Should parents tell their kids the truth about Santa?

[satinbutterfly]

Yes I did...but you apparently missed what the poster in question posted....funny how that happens huh?

FYI ...I was simply doing the same....and I bellieve I've made my point. Thanks.

I didn't miss a thing, doll.

And no... thank you. The pleasure was all mine, I assure you.

 

[Guyzerr]

I just recalled a conversation I had with my parents when I was but a wee lad....

Guyzerr... Oh goodie... only two more sleeps and Santa will be here.

Parents... Um son... I think it's time we had a little chat.
Santa isn't real. He's just a made-up guy that we've taught you about to make Christmas a little more fun.

Guyzerr... WHAT! Santa isn't real? You're lying to me! I've got pictures with me on his lap.

Parents... Nope son it's the honest truth and we have to come clean. We lied to you all those years and now that you're a big boy it's time to realize all that shit that's been under the tree was put there by us. We worked our fingers to the bone so you could have whatever you wanted and now it's time for us to get some recognition and to hell with the fat guy.

Guyzerr... *** ponder...ponder ***

Guyzerr... I hate you... I hate you. It's not that I don't believe in Santa no more but I can never trust another word you ever tell me.. ever!









Ya right!

 

[sexysadie]

I didn't miss a thing, doll.

And no... thank you. The pleasure was all mine, I assure you.

On that we do agree....

 

[satinbutterfly]

I just don't see how lying to your kids and telling them Santa is real makes it any better for them. I loved tons of TV characters knowing full good and well they weren't real. Knowing Transformers really didn't exist didn't really take any joy out of watching the show or playing with them as toys. Why would it be different with Santa? Kids would still be able to appreciate him, but as a fictional character instead of a real one.

 

[Guyzerr]

I just don't see how lying to your kids and telling them Santa is real makes it any better for them. I loved tons of TV characters knowing full good and well they weren't real. Knowing Transformers really didn't exist didn't really take any joy out of watching the show or playing with them as toys. Why would it be different with Santa? Kids would still be able to appreciate him, but as a fictional character instead of a real one.

Are you telling us that you didn't believe in Santa when you were a squirtlette' ? Gimme an honest answer.

 

[satinbutterfly]

Are you telling us that you didn't believe in Santa when you were a squirtlette' ? Gimme an honest answer.

I did. I don't remember if I was upset that he wasn't real. Personally, I just don't believe it's fair to lie to children.

 

[All Else Failed]

Ok, lets settle down. You're all pretty.

 

[itsmeJonB]

am i pretty?

 

[sexysadie]

Myself? I can honestly say that I love the idea of Santa, I did as a child and I do now. Kids grow up so fast and before long they're out on their own either trying to finish their education or working hard to support themselves....the joys of Christmas past doesn't last long and while it's true, some of us may not have had such good memories, and while others would rather deal with the facts.....one way or another Santa will always play a big part in the holiday season. I'll never regret the time spent with my children at Christmas...whether we were putting out cookies and milk for santa on Christmas eve....or eating those cookies and milk before morning...lol...those memories will always be near and dear to me.

 

[Kyle B]

am i pretty?

No, you're Californian.

 

[Guyzerr]

I did. I don't remember if I was upset that he wasn't real. Personally, I just don't believe it's fair to lie to children.

When you found out he wasn't real what was your first thought? Probably not that your parents lied to you. I would venture a guess that nobody here ever gave it as much as a fleeting thought until this thread reared it's ugly head. I know I never did and I've been walking this earth longer than most here.

 

[Peter Parka]

Personally I think people blow up Christmas to be way more important than it actually is, it's a holiday that takes up 1 in 365 days of the year yet some peoples whole life revolves around it. I grew up in a fundy Christian family that didn't celebrate it, when I was a kid and while I now disagree with them, I really didn't miss out as much as a lot of you would think. We still did nice things, I got presents throughout the year and I knew my parents loved and cared about me, I had a pretty averagely happy childhood and I dont feel like I've hardly missed out because of not having Christmas.
I really cant understand why so many of you are getting your knickers in a twist about whether someone does or dosen't tell their kids that santa isn't real. It really isn't important at all.:thumbup

 

[satinbutterfly]

When you found out he wasn't real what was your first thought? Probably not that your parents lied to you. I would venture a guess that nobody here ever gave it as much as a fleeting thought until this thread reared it's ugly head. I know I never did and I've been walking this earth longer than most here.

I do remember feeling betrayed by my parents when it came to me finding out how babies really came about vs what I was told. But I don't remember how I found out about Santa or how I felt.

Personally I just don't believe there is any benefit to lying to a child about Santa. They will enjoy the stories and such just as much.

 

[Guyzerr]

Myself? I can honestly say that I love the idea of Santa, I did as a child and I do now. Kids grow up so fast and before long they're out on their own either trying to finish their education or working hard to support themselves....the joys of Christmas past doesn't last long and while it's true, some of us may not have had such good memories, and while others would rather deal with the facts.....one way or another Santa will always play a big part in the holiday season. I'll never regret the time spent with my children at Christmas...whether we were putting out cookies and milk for santa on Christmas eve....or eating those cookies and milk before morning...lol...those memories will always be near and dear to me.

I am in the same boat as you. Hey... I just thought of something.... me and you in a boat and I have the only life jacket.

Back on track... I think it's unfortunate that the kids of today find out much earlier than we did. I asked my 8 year old niece yesterday when she found out Santa wasn't real. She said last year. I could tell by the look on her face she was sad about it and I was sad for her.

 

[darkangel]

My daughter believed in Santa til she was old enough to understand that he was just a Christmas character based on a real person from way back when. All the kids her age believed in Santa and I think she believed til she was around 9-10 years old. If it's lying to make your kids childhood a nice one for them and not let them grow up so fast then I guess I'm a liar. But when I explained to her that he really didn't exist she wasn't the least bit upset. She actually asked me if she would still get presents if she didn't believe in Santa anymore. But that's how kids are I guess. *shrugs*

 

[Guyzerr]

I do remember feeling betrayed by my parents when it came to me finding out how babies really came about vs what I was told. But I don't remember how I found out about Santa or how I felt.

Babies and Santa don't belong in the same story.

Personally I just don't believe there is any benefit to lying to a child about Santa. They will enjoy the stories and such just as much.

I would bet my new non-stuttering wireless keyboard that you were disappointed when you found out. We all were and there's nothing wrong with that. It's part of life's mysteries and fond memories that last a lifetime as SS said.


This is a general statement and not directed at anyone in particular so don't get your fucking noise out of joint.....

The more I think about this, and other issues here of late the more I'm saddened by humanities attitude toward living. Life isn't simple anymore and people are as phony as a three dollar bill just to appease others. What the hell happened to us? Can't do this, can't do that. Can't say this can't say that. What a miserable life we're being forced to lead.

 

[darkangel]

Ok I just got off the phone with my daughter cuz I had to ask her about this. She can't even remember when she stopped believing in Santa. She emphasized that it was great when I lit a fire in the fireplace on Christmas eve and when she woke up in the morning Sanat left foot-ash prints across the floor leading to the tree. She said it was a great memory that she has about her childhood. So it doesn't seem to have affected her believing in someone that all the other children believed in. She said she wasn't upset finding out he wasn't real and doesn't see it as me lying to her. She said she plans on telling her son about Santa until he is too old to believe anymore. So out of a babes mouth this comes.

 

[Guyzerr]

Personally I think people blow up Christmas to be way more important than it actually is, it's a holiday that takes up 1 in 365 days of the year yet some peoples whole life revolves around it. I grew up in a fundy Christian family that didn't celebrate it, when I was a kid and while I now disagree with them, I really didn't miss out as much as a lot of you would think. We still did nice things, I got presents throughout the year and I knew my parents loved and cared about me, I had a pretty averagely happy childhood and I dont feel like I've hardly missed out because of not having Christmas.

Lot's of people don't celebrate Christmas and there isn't anything wrong with that. Then there are the ones that celebrate Christmas for reasons not even remotely associated with the true meaning of Christmas and that's the vast majority of the world. Then there are the people that celebrate it for the real reason based on their belief. What's right or wrong is for the individual to decide.

I really cant understand why so many of you are getting your knickers in a twist about whether someone does or dosen't tell their kids that santa isn't real. It really isn't important at all.:thumbup

It boils down to the other thread you and I got tangled up in Peter. Many people, actually the majority of people, are so pig headed about their belief that they fail to see or understand others points of view. Along with that the need to be politically correct to be accepted is paramount in today's society. That's where the mistakes are made.

 

[Stacey3]

I think they should tell them when they go to High School. So when they're like 11yrs old or something. Cus if they don't know by then, and they believe it... say some other kids are talking about it at school then they're gonna feel a bit stupid really..

 

[Guyzerr]

Ok I just got off the phone with my daughter cuz I had to ask her about this. She can't even remember when she stopped believing in Santa. She emphasized that it was great when I lit a fire in the fireplace on Christmas eve and when she woke up in the morning Sanat left foot-ash prints across the floor leading to the tree. She said it was a great memory that she has about her childhood. So it doesn't seem to have affected her believing in someone that all the other children believed in. She said she wasn't upset finding out he wasn't real and doesn't see it as me lying to her. She said she plans on telling her son about Santa until he is too old to believe anymore. So out of a babes mouth this comes.

It's nice to hear those stories but in reality they aren't necessary because all of us that believed in the fat guy are on the same page. All we have to do is look back on on our own memories and dispense with the bullshit.