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Murdoc

Murdoc

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have you ever had that perfect someone but they want nothing to do with you because of how you live your lifestyle???? they love you, but they JUST can be with you because of how you are?
 
dude, this sucks. the one girl i could honestly marry tomorrow is afraid of me and my guys.

sup boomer??????????????
 
shes afraid.... literally of who i am. of what i do.
and i thank God for OTz because i can actually be myself. you can see my heart. its crazy. she cant see past my cold heart.... into my warm heart.

when the shit gets real my warm heart turns colder.
 
Boomer said:
Your heart aint cold. Aint no way. Too good a dood. I dont think she WANTS to see your warm heart. If she wanted to see it, she could. It might be for the best my friend.
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shes seen my cold heart. end of story.
 
She shouldnt judge you as long as you were using it acordingly. She shouldnt judge you anyways, she should go with her heart. Then again, who am I to say what people should do? Im just as lost as everyone else.
 
Despite what you have done in the past or what you do now it shouldn't matter, if this woman loved you she would see past the small things, and the fact they seem so huge to her may mean that she doesn't love you as you love her.
Your a good Guy Doc.. don't give your heart to someone who isn't going to deserve it.
 
Boomer said:
She shouldnt judge you as long as you were using it acordingly. She shouldnt judge you anyways, she should go with her heart. Then again, who am I to say what people should do? Im just as lost as everyone else.
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i have done nothing bad to her. i honestly love her. but this sucks.... she is nothing to me because of who i am.

/thread im done.
 
Murdoc you are a great guy and if she cant see that shes a fool. Dont change who you are for someone else, I havent known you that long a little longer than some on here but I have seen your warm heart and it didnt take much, she obviously has blinders on. Im here if you need to talk hun
 
Sometimes people can love a person to pieces but if the person is doing drugs or in a gang or breaking the law, etc. or something like that they may not be able to be around that type of lifestyle consistently no matter how 'warm and good' they may think the heart is. I'm not saying that any of these things are the case with Murdoc, just giving an example of why someone may choose to back away from someone they love.

I guess I don't totally understand the situation you are in Murdoc. I'm sorry you are hurting.
 
Murdoc said:
have you ever had that perfect someone but they want nothing to do with you because of how you live your lifestyle???? they love you, but they JUST can be with you because of how you are?
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Unfortunately, I know what you're talking about.
It's the most helpless situation to be in.
But at the end of the day, you can't change what she feels, no matter how much you love her.
I'll tell you the same thing I've finally found out, after more tears than I care to admit that I've shed. You know in your heart that you're a good person, and that she brings that out in you. You also know that she's happy with you, but she has some "thing" that won't let her accept you 100%. It's not your fault. Let her walk away. You'll know that you didn't give up, and you can hold your head high. Someday, a woman will love you for your traits and accept you just the way you are.
 
Have you tried to come to a compromise?

Are her concerns legit?

Could what she fears in you come back to hurt her or children you might produce?

It's hard to make a determination, from my point of view, on someone elses concerns when I am not sure what they are concerned about. It could be something trivial, or it could be something detrimental.

Without knowing .. it's hard to give consolation to either side.

What I can say, is that if you are comfortable in who you are, you're doing nothing wrong that can harm yourself or others, and she has a problem with it .. then she doesn't really love you .. she loves the idea of you. BUt it all falls on what the actual problem really is though.
 
SRC said:
Have you tried to come to a compromise?

Are her concerns legit?

Could what she fears in you come back to hurt her or children you might produce?

It's hard to make a determination, from my point of view, on someone elses concerns when I am not sure what they are concerned about. It could be something trivial, or it could be something detrimental.

Without knowing .. it's hard to give consolation to either side.

What I can say, is that if you are comfortable in who you are, you're doing nothing wrong that can harm yourself or others, and she has a problem with it .. then she doesn't really love you .. she loves the idea of you. BUt it all falls on what the actual problem really is though.
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i cant go into that much detail. but later this month im moving to north carolina and i wanted her to come with me. so much for that one.
 
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