Is It Worth Giving Someone A Second Chance After He/She Has Cheated?

[Lizbeth19ph]

Many have experienced being cheated out of a relationship.With all the hurts and trust issues after cheating a partner, do you think it is still worth giving someone a second chance?

 

[AUFred]

That really depends on how the cheating occurred. If my wife was out of town and went to a bar with friends and with inhibitions lowered had a one night stand and was upfront with me, I might not like it but would forgive her. If the cheating is an ongoing full blown affair with multiple liasons that is really cheating. I believe I would be too hurt to stay with her.

 

[Kokonomi]

I personally wouldn't. It's usually a behavioral pattern, so I'd rather not take my chances. Still, I understand that it's sometimes easier than done, love is a powerful thing.

 

[The Man]

I figure if she learns a new trick or two no harm done.

 

[mauricioq]

I would, if she told me about it and felt real regret out of it.
In the other way, if I ended up knowing it by myself, the case would be different, she would be long gone!

 

[porterjack]

Regrets?
I've had a few, but then again

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[NoDak]

There're a lot of "Depenzons". It depends on the situation. I knew a fella whose SO became so self involved with the loss of close family members that she shut him out. She wasn't there for him in the emotional way. He found that in another woman. One thing led to another and..........

He got caught. They were lucky enough to land a good marriage counselor who was able to get her to see where things all went wrong. They mended and are doing well. He is getting EVERYTHING he needs at home.

 

[darkcgi]

I suppose I would.

 

[Aries]

I figure if she learns a new trick or two no harm done.

:24: You're so bad!

 

[griz bear]

sure , everybody makes a mistake now and then

 

[welly77]

This is a tough one. Most people who give second chances, will never trust 100%. It will always be in the back of your mind that he/she may do it again. With that being said, I feel depending on the people, a second chance can work. Sometimes people makes mistakes. The relationship given a new opportunity can actually become stronger--again, depending on the people. Not being monogamous won't have to be the end, it can signify a new beginning to a more unified bond.

 

[pandandesign]

I will not give a second chance if she has cheated on me because that's one thing I will not let it go. I would just move on to someone else because she might do it again in the future. There's no such a second chance in a relationship like this.

 

[pandandesign]

I personally wouldn't. It's usually a behavioral pattern, so I'd rather not take my chances. Still, I understand that it's sometimes easier than done, love is a powerful thing.

True, I agree with you. Some people would not give a second chance, but at the same time, they don't want their relationship to end like that. It's really complicated because that's what love can do to a person. I personally wouldn't give a second chance either, and I don't feel regret about it. You love that person so much that you later find out he/she has cheated on you. It's just unacceptable to me.

 

[JoanMcWench]

I feel like this really depends on the people in the relationship. I have seen couples that, once a person has cheated, feel that the relationship was a total loss. The good times or whatever was gained turns into being a waste of someones time. I have also seen people build a stronger relationship after the admittance of infidelity. Somehow it seems to become the foundation of better relationship for them. Each person deals with cheating differently.

 

[Joe the meek]

There're a lot of "Depenzons". It depends on the situation. I knew a fella whose SO became so self involved with the loss of close family members that she shut him out. She wasn't there for him in the emotional way. He found that in another woman. One thing led to another and..........

He got caught. They were lucky enough to land a good marriage counselor who was able to get her to see where things all went wrong. They mended and are doing well. He is getting EVERYTHING he needs at home.

Was it possible that the fella in question became so involved in the loss of a family that he actually shut his wife out?

You gave a good example of one of the few reasons why I would say you should give someone a second chance.

I'm guessing though that the example you gave is the rarity rather than the norm, and I'm along the lines that a cat can't change it's stripes and if it happens once, good chance it will happen again.

I do find it so ironic when a mistress takes the husband away from his wife only to have the mistress dumped on some time later. Not to say females can't cheat as well.

 

[Josie]

It's a breaking point for me. Cheating is a conscious choice someone makes to risk your heart and the relationship they have with you. If you're willing to make that choice.. if I wasn't worth it enough to stay loyal.. if one night meant more than what we have, then there is no working on it that will change that fact. I will always remember that. It's childish and selfish.. I deserve a real man (thankfully I'm with one!)

 

[WiccanWitch]

I met this guy when I was 14, we started dating then as well. A couple years later, he cheated on me with not only 1, but 2 of my friends. I did give him a second chance simply because when I met him (on the phone through a friend) I felt he was who I was meant to spend my life with. It did take me a while to get past it, but we're still together, 14 years now and married for 8 with 2 children. It depends on you and your tolerance level, if you're able to forgive and forget, build the trust back up, etc. I don't worry about it now, but I can say it took many years to get to this point.

 

[drkn335]

Personally I don't think it is. If they are willing to hurt you once out of selfishness they will do it again. In life if you do not protect yourself and defend yourself you will get run over and hurt by everyone. You cannot be a door mat! Why should he/she ever deserve to have you back, they're not worth it. They made the mistake, now they deserve punishment not forgiveness.

 

[akasha24]

I believe if someone cheats once, they will most likely do it again. This is just my experience. I had a guy I dated for 4 years and he admitted he cheated and promised me that he'll never do it again....and he did. Some people are just cheaters, no matter how good you treat them and there is nothing you can do about it. Even though I believe everybody deserves a second chance, I don't think there are many people who cheat once and never ever do it again. It's even worse when they lie to you and you find out after a couple of years. I think it's best to leave the first time you get cheated on because then you will save yourself a lot of heartache.

 

[ReadmeByAmy]

Yes, everybody deserves to be given a second chance for any mistakes they had done. After all we are just human and If God who gave us life forgives us sinners then why can we do also the same thing of forgiving to those who had sinned against us....