Do you have your "personal space"
- Thread starter Dana
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Yes it should matter... She gave me an attitude. If shed asked nicely i wouldve just moved back.
how the fuck am i to know wtf her boundaries are if i dont know her? she told me i was too close in a rude tone. I backed off but it still pissed me off.
You said that she told you that you were too close, and then she told you rudely to move. If that's the case, then you should've gotten the clue when she said what she did originally.
Past that, some people suffer from claustrophobia when it comes to being crowded in like that by someone, and she could've just reacted on more of a subconscious level than anything else. Neither one of those makes her worthy of being called a child or a bitch.
Well perhaps you give off vibes that scream "I'm a jerk."
If you come across the same way IRL as you do up here, I can see why she'd get pissy with you.
Just sayin'.
If you come across the same way IRL as you do up here, I can see why she'd get pissy with you.
Just sayin'.
every situation? you don't fucking know me.
Oh my fucking God dude... maybe in her mind she wasn't being rude, she was just forcefully letting you know that she wasn't comfortable with how close you were.
If you actually paid attention to the shit that you say, you might realize that your attitude is about always the same in these situations. You act as though how you feel about things is far more important than how anyone else feels. Or at least that's the way you portray yourself. If it isn't the case, then you need to explain yourself a bit better when you post shit like this.
First of all, I don't know who the hell you think you are, but I'm not one of these little girls you deal with that you can throw your attitude at and they think it's cute.
Secondly, as I've said before, all I have to go off of to get to know you is what you post in these threads on this forum. So when NEARLY every post is some crap about this girl being a bitch or that person being a bitch, what opinion am I supposed to form about you??
I have anxiety and claustrophobia. I don't do crowded places very great, but I've gone out on occasion with my friends so that I didn't have to sit at home alone. If someone was in my personal space, given my feelings, I would not think to be "polite" about it and consider their feelings. I would back up myself, if I could, or tell them that they needed to move.
Not everyone is perfectly comfortable with people being in their space. And it's not just because they're a bitch. You shouldn't assume you know everything about this chick based on a two second encounter you had with her.
I was not there to see what was happening but maybe she was giving you some cues to back out of her space before she copped an attitude.
like i said another guy friend was standing shoulder to shoulder with her
Right. And I don't mind someone who I know and trust being in that space. But that doesn't mean everyone can be in that space. I actually usually prefer to have someone I trust that close to me, because it buffers me from everyone else.
It's not going to be justified to you, so I'm not going to waste my time anymore. Just don't be so quick to judge people when you don't like it when people do it to you when they don't know you well enough. It's incredibly hypocritical.
You don't know who the hell you think i am? You're the one making assumptions and you have the audacity tell me I shouldn't be getting defensive? LOL Well, why don't you hit me up and talk to me then. Shit. you can only go by what you read and I assure you there's more to me than the stuff I post.
Was she chatting nicely to him? If so, theres your answer, she was interested in him...not in you. Thems the breaks:dunno
Im very much about personal space, If i dont trust you dont touch me or ill stab you its a simple as that
pretty much, in a nutshell.
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Seriously though Dana... I don't know why you take absolutely everything as a personal slight. Maybe she was repulsed by you and needed to come off strong to make sure that you actually left. Perhaps she has space issues with people she doesn't know very well. Maybe you had horrible breath and she needed you to back the fuck off lest she pass out from the odor. Who knows.
Whatever the case may be, you need to learn that people have personal space issues, and may or may not react badly when you invade their safety zone. It doesn't mean that they're rude, or a bitch, or anything else. It means that you've crossed over a personal boundary. Personally, I'd never think about getting within two feet of someone to try and have a conversation with them, especially since it makes me feel claustrophobic when other people do it to me. Keep a safe distance from someone unless it's obvious or they tell you that you can be closer than you are to have a conversation or whatever else.
they werent chatting like that. I wasn't even trying to flirt with her... we were both at the same bar...
God, I was simply venting. You all make it a bigger issue than it has to be. Some folks act like I'm frigging insulting them. Get a grip.