How to be HAPPY ?

[Sam]

Can anyone elaborate on HOW ONE SHOULD BE HAPPY ?????

Express yourself, on what exactly you feel about it ??

Also spread some light on the relation between HAPPINESS and GRIEF ???

Hope to see some good answers

Regards

Sam

 

[Darkstar]

I can be happy on my own, simply by working and making a life for myself. But the things that make me the happiest are my friends and family. Riley, Bagel, and Jett are the people closest to me. The understand me and my flaws and love me despite of them. THATS true happiness.

 

[Peter Parka]

I think that in general life is a pile of shit. With this in mind I enjoy the good things that happen when they do and dont spoil them by worrying about the shit that I can do nothing about, at the time.

 

[FunkyIce]

I don’t like to be repetitive but, be thankful for what you have.

 

[lemon]

steps on how to be happy:

1) dont be sad.

 

[SilentEyz]

I plead the 5th

 

[majikstranger]

I think happiness is being completely honest with oneself and knowing that you are solely responsible for everything that occurs to you. Being responsible is a great thing because it means your in control. I think to many people have fallen into the trap society feeds you ...that you are a victim and cant do anything about it. We like mysery, we are safe their. Happiness means that we are on top and can fall, wich is nerve wrecking to people, and once you happy you can only fall (or so we are told) there fore we avoid happiness.

People cant make you angry, people cant hurt you. only you can do that to yourself. it is the diologue we carry inside our minds that create this discomfort. If someone says they hate you, by the time they said it, its in the past, it doesnt exist anymore. It is you that starts repeating it in your mind and adding emotions. We gotta stop being victims and taking life so serious

We also get unhappy by lying to ourselves constanly We tell ourselves all kinds of crap to not come to terms of us being us. We always want to believe we are incapable of being wrong and that we are always innocent that we have good reasons for the bad things we do. Tell yourself the truth even if it hurts. Eventually youll learn to feel empowered by who you really are as oppsed to who you think you are. It is said we have 3 personalties:

Who you think you are
who others think you are
and who you really are

come to terms with who you really are and love who you really are. I can go on for hours explaining the secret to all this but then you ll be bored so i suggest these people to help you on your path to happiness.

Dr. Wayne Dyer
Deepak Chopra
Richard Bandler

 

[TheOriginalJames]

Simple. Don't take shit seriously, and DON'T HOLD GRUDGES.

 

[Mrs Behavin]

You only live once so make the best out of what you have. Dont let stuff bother you. My husband is that way. For example, if we were to be behind on a house payment,etc...he would worry and fret about it. I let it slide right down my back b/c I KNOW it will be taken care of. Worrying all the time just knocks yrs off your life. Besides it takes so many more muscles to frown than it does to smile. Smiles are the best medicine, IMO!

 

[Sam]

Thank you Guyzzzzzzzzzzz for your precious posts......... kool .. please continue and express more abt the same....

 

[BlueKitty2]

Happiness is first liking yourself. Too many people find faults in themselves and the lives that they lead. If there is something that you don't like in your life, (partner, job, location) change it. If you aren't willing to make changes in your life or lifestyle to find happiness, then you will never be happy. Happiness is second enjoying the little things in life. the way the leaves change color in the fall or the way that the sky looks after a storm. I know, kind of sappy, but if you don't take the time to slow down, how do you know when a good thing is right in front of you?
Grief is relative to this. You grieve when a good thing or person in your life is lost.

 

[elluko]

For me, being immature & goofy is my happy pill, and in a nutshell, freedom is what makes me happy.
Immaturity is Bliss.

 

[majikstranger]

Just being is happiness and realizing nothing is that serious

 

[elluko]

You know that guy that yells "WOO!" as the lights dim down at a concert?
Thats me.