Do you believe kids should be spanked ?

[Francis]

So the argument still rages on on how kids should be brought up..

Can children be brought up without spankings ?

Have you had success with it and if so why ?

Have you not and why ?

I feel in my mind that parents should be able to find alternatives to spanking.. It does not mean I will tell you that you are right or wrong about it, that is for the law to decide. However if the tools and opportunities are there to avoid spankings can be used why would you not take them?

Positive reinforcement is by far a more effective tool for most people and children and can be a a better way to accomplish your goals and have much happier children.

Your thoughts...

 

[AUDRAA]

I think spanking works on some kids and not others, it never worked with my daughter but was ok on my son. I believe in never using an object though, hand only so you can feel how hard youre swatting them. My parents use to break stuff on my ass and it was painful but very non productive for me just like my daughter.

 

[Francis]

It never worked on me.. I can look back and remember when it was used and all it did was make me think how horrible my mother was..

I never use ( or used ) it on my kids. I have always been able to calm them down no matter what the situation..

 

[HottyToddyChick]

I see nothing wrong with spanking. I think the issue comes in when you use objects or when you aren't slapping with an open hand.

 

[Francis]

I think spanking works on some kids and not others, it never worked with my daughter but was ok on my son. I believe in never using an object though, hand only so you can feel how hard youre swatting them. My parents use to break stuff on my ass and it was painful but very non productive for me just like my daughter.

Owww I would have to agree, if anything, no weapons..

 

[NuckingFuts]

I think spanking works on some kids and not others, it never worked with my daughter but was ok on my son. I believe in never using an object though, hand only so you can feel how hard youre swatting them. My parents use to break stuff on my ass and it was painful but very non productive for me just like my daughter.

Of course it didn't work on you. Your a hard ass!:24:

 

[darkangel]

My daughter was too fast for me to spank her but believe you me when I did catch her off guard she got it on the bottom! A swat here and there is what some kids need these days. :eek

 

[AnitaBeer]

I have no issues with spankings. I see nothing wrong with it. I do have issues with beating and using objects. I swore the day I had kids I would never use something other than my hand if I ever had to spank and that was because of having many objects used to beat my ass when I was younger.

People view this way differently tho because there are some kids that really don't need spankings and there are some that nothing but a swift swat on the ass works.

 

[Francis]

I see nothing wrong with spanking. I think the issue comes in when you use objects or when you aren't slapping with an open hand.

Were you spanked as a kid ?

Did it make you do less bad stuff ?

What respect did you have for the one spanking you ( honest answer now ) ?

 

[Francis]

of course it didn't work on you. Your a hard ass!:24:

:24::24::24:

 

[Francis]

But again, if you had at hand other abilities to resolve the problem and it would make it easier would you not chose that solution ?

 

[HottyToddyChick]

Were you spanked as a kid ?

Did it make you do less bad stuff ?

What respect did you have for the one spanking you ( honest answer now ) ?

Yes.

Oh yes- until I got to be a little older and started mouthing off.

At the time- I hated my father. But he treated me unlike most children get treated- we were disciplined and organized all the time. I see children running around and getting away with all sorts of things I would have never dared try, and I'm glad I never acted like that.

Looking back, I think my father was doing what he knew to be best at the time, and I think he did a great job and I have never doubted his love for me or my brother.

 

[Abcinthia]

I see nothing wrong with it as long as it isn't too hard. The child should be able to realise what you have done but there shouldn't be marks/bruising etc.

! A swat here and there is what some kids need these days. :eek

I agree. So many people I know have kids and don't discipline them in anyway shape or form. One woman I know told me I was a bad mother because I told my daughter off on a bus for kicking the chair infront which someone was sat on. This woman has two kids, never disciplines them and they are so naughty it's unbelievable.

 

[Boomerang]

Honestly I am still up in the air with the spanking issue. I guess I would be able to have a more definite answer if I had a child of my own, but that is not happening for a long looooooooooooong time if ever.

However, I do disagree with people who believe their child should be rewarded for anything and everything. I am getting kids in my class who feel like they should get a prize for doing what they are supposed to do in school. Prizes and rewards should be used sparingly for exceptional behavior.

Edit: I was not spanked as a child and I turned out fine. However, I was also very obedient and eager to please. All children are different and methods that might work with one might not work for another.

 

[Francis]

Yes.

Oh yes- until I got to be a little older and started mouthing off.

At the time- I hated my father. But he treated me unlike most children get treated- we were disciplined and organized all the time. I see children running around and getting away with all sorts of things I would have never dared try, and I'm glad I never acted like that.

Looking back, I think my father was doing what he knew to be best at the time, and I think he did a great job and I have never doubted his love for me or my brother.

Again, I don't think all parents that spank are bad..

Most use it only when they feel it required ( last resort type of punishment )..

However having raised kids and still having one growing up, I can say that not spanking has worked fine.. One was very difficult but we still managed to find alternatives that in my mind worked much better.

Consequences that were pure gold to the child..

Never had a return problem..

 

[Francis]

Honestly I am still up in the air with the spanking issue. I guess I would be able to have a more definite answer if I had a child of my own, but that is not happening for a long looooooooooooong time if ever.

However, I do disagree with people who believe their child should be rewarded for anything and everything. I am getting kids in my class who feel like they should get a prize for doing what they are supposed to do in school. Prizes and rewards should be used sparingly for exceptional behavior.

Edit: I was not spanked as a child and I turned out fine. However, I was also very obedient and eager to please. All children are different and methods that might work with one might not work for another.

Well that is the other side of the issue..

People don't understand how to properly reward kids..

Of course when I was "spanked" as a kid my mother always felt guilty so she would overly reward me afterwards so I see no difference..

But I agree.. There are always spoiled brats around..

Sorry to hear you do not plan on children for a lonnng time..

 

[ClicheGuevara]

I think spanking works on some kids and not others, it never worked with my daughter but was ok on my son. I believe in never using an object though, hand only so you can feel how hard youre swatting them. My parents use to break stuff on my ass and it was painful but very non productive for me just like my daughter.

This, and I think a bigger issue at hand is general neglect. I think we can all agree that there are way to many horrible parents out there. Children mimic what their parents do, so if you're a shitty person you're going to have shitty kids.

I want badly to be a father, but I want to enjoy my own life a bit more before devoting it to raising a child. I don't ever want to look at my children as a burden or have them think that I would rather play golf or something then be with them. When I do have children though, I hope that the example that I set will allow them to grow up well behaved without me having to spank..But I will if the situation calls for it.

 

[Boomerang]

Sorry to hear you do not plan on children for a lonnng time..

Why?

I'm not sorry. It's my choice. I love children and all. However, I don't think I'm ready for the responsibility.

Not to mention I am completely terrified of vomit and kids do that a whole lot.

 

[Francis]

Why?

I'm not sorry. It's my choice. I love children and all. However, I don't think I'm ready for the responsibility.

Not to mention I am completely terrified of vomit and kids do that a whole lot.

OK I guess I misunderstood your comments.. My mistake..

As for your own kids vomit.. It's amazing how it becomes irrelevant when it's your own.. Much like their poop, blood, snot and every other bodily function.. :24:

Especially when they are very sick.. :mad

 

[Springsteen]

As others have said, it's fine in moderation as long as it's not a violent beating.