Sibling Rivalry?

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Are you currently feuding with your brother or sister?

I've feuded with my half brother on and off for years. I always try to be the bigger person and walk away. It's hard sometimes because I often feel the desire to teach him a lesson. However, "teaching him a lesson" will only cause back and forth drama and doesn't work. Recently he caused some bulls*** and I've blocked him on my phone and I've told my parents I'm through. I won't fight with him but I also don't want him in my life either. I just can't be nice to him anymore. He seems to only want to cause conflict and feed on the negativity. I'm 36 years old and he's 10 years younger than me and we both have kids. I wish he would realize that we're too old for this crap and try to make amends for the children, but no he won't get a grip and grow up.
 
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Until now I am very grateful because I am one of those who get along well with my siblings. We help each other when there are difficulties. We compete positively, we compete to please our parents.
 
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I have an older brother and an older sister… at some point I had some beef with my brother but over the years he has been the one I can rely on for anything where I need help - took me some time to learn and appreciate his presence as a father role model.

Don’t get me wrong we are very different people - he is an AType personality and I am just a straight asshole so when we clash it usually gets pretty rough - not punching his face tough, my mom would kill me if I did 😂 but we have learned to step back when arguments get heated.
 
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@Wessel …I’m so sorry that you cant find a better understanding in your relationship with your brother…but it takes two as they say …and he has to want that too and to be in a place in his mindset to work toward it and it doesn’t sound as though he is in that place…

…I have two older brothers, they’re both pretty wonderful in different ways…I don’t see so much of the younger one as his life is all about travelling so catching 5 minutes with him is always a bit tricky …but it’s lovely to catch up when we do, although as young children we did often clash….and the older of my brothers, well he really is perfect….I’m very blessed with siblings…
 
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Ammi said:
@Wessel …I’m so sorry that you cant find a better understanding in your relationship with your brother…but it takes two as they say …and he has to want that too and to be in a place in his mindset to work toward it and it doesn’t sound as though he is in that place…
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It has indeed been very frustrating. It has gotten to a very toxic level. I have accepted that it will never work out.
 
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I get along very well with my sister. As kids we were at each other's throats a lot, but as adults we've become very close and she's one of my best friends. Pzl5wJJ.gif
 
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I haven't spoken with my 2 brothers since 2021. My mom and I had a falling out, and I have, thus far, chosen not to attempt to repair the relationship. My focus since then has been healing and therapy, and my mental health has improved significantly. I'm just not sure I want to ever go back to where I was before, and without my mom seeking serious therapy, it's just too toxic. I'm sad that both of my brothers have chosen not to speak to me because of it, but honestly, I do understand. My mom would make things more difficult for both of them and try to make it their issue instead of hers and mine. It's easier for both of them if they're not involved.
 
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I and my younger sister had this sibling rivalry from years. It was fueled by my parent's picking a favorite child between them. We had to compete with each other because we felt one person was more favoured by our parents than the other. But we have grown to adults now and we have dropped that.
 
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We are 4 siblings, we sometimes have disagreements, we even go into a heated verbal war but in the end we all come to good terms. Sibling rivalry is common but it is not fierce in my case
 
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Sibling rivalry happens when attention or achievements cause competition. I’ve seen it create tension but also motivate growth. Encouraging fairness, individual strengths, and open communication helps reduce rivalry and builds stronger bonds over time.
 
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In my case sibling rivalry originated with my parents. My sister and I were treated so differently growing up. I was pushed towards achievement. My sister was unhealthy as a baby and was always babied by my mother especially after my dad passed away. I was punished for not making straight A's while my sister was celebrated for simply passing. My sister and I have never been close and I expect we never will be. We both seem satisfied not to try to improve our relationship.
 
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AUFred said:
In my case sibling rivalry originated with my parents. My sister and I were treated so differently growing up. I was pushed towards achievement. My sister was unhealthy as a baby and was always babied by my mother especially after my dad passed away. I was punished for not making straight A's while my sister was celebrated for simply passing. My sister and I have never been close and I expect we never will be. We both seem satisfied not to try to improve our relationship.
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While I don't have sibling rivalry, I can associate with your situations. I was a frail child and my elder sister hated me. She even pulled the cot to throw me into the floor. However, as we grew older, everything straightened out. Today, I am very close to her. sadly, for some people the rivalry remains lifelong.
 
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