I need to vent too

[Wookiegirl]

Do you ever just feel like you are completely INVISIBLE?

As you guys know my hubby got fired and he doesn't start his new job til next week. I went home for lunch today and I was being all flirty with him and he was making a joke out of it. Then he says he'll call me later. He hasn't called yet and I know I'm being a baby but I'm sick and I just don't feel like he even wants to be around me. Last night when I got home from work he went upstairs cuz I only let him smoke in one room upstairs. Then a friend of ours came over and we were talking about politics and I asked him a question and he got so nasty with me and shot me this look and he was so disrespectful and rude to me in front of our friend. I was so mad I went outside to smoke so I could have a good cry. I haven't said shit to him about that cuz I don't need him jetting off to MO again.

Now I just called lil wookie cuz he just got home from school and he's telling me about some lil girl in his class that broke her arm and I asked if the ambulance had to come get her or what and he got all frustrated with me and says "Mom, what's the deal why you askin me so many questions?" with that I told him I'd let him go.

I just feel like I do do do. I do the dishes and the dinners and the lunches and the every fucking thing and I get no respect. I am seriously sitting her crying like a bitch. maybe I'm just being sensitive. But I feel like I'm just a glorified fucking maid. After my tampa trip, I KNOW that they can't take care of themselves. So I'm just here to cook and clean but God forbid they actually have to have a fucking conversation with me.

 

[pjbleek]

Wook,
i hear ya!!!!

 

[Wookiegirl]

And then hubby asks "what's wrong?"
whats wrong, ummm, i dunno
yer an asshole
that's what's wrong!

 

[Wookiegirl]

thank you pj
i'm glad someone hears me.

 

[BlackCherry]

Well you aren't invisible to us!



Have you thought about backing up a bit and sort of making them do for themselves? Make yourself a little invisible in the respects you feel they only seem to see you and they will appreciate the things far beyond the chief cook and bottle washer business; for sure you are much much more than that!

 

[Wookiegirl]

i thought with the tampa trip that they'd miss ME.
they said they did but they didn't.
they missed the shit i do for them.

I have backed off with hubby but I can't with the lil guy. But he's totally making his own lunch tonight!

 

[Mystic]

Aww Wook *hugs* I can relate....you're not invisible. Little wook might need a talking too so he doesn't end up like mister wook, who id like to kick his arse for ya after his disappearing act on ya.

Sometimes people are so wrapped up in themselves they forget about everyone else that exists int he household... *hugs*

 

[Wookiegirl]

Aww Wook *hugs* I can relate....you're not invisible. Little wook might need a talking too so he doesn't end up like mister wook, who id like to kick his arse for ya after his disappearing act on ya.

Sometimes people are so wrapped up in themselves they forget about everyone else that exists int he household... *hugs*

thank you mystic
i feel like a big baby

 

[Wookiegirl]

and yer dead on about lil wookie taking on Mr. Wookie's not so wonderful traits.
I'm a horrible passenger in a car. That's a whole nother story but we were driving somewhere and mr. Wookie was driving and then lil man starts with his comments about how I'm freakin out and he knew I would. Mr. Wookie is his step dad and he tries so hard to get Mr. Wook's approval I almost hate to say anything to him but at the same time I'm not going to give him a free pass to be a disrespectful shit.

 

[Mystic]

thank you mystic
i feel like a big baby

your not, your feelings are real and your hurting...i can understand that. I would feel the same way and do when I get treated the exact same way...thats usually when I tell mr arsehole to fuck off and get stuffed.D as for the little dude I teach him how not to be an arse.

 

[pjbleek]

ya know what Wook? (allow me to ramble...not meaning to steal your thunder..)
is this any different than one at work? because I feel like the one who has to do everything and I don't look for the applause or anything like that I do it because it needs to get done; for if it isn't done, we are SCREWED with a capital S!!!!

 

[Wookiegirl]

it's all the same PJ.
it's sheer selfishness and unappreciation at it's finest!

 

[wednesday]

*huggles* Wookster...i know exactly how you feel, i feel like im the kids "bitch" sometimes...they walk and argue round me..im not there.!!!

Dont sweat the small stuff baby...remember we love ya ...and we always miss you xxx

 

[Wookiegirl]

*huggles* Wookster...i know exactly how you feel, i feel like im the kids "bitch" sometimes...they walk and argue round me..im not there.!!!

Dont sweat the small stuff baby...remember we love ya ...and we always miss you xxx

i'm justy going to come here and let them do what they will.
if they want to act like i'm invisible than i think it's time for me to get a fuckin hobby and be less available for them.
assholes.

 

[Mystic]

i'm justy going to come here and let them do what they will.
if they want to act like i'm invisible than i think it's time for me to get a fuckin hobby and be less available for them.
assholes.

thats actually a really good idea Wook...go for it!:thumbup:nod:

 

[Numnum]

wooks. i love you. and i appreciate ALL of you. i love and appreciate you enough for me, mr. wooks AND little wooks combined!

 

[Keight]

If you feel invisible you need to make yourself visible again Fucking tell him right out whats going on, im sure he will understand i mean he loves you, he married you right.... you shouldnt bottle this kinda stuff up if you are married

 

[Freddoz]

Go on "strike", lol, make them see exactly how much you DO for them, a little salt is good for anything sore, lol.
Serious though, reduce your efforts for them, and find yourself an interest outside the family, online or otherwise, make yourself feel "real" again.
And as for the littly, make sure that when "Pappy" does something stressfull, the little one knows you're hurting, it will do him good, a LOT of good, to see that Mum can be hurt by such behaviour, and he will reject it, all boys love their mums.

 

[Numnum]

Go on "strike", lol, make them see exactly how much you DO for them, a little salt is good for anything sore, lol.
Serious though, reduce your efforts for them, and find yourself an interest outside the family, online or otherwise, make yourself feel "real" again.
And as for the littly, make sure that when "Pappy" does something stressfull, the little one knows you're hurting, it will do him good, a LOT of good, to see that Mum can be hurt by such behaviour, and he will reject it, all boys love their mums.

I dunno if that will work. He might just think that mommy is being a big pussy. And you shouldn't encourage him to see pappy being mean to mommy and mommy's feelings being hurt. That's where serial killers come from.

 

[dazner]

rape him when he's asleep then he'll recognize you...:nod: