Can You Handle The Truth?

[Dreek Lass]

Everybody is always saying how they like people to keep it real with them, or keep it 100 with them in this day and age, and people also claim to hate people that lie to them, and hate people that are fake, when society requires you to be fake at some point, just to keep things going. Fakery is a coping mechanism in our society . A heavily relied on coping mechanism.

So would you rather people tell you the truth or lie to you?

 

[AstriaPorta]

Everyone lies just depands what lie it is and the reason too ..

 

[Josie]

I do mean it when I say I want brutal honesty. I may not like the truth, but that would probably mean it's something I need to hear anyway. I can only learn and better myself with the truth. I can't think of one thing I would want someone to lie to me about to save my feelings. I can understand when people do that, but I just don't see the point of lying. For me anyway.

 

[Denis Hard]

When people feel they don't need and you prove that you don't need them, they can afford to be totally honest with you. Why? Because they have nothing to lose if they tell you the truth and b) You don't care about what they say anyway. That's why most people close to me don't bother to lie to me nor I to them.

 

[mauricioq]

Always the truth, when I discover a lie by myself I get really mad.
It's always better to know the person has the dignity to realize the mistake, and end up telling you the truth.
But that's just my opinion.

 

[Annetteb]

I would prefer a person be truthful, but people lie. Some lie to your face and some lie behind your back. What I hate is when they get caught in a lie, and they still lie hoping to get out of it. I have seen a lot of people who do this. I wish everyone could be honest but ad the saying goes sometimes 'The truth hurts'. I have seen people be truthful just to hurt the other person and I hate that.

 

[Chaos]

I always tell the truth even if it's not pleasant to hear. I don't like humans that lie to me or try to avoid the truth because they are scared of the consequences or just like to integrate in a group. Truth shall set you free, but you will not gain to many new friends.:jk

 

[Ricardo187]

I believe it depends on what the lie or the truth is about. After all, some small and insignificant lies could make the difference in a good way. There are things you don't need to know and you'll probably feel better if you don't. Though, if it's something more important or that affects me directly or indirectly, I'd like to know it, that's for sure. Hearing the truth isn't easy either, but you should learn to take it and be able to assimilate it.

 

[caparica007]

Well said. Generally I always prefer the truth, but possibly there are things I'm better off not knowing...

I believe it depends on what the lie or the truth is about. After all, some small and insignificant lies could make the difference in a good way. There are things you don't need to know and you'll probably feel better if you don't. Though, if it's something more important or that affects me directly or indirectly, I'd like to know it, that's for sure. Hearing the truth isn't easy either, but you should learn to take it and be able to assimilate it.

 

[DaBlink182]

Depends on the situation. I'm a really good liar myself so I can tell when people tell lies pretty quickly. That said, unless it's something I genuinely want to know, I'll leave them thinking they lied to me without me knowing. But I do appreciate it when people tell me the truth, it says a lot about a person.

 

[rebel]

I don't really think all people are honest with me all the time, definitely not. Any 'reviews' I get to me personally are either positive or none. I don't know why, but it's how it's always been. I guess I feel bad about it, but even if I got the negative ones as well, I doubt I'd be to cope. My ego is just too big for that.

 

[Dreek Lass]

I do mean it when I say I want brutal honesty. I may not like the truth, but that would probably mean it's something I need to hear anyway. I can only learn and better myself with the truth. I can't think of one thing I would want someone to lie to me about to save my feelings. I can understand when people do that, but I just don't see the point of lying. For me anyway.

You are perhaps the only person that I believe when you say that you want honesty, even though you may not like it. People go on like they would rather be told the truth over placating lies all of the time, but the TRUTH - since we are throwing that word around lol - is that they want to be placated. They want agreement from other people, not opposition in the form of the truth. Half the answers in this thread will say that they want honesty and that is it, but I just don't believe that.

 

[Josie]

You are perhaps the only person that I believe when you say that you want honesty, even though you may not like it. People go on like they would rather be told the truth over placating lies all of the time, but the TRUTH - since we are throwing that word around lol - is that they want to be placated. They want agreement from other people, not opposition in the form of the truth. Half the answers in this thread will say that they want honesty and that is it, but I just don't believe that.

Oh do I believe that. I have some friends.. they love to say they're brutally honest, take me or leave me blah blah blah. Then they sugar coat or flat out lie and I'm all.. what the hell is the point?? It's funny.. because it's never anything that really needs to be lied about. Then they ALSO say they want brutal honesty and if you are, they get in a snit about it lol. Most people can't even be honest about wanting honesty, let alone about being honest themselves. I get it, I really do.. but I really don't understand lying. What a world we would live in if it weren't possible.

 

[KellyValentine]

I would like to hear the truth but in a nice way that is not rude. If I'm gaining weight I wouldn't want someone to say I look like a whale. What exactly is a nice way to tell someone they are getting fat? I have no idea.

 

[WilliamRSIM]

I honestly like the truth. I have nothing to lie about since the only person that I can be is myself, despite what anyone thinks of me. I don't think a lot of people can handle the truth though nowadays. In these times if your truthful, your considered rude.

 

[kaiuk]

Some people prefer not to hear the truth. When a female says to you " do you think i am putting on weight?" What do you say? If you tell the truth and say yes, you will probably regret it for the rest of the week!

 

[Josie]

Some people prefer not to hear the truth. When a female says to you " do you think i am putting on weight?" What do you say? If you tell the truth and say yes, you will probably regret it for the rest of the week!

That's her problem for putting you in that position lol.

 

[Vegany]

I'd rather people tell me the truth. Nothing will change unless I know about the issues, and as a future social worker I feel empowered to change lives for the better. I can't ever know how to help someone or how to better a certain part of society unless people are completely honest with me about the situation and what resources they would like to see come in to make the situation brighter.

Although, for silly little opinions on artworks and things, I think it's better to keep negative thoughts to yourself, or at least be honest but also positive with constructive criticism.

 

[CyberGenius]

Well, I do want the truth because I know I can very much handle it. The truth hurts but having living in reality for so long as increased my resistance to its hurt. Although, I know when someone is not telling me the real truth, and if I've a realistic view of why they are doing so which I mostly do have, I help them to convey their lies to me better.

Having said the above it eats me up not telling a lot of people the truth about a situation, about what they are getting themselves into, about what I think about them and many more. I've come to the realization that a lot of people can't handle the truth because it hurts more than fire, they would rather you agree with them which isn't really good for them. But, who are my to hurt people deliberately with the truth?

You know I was talking to a female friend of mine yesterday, and during the conversation I said something about something she did which I'm sure she was aware of. But, you know when you've lied to yourself several times, sometimes the real truth becomes blurry. So, she wanted me to talk about it, but I waived it off because I knew she wouldn't want the real truth about that. This morning, she asked me again and I'd no choice but to talk about it. However, along the line, I saw that she wasn't comfortable with the truth and I'd to stop. However, the person who once wanted to hear what I'd to say, had no problem with me covering the talk up with another.

"The truth is strong and it's not for the weak minded."

 

[Firelily99]

I'd much rather hear the truth than be lied to. It can be brutal to have someone be totally honest with me but I'd rather know without a doubt than either wonder what was right or get the big lie.