Basic Instinct

[SilentEyz]

So I am watching this Show called Basic Instinct. Made up situations to see how people would react. One of the set-ups is a couple in the park with the Guy getting angrier and physical with the Girl. Some people stop and call the police, and some intervine on the girls behalf, Sadly, more women I4 had stopped to offer assistance then Men 5, I dont think thats due to any reason except perception of the situation,

But it makes you wonder what you would do. and how dangerous a situation like that could be.

a few years ago, we had a girl worked the customer service area of a local grocery store, her abusive husband came in and forced her to leave with him, they got outside the store where she argued with him that she was not leaving work, he kept grabbing her trying to drag her, a couple of guys stepped up on her behalf, and they both died for it. as did she.

It's sad that trying to do the right thing can cost you so much, but I wonder if they knew, would they do aything diffrent?

that to me was some of what I find amazing when watching this show, Is so many people walked away, because it was not their problem, they were afraid of what would happen, But of those that stopped to try and help, They knew that they could be hurt, and yet they still stepped up to try,

I wonder what I would do, I would like to say that I would step up, but..... the fear of something worse happening. I dont think I could just walk away, but its a bit scary to think of being put in the situation to have to decide.

 

[Bagel]

abuse agaisnt women i would probably call 911 and try to step in if nto to solve the problem but to at elast keep thigns from getign worse till the cops arrived. i would do the same in the sitiation involving a child. normally i stay out of other peoples buisness but if its gettign physical i woudl gladly get the shit kicked out of me to save a person from what usually is a long term abusive situation. physical wounds heal but the emotional scarring of emotional abuse is so much worse.

 

[SilentEyz]

abuse agaisnt women i would probably call 911 and try to step in if nto to solve the problem but to at elast keep thigns from getign worse till the cops arrived. i would do the same in the sitiation involving a child. normally i stay out of other peoples buisness but if its gettign physical i woudl gladly get the shit kicked out of me to save a person from what usually is a long term abusive situation. physical wounds heal but the emotional scarring of emotional abuse is so much worse.

Interesting that you specified that, because when they turned the tables and had a woman beating the shit out of a guy.. NO ONE stopped to say anything.

 

[Bagel]

..the 911 hting is if he is getting physical with her..and honeslty i woudl hesitate if it was woman beating on a man..i would try to figure out what the argument is abotu first..cause hoenstly..alot of the time men have it comming to them..but if its obvious unwarrented abuse gender doesnt matter at all.. another thign is if i had riley with me i would just make the call and try not to get invovled for the safety of my son

 

[SilentEyz]

Hmm.. proably should have put this in Debate.


a man is getting Hit and the assumption is he deserves it??? which is fair, because in that show that is why no one stopped, But why does a man deserve it.. Maybe the women getting hit deserved it...

It just strikes me odd, that people are ok with a man getting hit, but they find it wrong for a woman to get hit.

 

[lemon]

ive been wondering why society dictates that a man should never hit a women; yet, there is no set rule that does not allow a women to hit a man.

 

[TheOriginalJames]

Hmm.. proably should have put this in Debate.


a man is getting Hit and the assumption is he deserves it??? which is fair, because in that show that is why no one stopped, But why does a man deserve it.. Maybe the women getting hit deserved it...

It just strikes me odd, that people are ok with a man getting hit, but they find it wrong for a woman to get hit.

Generally yes. If you see a man being physical with his woman in public, it's safe to assume that's only half of what he does to her in private. Everyone has their breaking points, if someone doesn't call the police or step in to stop him from doing something, she'll eventually hit hers. There's some truth to that nickelback song, Never Again.

 

[mabreut]

Abuse is abuse, it doesnt have gender. A child, a woman or a man getting physical punishment is a violent crime that should be stopped, the question is are we ready for the consequences?, I saw a woman being pushed around by her husband in front of their children, I stopped and gave the man a dirty look, he looked back and using some fouled language walked towards me, I was so angry now, I didn't back out. The wife hanged on to his shirt and pushed in away from me. That night I didnt sleep thinking of the potential beating I was just about to receive. Would I get involved next time? I think I will. I can't live with the thought of walking away from abussive situations. My dad's fault. I guess.

 

[TheOriginalJames]

ive been wondering why society dictates that a man should never hit a women; yet, there is no set rule that does not allow a women to hit a man.

Because, generally, men tend to be the aggressors in relationships. There are far less reports of aggrivated/domestic assault with women being the assailants.

But, obviously, women are going to be prosecuted for assault just the same as men are.

 

[Bagel]

i could attirbute it to the way i was brought up..with the mental conditioning that men do not hit women..and its something i stand beside whole heartidly..i dont agree that men should be abused by women either but i do beleive it has been proven that men are alot more likely to be abusive.

 

[TheOriginalJames]

I'm the same as Bagel. I was raised with the value of never hitting a woman, and I've actually heard my dad say he absolutely detests men that hit.

 

[trope]

In my upbringing, it's pretty similar.

I was encouraged to scrap with my brothers, but if any of us hit my sister, even on accident... that was the end of it.

 

[White2000GT]

ive been wondering why society dictates that a man should never hit a women; yet, there is no set rule that does not allow a women to hit a man.

But there are rules against women hitting men. They're called laws. A woman can go to jail for abuse just as easily as a man can. The thing that is dictated by society is that if you are a man and you are being abused by your wife/girlfriend and you report it... well, that makes you a little bitch. That's the fucked up part.

 

[sharpies]

Coming home from my mother's house on Tuesday (Boxing Day), we were pulled up at a set of lights when suddenly this man pushed a woman over her pram & started to hit her. I pulled the car over while honking my horn & before I had stopped my wife & her mother & father got out of the car & went back. My daughter & her boyfriend also pulled over & he went back too.

They asked the woman if she was alright & she said that she was just embarrassed. They asked if she wanted a hand or for us to call the cops, she said no & then just casually walked away with him. Naturally through all this he was yelling abuse at them, telling them that he was a druggie & what did they expect when she hit him with the pram. She may have accidently run into him with the pram but he launched himself at her & hit her with a closed fist quite a few times.

She wanted no help, nor did she want the cops called & walked off with him - how the hell are we suppose to help in these situations? I truly hope that she learns before it is too late.

Allan

 

[Peter Parka]

Well call me old fashioned but hitting women is a complete no no for me. I'm not suprised at how many didn't get involved though. I caught some guy a couple of years ago beating the crap out of a woman. I intervened and restrained him and got a broken eye socket for my troubles. The Police were completely indifferent and the case didn't even get to court because the stupid Police "lost" the CCTV footage. :mad

 

[Trance97]

I think if I saw a girl getting beat up, I would tell the guy to STOP! If he looked at me wrong for saying that, I would run my ass away.

 

[lemon]

i was brought up never to hit a woman.. but, if they hit me, they should expect some smacks in return..

 

[alleycat]

I have a permit to carry a concealed weapon. If I had any inclination that she is in danger for her life, I'd step in. If he came after me I would cap him. Lol!

 

[Trance97]

I carry a knife sometimes.

 

[SilentEyz]

Because, generally, men tend to be the aggressors in relationships. There are far less reports of aggrivated/domestic assault with women being the assailants.

But, obviously, women are going to be prosecuted for assault just the same as men are.

not entirely true, Abuse towards men is not reported as often, but it is a growing statistic.