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The more I am kind to people, the more I get kicked in the teeth. No matter where I go.

I mean seriously....do I need to be a bitch or something for people to to respect me!
The nicer you are to people, the more they treat you like shit.

I think I am getting to the stage where I am starting to think.....
:gives: I will treat you, as you treat me!
 
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Well good morning Skorpy,respect is a funny old thing as it needs to be earned,but in that process i do like to be civil and act respectful to gain respect from people to.


Even if if you do not respect someone for some reason then being civil i feel should be a natural coarse of action as i for one do care how others look at me.

Have a good day,and do not get drawn into a path of not having manners,i am sure your better than that.:thumbup
 
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respect is a two way street, I agree with that. Why waste your energy on people who don't give anything back to you. I definitely think it's an age thing, I've come to a similar conclusion in recent years
 
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Skorpy said:
do I need to be a bitch or something for people to to respect me!
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Respect is earned, and not given by default for most people. Additionally, being a bitch would be the absolute last advice one could give you if you're looking for respect. Ask yourself, do you respect the people who are bitchy that you know? Probably not. Show people respect, and in turn you should receive it. :)
 
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Darrell said:
Respect is earned, and not given by default for most people. Additionally, being a bitch would be the absolute last advice one could give you if you're looking for respect. Ask yourself, do you respect the people who are bitchy that you know? Probably not. Show people respect, and in turn you should receive it. :)
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That is my problem. I treat people with respect, but certain people are not treating me as politely. Which is what makes me feel like I can't be bothered to be polite in return anymore.
People can be such nasty individuals at times. Makes me sad :(

But I under stand what some of you are saying about earning respect. This is to be expected.
 
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Skorpy said:
That is my problem. I treat people with respect, but certain people are not treating me as politely. Which is what makes me feel like I can't be bothered to be polite in return anymore.
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Unfortunately, Skorpy while reciprocity is expected when respect is given, some people are assholes, and won't be respectful either way.

Ignore those people, and keep being respectful. You don't want to sink to their level because other people will see that, and assume you're just the same as the person who isn't being very nice to you.
 
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I think the issue is coming at things with a defensiveness. When you let your guard down, be yourself, and start every interaction with respect a rude person is easier to shake off. Everyone encounters rudeness, it's a human condition.

But when you're at the ready to claw back at the rudeness, you're more likely to find it imo.
If that makes sense lol.
 
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That's on them, and we can't control others. What I try to do is really be appreciative of the good people in my life. If you're kind to me, or go above and beyond, I try my best to give that back and reinforce it.

Matching shit attitude with shit attitude only leaves...shit :D
 
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Yeah, I don't go out of my way to make life miserable for people. I mean who needs it. Life is for living imo.

Got to make the most of it, even if some days are rubbish

Just cba with some ppl lol :)
 
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There are ways to call a persons attention to rudeness without resorting to rudeness to do so. Several weeks ago, after an extremely hectic shift that was preceded by an extremely hectic shift, my relief person was being short with me when I was trying to hand over to her, she kept looking at the clock and sighing heavily.
Finally she sharply said something to me about the time and I said to her "You know I was getting report late like this last evening from the offgoing nurse but I don't recall being rude to her." I got an immediate apology and an immediate change in attitude. Interestingly, once I had completed my report, this person proceeded to sit around and socialize rather than getting on with her duties.
 
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