Feeling insecure

[Pumpkin]

How do you guys get over stupid little insecurities?

My boyfriend is Italian...I don't speak any Italian or understand it.

I worry about this. I know its stupid because I KNOW the fact that I don't speak Italian doesn't bother him.
I've got this horrible nagging in the back of my mind that I can't give him something.
For example, he is going out with a group of Italians on Monday night, I am not going because well obviously I don't speak or understand. So now I'm feeling shitty that I can't be apart of this part of his life.

Gah, it's stupid I know but it's there.

What do you guys do to over come dumb dumb worries/insecurities?

 

[Xeno]

Being insecure is not something that can be completely solved. As humans we feel the need to want to improve on ourselves and offer more then we can at times to those we care about. One might simply try learning the language and even become close to that individual by having them teach you the language as well. Another might accept whatever "flaws" they have in a sense and deal with it accordingly. The main focus should be that he accepts you for who you are and it does seem that way as well by what you say. So no worries in that area. Learning another language can be difficult for some, but if you keep applying yourself then you shall learn it in no time. Even nowadays I am still learning the whole Japanese Language even though I have a decent hang of it these days. I mostly use it in order to understand some Japanese films or television shows. Anyways, I hope you have fun learning a new language overall.​

 

[sexysadie]

I'm with Xeno on this one, education can be one of the best ways to beat insecurities. For the most part, men rarely get the chance to actually be the teacher in the relationship....lol...think about the possibilities.....(evil grin)

 

[Pumpkin]

Yes I agree with Xeno too. I fully intend to learn Italian eventually, but I'm crazy busy at the moment as I am studying in a language that is not my mother tongue. I think just at the minute, taking on another language would be just a little too much!

I think I'll just have to suck it up till I get the chance to learn it!

 

[HK]

Even if you can't start to learn properly, you could ask your boyfriend to start helping you learn words and phrases for stuff you use all the time or do together. Like things around the home, when he asks you for things he could use the italian word and explain what it means etc.

Insecurities are difficult! The only real one I have with my boyfriend is that I gained a little weight during the 18 months we've been together. I'm still a size 10, but I'm definitely curvier than when we got together, and sometimes I need him to reassure me that he doesn't care. Mainly I deal with it by reminding myself that he's still with me and he's still very touchy feely with me, so if he minded, something would have changed!

 

[Diggin Deep]

Xeno made some very good points. Whatever you do, don't let it the language barrier keep you from enjoying your time with him. You may not understand the language yet, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't go out and enjoy yourself with him and his friends. I'm sure that if you went out with them, you would most likely find yourself having a great time. Learning the language will come with time...just don't let it hold you back. I'm sure any efforts made will go a long way with him and only make your relationship stronger. Good Luck!!!

 

[JoeCool10]

I feel the same way when I go out with friends' families that speak only spanish. What usually happens is when I'm invited, I'll go along and just do what I can to understand or ask my friend if she'll translate some. I feel socially retarded, but this also helps me learn spanish.

 

[Pumpkin]

Even if you can't start to learn properly, you could ask your boyfriend to start helping you learn words and phrases for stuff you use all the time or do together. Like things around the home, when he asks you for things he could use the italian word and explain what it means etc.

Insecurities are difficult! The only real one I have with my boyfriend is that I gained a little weight during the 18 months we've been together. I'm still a size 10, but I'm definitely curvier than when we got together, and sometimes I need him to reassure me that he doesn't care. Mainly I deal with it by reminding myself that he's still with me and he's still very touchy feely with me, so if he minded, something would have changed!

Thats a good idea, it should at least help me communicate with his parents a little more (who don't speak English!)

I have a few insecurities, as I have been treated like dirt in every single one of my past relationships, but in general I manage to keep them under control. Luckily my boyfriend is not shy in telling me and showing me how much he loves me, which helps a lot!

 

[Pumpkin]

Xeno made some very good points. Whatever you do, don't let it the language barrier keep you from enjoying your time with him. You may not understand the language yet, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't go out and enjoy yourself with him and his friends. I'm sure that if you went out with them, you would most likely find yourself having a great time. Learning the language will come with time...just don't let it hold you back. I'm sure any efforts made will go a long way with him and only make your relationship stronger. Good Luck!!!

There is no language barrier between me and him (he speaks better english than me!). We have a group of friends together so thats not an issue. But this is a group organized for Italians in Brussels. So they can chat in their language etc so taking me along when I can't understand the conversation or contribute to it would be pointless. Not to mention I'd feel bad as he would have to 'babysit' me all night.

It just kinda sucks, I wish I could click my fingers and be fluent because I do feel like there is a part of him I am missing out on!

 

[Peter Parka]

Try learning this and then say it to him when you go to bed. He will be very, very happy! :thumbup -

La voglio spingere il suo palpitare, il gallo duro su me e mi riempe con la sua pastella di bambino

 

[porterjack]

Try learning this and then say it to him when you go to bed. He will be very, very happy! :thumbup -

La voglio spingere il suo palpitare, il gallo duro su me e mi riempe con la sua pastella di bambino

cut and paste translateed from yahoo bable fish is

I want to push its palpitare, the hard rooster on me and me riempe with its pastella of child


make me blush just thinking of it

 

[Pumpkin]

hahaha I got this...

I want to push his throbbing, hard cock up me and fills me with
his baby batter...

Aaaaaand, noted

 

[JoeCool10]

hahaha I got this...

I want to push his throbbing, hard cock up me and fills me with
his baby batter...

Aaaaaand, noted

Ahem... Peter Parka is a dirty scoundrel. :24:

I'm gonna be thinking about baby batter the rest of the evening. LOL

 

[Nomad]

I have never felt insecure with my relationship but sometimes I question myself why did she chose me when she had better options.

 

[Urvashi]

Feeling insecure in a relationship is common. It can come from past experiences, fear of rejection, or unclear communication. Talking openly with your partner, building trust, and understanding your own needs can help reduce insecurity and strengthen the relationship over time.