Confident or Arrogant?

[Dreek Lass]

I am sometimes naturally confident, and I have suffered with a mental illness for many years now, which affects my interaction socially. So sometimes when I am feeling like I am not feeling confident enough to get through any social interaction, I will fake it until it feels natural. Fake it until you make it lol. And then I end up coming across as arrogant, because I have turned the dial up too much.

Then other times if I am feeling a little low, I will try to talk myself up - because they say that speaking of positive things - is a good way to generate the feeling of positivity within yourself. But then once again I do come off as arrogant.

What would you say about yourself? Are you confident, and come across as arrogant?

 

[Josie]

I'm confident in some ways, not so much in others, but I don't care anymore how I come off to others. I assume it can seem like arrogance sometimes, but it can't really be helped can it? If you don't feel arrogance, than it's the other persons issue, not your own.. and being an empath, are you sure you're not putting yourself in their shoes and seeing yourself through tainted glasses? Are you making assumptions about how you're coming off or has someone pointed it out? Sometimes I FEEL like I sound arrogant, but I just can't be bothered anymore.. I want less brain chaos, not more. If someone finds me arrogant, I'd hope they point it out or stop talking to me lol.. those who get me are all I need anyway

 

[KC Evans]

I am sometimes naturally confident, and I have suffered with a mental illness for many years now, which affects my interaction socially. So sometimes when I am feeling like I am not feeling confident enough to get through any social interaction, I will fake it until it feels natural. Fake it until you make it lol. And then I end up coming across as arrogant, because I have turned the dial up too much.

Then other times if I am feeling a little low, I will try to talk myself up - because they say that speaking of positive things - is a good way to generate the feeling of positivity within yourself. But then once again I do come off as arrogant.

What would you say about yourself? Are you confident, and come across as arrogant?

I have a problem at times interacting with others socially. I have wondered if something was wrong with me or if that was my natural personality. Is this a real social defect or were you kidding? Now you have me questioning myself, lol, lol. I am very shy and stay to myself but when i come out, I show out with a lot of confidence. i dont think I am arrogant though. I do not act like I am the best at everything and better than everyone. Some people are naturally like that though. I guess it helps them to feel better about themselves.

 

[themarksquared]

I hate it when people tend to think that confidence=arrogance. I personally believe that those are two very different words. I define confidence as a gift that we use to interact with other people without putting them to shame. Arrogance is the complete opposite. We put people to shame. We bring them down. I hope more people would pick up this mindset.

We live in a world where we need to be confident. We need to talk and to make connections. This is the reality that we have to face right now.

 

[KC Evans]

I hate it when people tend to think that confidence=arrogance. I personally believe that those are two very different words. I define confidence as a gift that we use to interact with other people without putting them to shame. Arrogance is the complete opposite. We put people to shame. We bring them down. I hope more people would pick up this mindset.

We live in a world where we need to be confident. We need to talk and to make connections. This is the reality that we have to face right now.

I totally agree with you. Arrogance is not always nice. I don't like to be around individuals who carry themselves in a way that intends to hurt another. If they need to become arrogant, feeling confident only when you're putting someone else down, then maybe they are not so confident after all.

 

[Dreek Lass]

I hate it when people tend to think that confidence=arrogance. I personally believe that those are two very different words. I define confidence as a gift that we use to interact with other people without putting them to shame. Arrogance is the complete opposite. We put people to shame. We bring them down. I hope more people would pick up this mindset.

We live in a world where we need to be confident. We need to talk and to make connections. This is the reality that we have to face right now.

Me too, but think of it this way; when someone is feeling really low about themselves, and you walk in with confidence, it is going to seem like arrogance to them, and it is going to rub them the wrong way. The frequencies of the feelings are too much of a leap for the person that is feeling low about themselves, and to witness someone who is such a leap away from you emotionally, someone who is exhibiting confidence, then it usually will be taken as arrogance and it will be really annoying to them.

Arrogance is not putting people to shame though. Not at all. it can be a part of it, but it is not the definition of arrogance in my opinion.

 

[Chrisuren]

I am pretty confident but am aware of myself around people who don't know me. I fully appreciate some people may see me as arrogant the first time they meet me, so when meeting new people I try and dial it back a few notches, when they get to know me I'm always confident.

 

[mauricioq]

Depends on the day for me, sometimes I'm very confident, others I'm not, and don't really want to talk to anyone.
But i'm never arrogant, and I hate people like that.

 

[tribie]

I am pretty much misunderstood myself. I am confident most of the time. I have come to realize all these years that most people around me have a weaker personality than I have and that there is no reason for me to be shy or anything. However, many people see me as arrogant too. They only realize that I am not really arrogant when they get used to how I am. You see, I do not look up much to other people and this includes bosses and superiors. I always talk to people on equal footing no matter who they are. I dont know... well, perhaps I am arrogant... hahahahahahaha

 

[rossonomous]

I'm a pretty confident person but I don't believe that I am arrogant. Arrogant people make a point of being over-confident and it's just not attractive.

 

[GoldenFate944]

I definitely don't see myself as arrogant or at least I don't try to be anyway. I'm a confident person because I don't try to compare myself to others. I think that is the worst thing a person can do is to constantly compare themselves and their achievements with others. When you do that, you'll never feel good enough. That thought process has helped me maintain and boost a sense of self worth that previously wasn't present.

 

[caparica007]

I don't think anyone sees him/herself as arrogant, at least I don't. I think I am confident about what I know, meaning that I am aware that there are plenty of stuff I'm ignorant about.

 

[Catavenger]

Be nice to others and treat them well and you will come across as "confident" rather other than arrogant.
I am not really social for a variety of reasons however after surviving all that I have in my life I am much more confident.

 

[mareebaybay]

I agree, no one will see there self as being arrogant. At times I think I can be arrogant, but then I think about how confident I am in what I do and realize it is just my way of having confidence.

 

[Trellum]

I'm very sure and I've even told by a lot people they think I'm arrogant, and if often seems as if I believed I'm better than everyone else. I laugh because that's so far from the truth! I'm just a shy person who doesn't like too much because she suffer from chronic depression and feels down most of the time! Plus I also suffer from social anxiety! So it's really awkward for me going to a place and having to greet everyone. It overwhelms me, so I avoid doing it... as a result people assume I'm just being rude and I think so high of myself! If they knew how wrong they are...