have you done anything more important in your life?

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Twenty years ago, I drove a cab for a living.One night I took a fare at 2:30 am , when I arrived to collect, the building was dark except for a single light in a ground floor window. Under these circumstances, many drivers would just honk once.

But I had seen too many impoverished people who depended on taxis as their only means of transportation. Unless a situation smelled of danger, I always went to the door.This passenger might be someone who needs my assistance, I reasoned to myself.So I walked to the door and knocked.

Just a minute,' answered a frail, elderly voice. I could hear something being dragged across the floor.After a long pause, the door opened. A small woman in her 80's stood before me. She was wearing a print dress and a pillbox hat with a veil pinned on it, like somebody out of a 1940s movie.

By her side was a small nylon suitcase The apartment looked as if no one had lived in it for years. All the furniture was covered with sheets. There were no clocks on the walls, no knickknacks or utensils on the counters. In the corner was a cardboard box filled with photos and glassware.

'Would you carry my bag out to the car?' she said.I took the suitcase to the cab, then returned to assist the woman. She took my arm and we walked slowly toward the curb.

She kept thanking me for my kindness. 'It's nothing,' I told her.'I just try to treat my passengers the way I would want my mother treated. 'Oh, you're such a good boy,' she said.

When we got in the cab, she gave me an address, and then asked, 'Could you drive through downtown?''It's not the shortest way,' I answered quickly.

'Oh, I don't mind,' she said 'I'm in no hurry.
I'm on my way to a hospice.

I looked in the rear view mirror. Her eyes were glistening.
'I don't have any family left,' she continued.

'The doctor says I don't have very long.' I quietly reached over and shut off the meter. 'What route would you like me to take?' I asked.For the next two hours, we drove through the city.She showed me the building where she had once worked as an elevator operator. We drove through the neighborhood where she and her husband had lived when they were newlyweds. She had me pull up in front of a furniture warehouse that had once been a ballroom where she had gone dancing as a girl.

Sometimes she'd ask me to slow in front of a particular building or Corner and would sit staring into the darkness, saying nothing.

As the first hint of sun was creasing the horizon, she suddenly said, 'I'm tired. Let's go now". We drove in silence to the address she had given me.It was a low building, like a small convalescent home, with a driveway that passed under a portico.

Two orderlies came out to the cab as soon as we pulled up.They were solicitous and intent, watching her every move.They must have been expecting her. I opened the trunk and took the small suitcase to the door.The woman was already seated in a wheelchair. 'How much do I owe you?' she asked, reaching into her purse. 'Nothing,' I said 'You have to make a living,' she answered.'There are other passengers,' I responded.

Almost without thinking, I bent and gave her a hug.She held onto me tightly. 'You gave an old woman a little moment of joy,' she said. 'Thank you. I squeezed her hand, and then walked into the dim morning light.Behind me, a door shut. It was the sound of the closing of a life.
I didn't pick up any more passengers that shift.

I drove aimlessly lost in thought. For the rest of that day, I could hardly talk.

What if that woman had gotten an angry driver, or one who was impatient to end his shift? What if I had refused to take the run, or had honked once, then driven away? On a quick review, I don't think that I have done anything more important in my life.

We're conditioned to think that our lives revolve around great moments. But great moments often catch us unaware-beautifully wrapped in what others may consider a small one.

PEOPLE MAY NOT REMEMBER EXACTLY WHAT YOU DID OR WHAT YOU SAID, BUT THEY WILL ALWAYS REMEMBER HOW YOU MADE THEM FEEL.





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I try to help out people in any way I can, one incident kinda sticks out for me though, I was on my way home from school, as I'm walking into my driveway I hear someone calling to me, I look over and there's a young guy in a wheelchair, his feet had come off the foot rests and were kind of dragging along the ground, he asked me if I would help him get his feet back on the rests, so I do that for him, I ask where he's going by himself in his wheelchair and he tells me he's wheeling himself to the jewelry store to get his girlfriend a gift for Valentine's day, The Jewelry store was a long ways away, especially for a person in a wheelchair, I was thinking to myself "Damn this is s pretty good guy", seemed really unfair to me that someone like him is crippled whilst so many assholes are able bodied and still won't go out of their way to do stuff for the people they're supposed to love.
 

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I saved a girl's life once, well kinda, I was walking down the street and saw these two girls playing, anyway suddenly she falls down and starts choking, at first I thought they were playing about but her friend starts screaming and I run over, as I had done a first aid course I got the sweet which was lodged down her throat out of her and waited while the other girl ran for her parents. When they arrived and the girl I had saved was calmed down I walked away a hero.
 

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When I was a kid I saved a drowning kid in a hotel pool. I'm glad I saw him on the bottom of the crowded pool.
 

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I like helping older people. In upstate New York I saw a lady struggling to walk down a sidewalk that the snowplows had just buried in slush & ice. I practically begged her to let me give her a ride, knowing that I was a stranger & fit all the stereotypes. She finally agreed & I took her to the grocer. It would have taken her an hour on foot.

I've done several things like that. It makes me feel great to help.
 

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I used to co-manage a store in the town I live in and every Wednesday this middle aged lady would come in, walk around for about 10 minutes and then leave.
She would never touch anything, never made eye contact and always looked just a little bit lost.

One Wednesday, right on time as always, she came in. It was raining heavily and she was soaked through and looked freezing, so without thinking I offered to make her a cup of coffee to warm her up a bit.
She looked shocked, but accepted and without knowing why, instead of using the mugs that myself and my staff always used I made sure that I took out a brand new one.
I don't know how I knew to do that, but I did. It turned out that she had OCD and that was the reason she never touched anything in the store and always looked lost - she didn't have many people that understood why dirt and germs freaked her out.

After that, she came in every Wednesday and I made her a coffee (I reserved the original mug for her, so she knew she always had the same one) and we'd talk for a little while.

I ended up leaving the job after a while; but I won't forget the last Wednesday I saw her and told her I was leaving.
She reached out and patted my arm and said "thank you".


 

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My mother was diagnosed with Stage 4 Indolent Lymphoma w/ aggressive tendencies back in 07', she was home in the states and I was living in the UK.

I went home every so often to help her & my family and be supportive of her but I felt it wasn't good enough because my trips were always short ones; I wanted to be with her until she no longer needed me but I also had the responsibility of wife and mother, too.

Long and very personal story short, I went to my hairdressers and had her shave all my hair off so my mother could have a wig and a part of me could be there with her in times when I couldn't be. She once told me that every time my hair (her wig) draped across her face, brushed it or touched it, she felt so much love around her, that it made her well up in tears. (It could have been the medication talking, but it made me feel good inside).

Yes, I walked around like Sinead O'Connor for a while, but you know what? I didn't care and I would do it again for her in a heart beat.
 

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My mother was diagnosed with Stage 4 Indolent Lymphoma w/ aggressive tendencies back in 07', she was home in the states and I was living in the UK.

I went home every so often to help her & my family and be supportive of her but I felt it wasn't good enough because my trips were always short ones; I wanted to be with her until she no longer needed me but I also had the responsibility of wife and mother, too.

Long and very personal story short, I went to my hairdressers and had her shave all my hair off so my mother could have a wig and a part of me could be there with her in times when I couldn't be. She once told me that every time my hair (her wig) draped across her face, brushed it or touched it, she felt so much love around her, that it made her well up in tears. (It could have been the medication talking, but it made me feel good inside).

Yes, I walked around like Sinead O'Connor for a while, but you know what? I didn't care and I would do it again for her in a heart beat.

Awwwww...this is very touching

Given that big sacrifice you did for your mom, it shows you have a very caring heartsmiley_aakq.gif
 

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Awwwww...this is very touching

Given that big sacrifice you did for your mom, it shows you have a very caring heartsmiley_aakq.gif

<3 Thank You.:)

You know, I don't know if it's being caring or just something you feel you need to do to help someone you love, out. She was in alot of pain and being hairless left her feeling so insecure. She said she took being diagnosed with cancer better than she did seeing all her hair come out. She had a wig made prior to mine but it wasn't working out for her. She said it was constantly sliding off or to the side or over her eyes.

To be honest, I can't and won't say that I'd do it for just anyone, but I do know that I'd do it for those I deeply love; whether it was my mother, my daughter or my best friend. My little sister on the other hand wouldn't get shit from me. However cruel and insensitive that may sound, I feel I have valid reasons for feeling this way.
 

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I suppose I am still seeking redemption in a sense. What I have done recently can never seem to erase the mistake I made back then. One can save a life, be a good friend, and even inspire others...but it never seems to be enough. The most important thing that I have done in my life and still do is to bring roses to the cemetery to pay my respects. I just wish I could do more. Maybe I am seeking that one moment in my life where I can save someone else from making the same mistake that I made in a sense. Besides, I do not think there is redemption for me overall. What I do is out of compassion and who needs credit when your Anonymous? Not me...
 

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I suppose I am still seeking redemption in a sense. What I have done recently can never seem to erase the mistake I made back then. One can save a life, be a good friend, and even inspire others...but it never seems to be enough. The most important thing that I have done in my life and still do is to bring roses to the cemetery to pay my respects. I just wish I could do more. Maybe I am seeking that one moment in my life where I can save someone else from making the same mistake that I made in a sense. Besides, I do not think there is redemption for me overall. What I do is out of compassion and who needs credit when your Anonymous? Not me...
Forget trying to strike a balance. That will either happen or not. Just be kind.
 

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Forget trying to strike a balance. That will either happen or not. Just be kind.

I do not think it is "balance" that I am trying to acquire in a sense.

I am looking for something that I had lost along the way. It is just really frustrating when you

cannot find it and get tempted to give up because of the memories that turn into nightmares.


(Sometimes one must not dwell on things a bit too much. Thank you for the advice, Accountable.)
 
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I have volunteered a lot. I worked on the Crisis Line for nearly three years. I was a big Sister, I tutored alliterate adults so they could read.

And I try and lend an ear or a hug when the need arises.

I aint no saint though, I like sinning too much ;)
 

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Last year I helped organize a charity event for the Special Olympics and the Veterans. We're doing it again this year too, except we decided it's all going to SO (last year there was drama dividing between the charities).
 
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