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disruptive

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i decided to stop smoking yesterday. i was driving out of town to visit family and said aloud: i'm not going to smoke anymore." i went from at least 1/2 pack at least a day to nothing. also for the past month and a bit i had been taking percocet recreationally. nothing crazy, maybe 5 or 6 a day, for no reason really. but i decided to stop that too.

im not posting for praise, goodness no. the issue i would like to raise, to whoever may be interested, is that during my pursuit towards self-wellness i have been inadvertently stuck with a unconcious insensitivity which has forced a wedge in between me and my spouse.

i'm interested to know if anyone has had a similiar experience and might be willing to lend a word of advice that i might quelch this unnecessary flame of fury between myself and the one that i love most.

regards.
 
What do you mean by insensitivity? As in you're ignoring her, or being actively nasty?

My boyfriends gets very grumpy whenever he tries to quit. I put up with a degree of it because I understand he feels miserable but there comes a point where you have to take responsibility for your own behaviour. There's only so much you can blame on cravings.
 
HK said:
What do you mean by insensitivity? As in you're ignoring her, or being actively nasty?

My boyfriends gets very grumpy whenever he tries to quit. I put up with a degree of it because I understand he feels miserable but there comes a point where you have to take responsibility for your own behaviour. There's only so much you can blame on cravings.
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i COMPLETELY agree. im constantly working on my self control and im pretty sure i've got a secure hold on it. however she still says i come across as insensitive. ..maybe she isn't using the right term to express her feelings..? im not sure. i should ask her.

thanks for your input HK.

and porterjack, what exactly about it do you miss?
 
Talk to your girlfriend about it in more detail, before the next argument or disagreement comes up so you're both feeling calm :) you could be right and she's not really expressing what she wants to properly.

Do you have a tendency to put your own feelings first at the moment because they're more important in your mind due to the quitting? Do you think your behaviour has changed or do you think she's being irrational, even a little?
 
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