andcuriouser
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Dysfunctional Family Relationships
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I can elaborate on that comment.
I think everyones family is dysfunctional in one way or another, some are just more than others.
Like my family is very self centered so I can pretty much write them off as actually being a family.
Not to get into a woe is me contest with people and I don't plan on reading the responses either. So any nasty comments will be worthless in this post because I'm not going to check to see what people wrote here.
First off, for reasons that take to long to explain, my father never wanted kids, so he was quite happy to see when everyone turned 18 and booted us out of the house and never wanted to really keep in contact. He treats us all, like it was our faults that we were born in the first place.
My father had a decent income, but only spent the money on himself and only provided for the kids as little as the law allowed. So while he has a den full of the latest expensive computers and electronic equipment the rest of the family lived like they were on General Assistance, which is half as much as Welfare. I would see others that were poor and think, "Well... At least you have a reason for not getting the clothes you need for school this year. Your parents can't afford it."
I grew up watching all the rest of the kids destroy their lives by turning to hard drugs. I made a vow never to follow their path. I spent the last fifteen years educating myself, and have acquired a I.Q. of 132. I had no interest in knowing, but a friend of mine thought it would be fun if I took the test with her.
I did pretty damb good the past 15 years with different management positions, but when the economy took a dump in 2001 so did my career. With having tons of employment experience, but absolutely noone to help me out, I'm still struggling to get a job. It's kinda hard when you have no money to drive around to all the job interviews.
I just thank god though that I have the intelligence to one day run a sucessful business as I have done when I was married. Which is another subject that I won't get into.
One last thing is that I struggle because I have the morels not to find any female so I can knock her up and have a kid for the Welfare check. That is what causes the overpopulation and drug problems we have.
Whew! For some lame ass reason, I feel better now that I wrote that. Actually, I've studied some Psychology, so I do know why it makes me feel better.
This is getting too deep!
Later!
I think everyones family is dysfunctional in one way or another, some are just more than others.
Like my family is very self centered so I can pretty much write them off as actually being a family.
Not to get into a woe is me contest with people and I don't plan on reading the responses either. So any nasty comments will be worthless in this post because I'm not going to check to see what people wrote here.
First off, for reasons that take to long to explain, my father never wanted kids, so he was quite happy to see when everyone turned 18 and booted us out of the house and never wanted to really keep in contact. He treats us all, like it was our faults that we were born in the first place.
My father had a decent income, but only spent the money on himself and only provided for the kids as little as the law allowed. So while he has a den full of the latest expensive computers and electronic equipment the rest of the family lived like they were on General Assistance, which is half as much as Welfare. I would see others that were poor and think, "Well... At least you have a reason for not getting the clothes you need for school this year. Your parents can't afford it."
I grew up watching all the rest of the kids destroy their lives by turning to hard drugs. I made a vow never to follow their path. I spent the last fifteen years educating myself, and have acquired a I.Q. of 132. I had no interest in knowing, but a friend of mine thought it would be fun if I took the test with her.
I did pretty damb good the past 15 years with different management positions, but when the economy took a dump in 2001 so did my career. With having tons of employment experience, but absolutely noone to help me out, I'm still struggling to get a job. It's kinda hard when you have no money to drive around to all the job interviews.
I just thank god though that I have the intelligence to one day run a sucessful business as I have done when I was married. Which is another subject that I won't get into.
One last thing is that I struggle because I have the morels not to find any female so I can knock her up and have a kid for the Welfare check. That is what causes the overpopulation and drug problems we have.
Whew! For some lame ass reason, I feel better now that I wrote that. Actually, I've studied some Psychology, so I do know why it makes me feel better.
This is getting too deep!
Later!
andcuriouser
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Oh, originally I had this whole rant written out, because on the weekend (before I posted this thread), I was at my Mom's and she ended up backhanding me in the mouth and giving me this bruise on my jaw, and people kept asking if it was Matt who was hitting me. I was pretty pissed off about it.
Then, I got it all typed out, posted it, and then thought about it for a while, and said, "You know what? Fuck it." So I deleted it. Hence the "nevermind". I just didn't have the energy to talk about it anymore.
But, I guess on that note, we could change this topic around. How is your family dysfunctional? Are they?
Then, I got it all typed out, posted it, and then thought about it for a while, and said, "You know what? Fuck it." So I deleted it. Hence the "nevermind". I just didn't have the energy to talk about it anymore.
But, I guess on that note, we could change this topic around. How is your family dysfunctional? Are they?
TheOriginalJames
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My family seems normal. But that's cause of some of the shit that's gone on in my friends lives and their families.
That's a funny thought. More likely it'd be you hitting me with your little girl paws.
My mom is a classic Jekyll/Hyde case. Shes a decent person most of the time, normal, you know? Then she gets into the bacardi, and suddenly she's a basket case with a short fuse. Last mother's day, she kicked me out of her house because i didnt share her opinion of something...cant even remember now. She also chucked her gift at me, without even opening it.
So I took it back, and bought myself some new shoes.
My whole family is disfunctional, including myself. It would take me days to fully explain the insanity that is my clan.
So I took it back, and bought myself some new shoes.
My whole family is disfunctional, including myself. It would take me days to fully explain the insanity that is my clan.
TheOriginalJames
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LMAO!
andcuriouser
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Kay, it's a really gross picture, but Matt isn't lying. I have the littlest hands.
PS: That little clip is NOT pornographic or suggestive. I was posing for someone to do a painting of. And then I realized that I have the hands of a 16th century courtesan.
peppermint
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There is no such things as a completely functional family. There are pretenders, but in reality they're very closed off emotionally. Interpersonal communication is a foreign language for them, and there are never any discussions about feelings, thoughts, or desires, outside of expectations. So don't fall for the functional lie. We're all dysfunctional to one degree or another. Your survival depends on your ability to recognize your own faults and manage them. You can't change anybody else, or manage anybody else's flaws. You can only point out their problems, and learn to live with them or declare that they are not acceptable before you move on. Before doing that though, it's good to remember that in any healthy relationship, the others involved are allowed to do the same for you.
I want to reply on all of your comments, but I guess I'll pick the one from the cutest person I've seen sofar on this forum. Oh, please don't think I'm tring to publicly hit on yah. Just throwing a visual compliment, outside of your cool sense of humar.
That pretty much say it all.
Sometimes it is very mentaly healthy to write a mini-book about your families past and present to make you feel like you expressed out your frustrations of the world. Then when you meet that special someone that you have a closer bond with than just a simple boy/girl friend that you picked up to have so your not alone, you can share it with them.
Damb! I get this Doctor Shrink thing going and I got to stop it! I'm sure in the minds of many people they feel that it is a turn off and it.........
STOP IT!!!!!!
That pretty much say it all.
Sometimes it is very mentaly healthy to write a mini-book about your families past and present to make you feel like you expressed out your frustrations of the world. Then when you meet that special someone that you have a closer bond with than just a simple boy/girl friend that you picked up to have so your not alone, you can share it with them.
Damb! I get this Doctor Shrink thing going and I got to stop it! I'm sure in the minds of many people they feel that it is a turn off and it.........
STOP IT!!!!!!
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