How Honest Must One Be In A Relationship?

[Lizbeth19ph]

"Honesty is the best policy." But when it comes to relationships, how honest must we be to our partners? Are you one who is openly honest or one who hides some little secrets so as to save your relationship?

 

[ReadmeByAmy]

In a relationship be it a boyfriend-girlfriend or husband-wife, the rule of thumb here is that they should be open to each other, no secret and no lies to make the relationship works, to be strong and to grow more and lovelier. Although sometimes one partner will confess that they had not been honest but as long he or she tells the truth about it, still there is always a second chance to change for the better and that is what honesty is all about.

 

[BaltimoreJay]

I don't really hide anything for my wife. There are a few embarrassing stories from my past that happened before we met that I've kept to myself but that's it. I assume she has a few of those too.

Anyway, it's not a great idea to keep secrets from your partner. I know way too many people who have had relationships fall apart because they lied about things and kept them secret. Most of the time it was lying about how much debt they had that did them in. I know a guy who got fired from something like his fourth job and a year and didn't tell his wife about it. Getting caught in that huge lie lead directly into his divorce. I can think of a couple other really bad ones but the point is if those people had been honest upfront they might have been able to work things out with their partners.

 

[akasha24]

I believe honesty is very important in a relationship along with trust but how could I trust someone who isn't honest right? There are very extreme things in the world today though when it comes to relationships but if I try and block that out then I think everybody deserves honesty. I also think that 2 people have to discuss what is important to them in a relationship, some people don't feel honesty is important.. The bottom line is that at the end of the day, it doesn't matter what 2 people do as long as it makes both of them happy.

 

[mauricioq]

Honesty is one of the most important aspects in a relationship, you should be able to tell everything you want to and trust in your partner to do so, if there's no trust among two lovers, it's surely not going to work out for long.

 

[AstriaPorta]

Honesty is importan but little white lies are ok that does not harm anyone.... but make people feel better
.. and only if you know the other person well as what it is ok to lie... and will not end up bad if find out..

 

[AUFred]

Honesty is good. Being an open book not necessarily. Everything that comes into your head does not need to come out of your mouth.

 

[drkn335]

I suppose it depends upon what these secrets are, but it all honesty (haha) I'm actually not that honest in relationships. I would tell small lies, like saying there is nothing wrong when there is. I would tell my partner they didn't do anything wrong even when they did. I would like to think though that I would be more honest when it comes to big lies, like cheating, but I don't know. Sometimes I think it's better to keep lies inside for the sake of the relationship. Especially if other people are involved in the relationship, like children.

 

[Josie]

I don't tend to have secrets, let alone secrets that would ruin my relationship. I'm also not one to lie for any reason. I sugar coat from time to time lol, but not with my husband.. he gets the whole package, brain and all lol.

 

[bmfc]

My grandparents were married 65 years before, my grandfather past away. He told, me, the reason their marriage was so good, for so long was they were always honest with each other. Honest is one of the most important points of any relationship.

 

[Niyi Briggs]

I believe that a person must be absolutely honest in a relationship. There are no real needs to cover up anything because it would definitely be revealed one day. I have told my partner every bad aspect of me so she doesn't get any surprises as we roll.