you, I echo Darrell, I don't even know what to say. :( You're a sweet person, you don't deserve this.

Aw! Thanks! My heart is breaking too

I am so sorry to hear that.

Thanks much :)
 

purpledove

Seizing Life ♥
Messages
4,946
Reaction score
0
Tokenz
0.00z
:( Sorry to hear of you and your sons tragic situation... Really hope things turn around for you.

I hope so too! It seems never ending at this point! Thanks :)


Thanks Mel! *hugs back*

so sorry to hear and i dont mean to sound trite or cold to your plight but you have not lost everything

the one thing that you hold dear above all is still with you and could probably use a hug from his Mom

You're right! I still have the most precious of it all my son! Our life! :)

Thanks!

so sorry to hear of this....

Thx!

hugs hon. that stinks. I can't imagine what you have been through.

Thx! *hugs back*

That's terrible. I am so sorry. :(

Thanks :)
 

hart

V.I.P User
Messages
6,086
Reaction score
8
Tokenz
0.01z
(((Purpledove))))

Well it does sound like u r well rid of your Ex. What do you think you will do now? Are you going to move elsewhere and make a clean break? Do you have a good job? School must be nearly over for your son? What's next in store for you?
 

AUFred

WAR EAGLE!!!
Moderator
Valued Contributor
Messages
27,667
Reaction score
427
Tokenz
5,951.38z
I am sorry you are having such a rough go of things. So many people are hurting financially right now.
 

purpledove

Seizing Life ♥
Messages
4,946
Reaction score
0
Tokenz
0.00z
(((Purpledove))))

Well it does sound like u r well rid of your Ex. What do you think you will do now? Are you going to move elsewhere and make a clean break? Do you have a good job? School must be nearly over for your son? What's next in store for you?

You're very right about that! thanks!

We don't have to move given my ex being an immigrant was deported after he served his sentence last December! I am blessed with a good job hence I was able to cope up with much of what was owed! It's just unfortunate that all of what I work hard for these days just goes to pay for most of my ex's debts/ taxes :(. It makes me feel lazy to go to work at times!

Yup! Time to start with a clean slate.....:thumbup
 

Francis

Sarcasm is me :)
Messages
8,367
Reaction score
1
Tokenz
2.21z
I am so sorry but I hope Karma happens.

I don't believe in an eye for an eye but I do believe in "what goes around comes around" and I do hope you find a silver lining somehow..
 

BadBoy

Active Member
Messages
1,171
Reaction score
4
Tokenz
0.00z
I don't think any amount of words could possibly console you after dealing with something like this. The only thing I can tell you is to keep your head up, stay strong for your son, and things WILL get better with time.

No one should have to endure such a tragedy.
 
80,488Threads
2,194,468Messages
5,014Members
Back
Top